supposed to be getting married

[chickee]

I'm supposed to be getting married this weekend but nope, he delayed. I never wanted a traditional wedding to begin with because one of my parents died and I told myself I never wanted a traditional wedding. but, upon insistance from his family and a little from him, I did it.

 

I was so unhappy for so long planning this wedding. I was stressed, there were so many people telling me what to do, and I hated it. The wedding is cancelled now because he said I had changed because of the stress. Well, I didn't want it! I was being a good sport!

 

Now, we were going to move in together and he has delayed that, saying he needs to recover from this wedding stuff.

 

I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm being punished for something that I didn't want in the first place. He says he just needs to feel safe again because things were so bad for so long. What do you think?

[Touche]

There's really not enough information here for me to draw any real conclusions.

 

Are you still speaking to and seeing each other? Are you on good terms? There's nothing you can do about the wedding being delayed. If you can't even get along during this stage, then I think he's right to delay it. Marriage and life itself is much harder than just planning a wedding. How would you get through the trials and tribulations of life together if you can't get through planning a wedding together?

[Curmudgeon]

How would you get through the trials and tribulations of life together if you can't get through planning a wedding together?

 

My thoughts exactly!

 

I'd go a bit further and decidedly not move in with him either, even if that option remains open. It sounds likle there's little, if any, compatability and certainly a dearth of compromise.

 

I'm really leaning towards cutting your losses and getting on with your life. The alternative seems to be to knuckle under to his and his family's control for as long as you can stand it.