father of children possible second chance

[confused_girl07]

I am really confused at the moment. I am seperated from my childrens father and we have been parted for nearly 9 months. We have 2 young children together aged 2 and 1 which he sees twice a week.

 

We both started seeing new partners within a few weeks of splitting up but things are not going well with either of our new partners and he has just decided to end it as she cheated on him.

 

We still very much have an attraction together and flirt every time we are together and we have spoken about getting back together in the last few days. I would love for this to happen as I do not feel happy in my new relatioship and would love to be a proper family again with the father of my children however there are a few probelms...

 

1) I stupidly moved my new partner in with me and he has got attached to the kids. I feel like a bad person if I split up with him as he will miss the kids and they will miss him. I also do not know how to get him to move out...

 

2) my ex does not know when he wants to get back with me. He said he wants to make it work properly this time and does not want to be responsible for me breaking up with my partner.

 

3) I am worried that we will get back together and realise it is a mistake and then I will be stuck myself again. My new partner helps me out alot with the kids as I have bad sciatica and I don't know if I can cope alone.

 

Any advice would be appreciated! Thanks

[rayblueline]

Sounds like what you want is to be with your children's father, not your new partner. There is no shame in going after what you want. You could just tell your new partner that you have decided to get back with your old partner and that he needs to move out. Simple as that. As for your old partner, make sure you get a commitment from him to help you with the kids before you get back with him. Let him know this is something that has to happen for you to be back together.