I want her back is there a chance

[Forever isnt so long]

i am 19 years old. My girlfriend is 17 or should i say my ex-girlfriend. so my ex-girlfriend of one year on may 9. on our anniversary i made her a great dinner and she told me how she loved me soo much and would never leave me. then she broke up with me. but she did it in a way that was soo sudden that it was like ripping off a bandaid. it started when she was hanging out with her crew team at a pasta party and i was working. she called me and told me what she was doing and so on. i got really angry and jealious when i found out that she was hanging out with other guys at this party instead of the girls. then on saterday she spent all day with this kid that i really dont like. they spent all day together at a crew race. she called me and told me she was hanging out with him and everytime i called her she was with him. she said that he was wearing her crew shorts around and that really pissed me off. seeing as i was the one who bought them for her. then came sunday where the break up happened. she told me to my face that she wanted the freedom to go out with her friends and flirt with her friends and get phone numbers and so on. this hurt alot and i saw a break up coming soon. we argued for a little while and then she told me to leave i didnt leave and instead stayed with her at the crew race. she told me after the fight. "dont touch me, kiss me, or hug me." then she went over to this kid i hate gave him a hug and whispered in his ear. after the race she desided she was goin home on the bus because she needed to talk to a freind. not to my suprise it was this kid i hate. so i followed the bus home and the whole way home i knew what was goin to happen so im sitting there thinkin of why i shouldnt just flip my car and end it before she does. after i brought her home she called me and told me it was over. this crushed me. i sat in my room screaming and yelling i wanted to die. i told my mother on mothers day i wanted to just die. this hurt alot. the next day i heard that she and this kid were seen walking down the hall together holding hands. this also made it hard bc we had prom on that friday and she told me i couldnt go (even though she begged me to go so i bought the tickets and agreed to go).and that she was taking him instead. i had over 3000 dollars worth of plans lined up for her. but then on monday night i got pissed and went to her house where i asked for everything back and thats what i got everything. but i didnt want it all she gave me clothes, jewery, notes, cards, everything. what i really wanted was the ring i gave her for our 1 year, the dress i bought her for my uncles wedding coming up, and me hoodie for work. this made her really pissed off. but yeah they went to prom and she sat on his lap most of the night and the same happened at afterprom. then she and him went to her friends house for the night. now it took us about 2 months before we did anything so idk what happened but i kno it hurt. but now there inseperatable and always holding hands or huggin. Someone in the school also told her that i cheated on her when we were goin out which is not true but she believed. and she thinks im stalking her. which i dont think i am im just talking to people who talk to her and they tell me whats goin on. but the thing between her and this kid is weird because she told me she needed her space and she didnt want a boyfriend right now. she tells people that they are just friends but i dont know. i would do anything to get her back. i did everything i could for her and i want it to stay like that. I just want her back soo bad i would do anything. please help me.

I need to know what to do. i just miss her soo much and would do anything.

should i send a card/flowers/gift?

[4whatItsWorth]

Actions speak louder than words...and she's already shown she has moved on.

 

I KNOW it feels like love is the only one at 19. Been there, done that. The guy was a jerk and I was waaaay better off without him. Trust me, what she did was not a very nice thing. She was obviously making moves on the guy, and probably trying to make YOU break up with her by trying to egg you on.

 

I think you should forget about her. She will be sorry one day when she realised she lost such a great guy, but by then you will have calmed your emotions down enought to see her for what she really was.

 

Good luck in finding someone who won't treat you like nothing one second, and say she loves you the next.

[McFadden]

This really sucks. Just shows that no matter how well you treat someone they might just spit in your face. Deep down everyone only cares about thier own feelings and if they just 'aren't feeling it' anymore suddenly you don't matter and are nothing, they wouldn't even care if you killed yourself even though they "loved" you so much 5 minutes ago.

 

Anyway. You shouldn't send her anything or try to talk to her. Apparently she's already saying you're a stalker and you haven't even done anything yet, so contacting her will just add to that. She is young and it sounds like she just wants to flirt and be able to test out different boyfriends, maybe she was afraid things were getting too serious with you. Maybe she will regret it later, maybe not. The only thing you can do is ignore her and look like you are having a great time without her.