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amberwboone

Me and my ex have been seperated for about four months. It was a ugly seperation and I did not get through it easily! Well just in the past month I am actually getting that old spunk back...I met a amazing man. He makes me pretty happy. We are just at the dating status because i told him I wasn't ready yet for the whole deal.

Ever since my ex saw that I really had somebody with his own eyes he has been so sweet to me. It is almost like he cares about me again. He txts me all the time calls me. Although, if I ask if he wants to get back together he still says not yet. He is always making sexual comments to me about how he want to have sex with me.

I really need some advice. Is this him slowly changing his mind or something else....I am not sure what is the deal

Help me!

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Living_For_Me

I think he doesn't want you but he doesn't want anyone else to have you either. Kick this loser to the curb and find someone who will give you the respect you deserve.

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My advice? Listen to the previous post.

 

But this is what's really going to happen. You're going to keep posting till someone gives you the advice to chase the ex because that's what you really want to do and you're looking for justification. Deep down you know it's going to end up badly again but you can't help yourself. You are a heroine addict with a syringe dangling right in front of you. Behind you is a door to a better place, but you aren't going to walk through it. You will probably need to take 'one more hit' until you have almost died to possibly realize you need to get out of this cycle.

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Je Ne Regrette Rien

Its so lovely to be wanted amber, and you're human. If a person who you have loved/love turns the tables on you and shows feelings of care, its so easy to fall back into the relationship.

 

Maybe he saw the fact he was truly losing you to someone else and couldnt take the jealousy? Maybe your truly romanticising it because it feels so good to be wanted, and imagining that he wants you back, when in fact he just doesn't want you to want anyone else. In my book, he's controlling you. Boosting his own ego - "This new guy will never have the same effect I have on amber, she dropped him like a hot potato once I came back on the scene."

 

What you need to figure out is what YOU want. Do you want to reconcile with your ex? Do you want to see how your new relationship goes? Will it be possible to put the pain behind you? Are you willing to give your ex relationship one last shop and then feel okay if he walks away again? Think about you in all of this, not him. Dont give him the ego boost that he's obviously craving for.

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He wants you because he can't have you right now. The sexual comments are made because he wants to know he still has you on a string. And every time you ask him if he wants to get back together, he is assured of that fact.

 

Instead of paying attention to him start paying attention to yourself and your new guy. I don't think it's fair to anyone you are seeing now to be in constant communication with your ex.

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