brunette4u Posted January 26, 2003 Share Posted January 26, 2003 Why don't guys call when they say they will? I met this guy the other night at a concert...we go to the same university, and we got along great. We danced the entire time, he even told me how much fun I was and how pretty he thought I was. : He was a genuinely nice guy, not the type just to try to have sex with me or something...He got my number, called me THAT night, to see what we were doing after the concert, and I told him I was tired, and I was going home, and he was doing the same...he said he would call the next night, BUT HE DIDN"T!!!! What does this mean, that he doesn't like me, do you think he will EVER call? Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted January 26, 2003 Share Posted January 26, 2003 YOU ASK: "Why don't guys call when they say they will?" There are many answers to this question. If you're going to live a happy life on this planet, get over it. Have the attitude that if they call back, great and if they don't you simply aren't going to worry about it. There are plenty more guys on the planet who will call in the future. Reasons to choose from: 1. They lost your number since the first call. 2. The excitement wore off already. 3. They are too busy calling other chicks. 4. They decided to do things with their guy friends. 5. They were killed or injured in an accident. 6. They didn't get the impression you were interested. 7. Their grandmother died in the meantime. 8. They got a notice they had to serve in the Army and get shipped to Iraq. 9. Their last girlfriend's pregnancy test came back positive. 10. They feel that if they wait a few days, you will go crazy...post on the Internet...wack out...and be lots more interested when they do call. 11. They decided to get back with their ex. 12. They have a girlfriend but just wanted to call you once to remember what meeting somebody new was like. 13. They are married. 14. They are a crossdresser and don't feel you would like to see them in a dress. 15. They had been drinking heavily when they first called and forgot whether they were supposed to call you or you were going to call them. 16. They had to go out of town unexpectedly. 17. They are nervous and trying to figure out what to talk about and/or wondering if you would really like to hear from them again. 18. They met someone else in the meantime. 19. They got grounded and can't use the phone for two weeks. and on, and on, and on!!! Why even bother yourself about this crap. Either you call them...or just forget about it. If they call, fine. If they don't, life goes on. Never, ever let your world center around somebody calling you or for anything else to happen...for that matter. If you spend your life waiting around for OTHER PEOPLE to do things, you give control of your life to others and that's not how it's supposed to be lived. Link to post Share on other sites
Reckless Posted January 26, 2003 Share Posted January 26, 2003 Have to agree with previous post. Your best option is to decide in your heart that the true reason he didn't call was in fact number five from Tony's list and try and imagine it in great detail. If the ensuing images move you to tears, it was true love and you have met and lost the man of your dreams and if the images cause you a inordinate amount of pleasure, you'll pass a pleasant evening trying to imagine the accident scene from all possible angles - either way you don't end up feeling bad about yourself. Of course in an ideal world no one would be waiting by the phone for a cute guy/girl to call but in reality we've all been there, so don't be too hard on yourself... just keep repeating to yourself, he would have called but he was bleeding from every orifice .... Link to post Share on other sites
wishiwasahottie Posted July 27, 2003 Share Posted July 27, 2003 [font=arial][/font][color=darkblue][/color] I know exactly how you feel. I met this guy about 3 months ago and I didn't know how much I liked him. Atleast not until he got beat up and then I realized how much I liked him. I moved about a month ago and he was really upset that i moved. He called me everyday once in the morning and then at night. Today has been exactly 3 weeks since I left and this is the first time he hasn't called me. I don't know if something happened to him or if he just didn't want to talk to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Ryan Posted July 27, 2003 Share Posted July 27, 2003 I met this guy about 3 months ago and I didn't know how much I liked him. Atleast not until he got beat up and then I realized how much I liked him. Huh??? Is anybody else picturing Lewis Black right now? If it weren't for my horse..... Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted July 27, 2003 Share Posted July 27, 2003 Today has been exactly 3 weeks since I left and this is the first time he hasn't called me. I don't know if something happened to him or if he just didn't want to talk to me. He's called you 20 days in a row and now you are stressing because he missed a day? Cut the poor guy some slack. Maybe his dialing finger is sore from all the calls. Link to post Share on other sites
Harrison Posted August 9, 2003 Share Posted August 9, 2003 Let's get one thing straight. Guys want sex when they first meet you, whether they let you know it outright or not. If you don't believe this, you are deceiving yourself. If a guy really likes you, he will date you - but this doesn't mean that he doesn't want sex from the very moment he met you (assuming he seemed interested in talking to you). There's nothing wrong with this - it's how God made us, that's all. It's up to you to determine if ALL he wants is sex, or if the two of you could actually enjoy spending time together, outside of having sex. Very few guys will wait until they are married to have sex - in fact I don't know one. As for why the guy didn't call you back - the other post addresses that quite well. Call him if you really want to know. Link to post Share on other sites
Paul Posted August 12, 2003 Board of Directors Share Posted August 12, 2003 Originally posted by Harrison Very few guys will wait until they are married to have sex - in fact I don't know one. I don't know anyone of Native American descent... does that mean they don't exist too? Do you have any sort of report or statistics you could provide a link to that supports your theory? Link to post Share on other sites
Ryan Posted August 17, 2003 Share Posted August 17, 2003 Guys want sex when they first meet you, whether they let you know it outright or not. If you don't believe this, you are deceiving yourself. I didn't know I was deceiving myself about myself. There was a time when I had the mindset where I would have sex with a particularly attractive woman as soon as I could. It was called high school. Now that I've grown out of high school...I've turned down offers of sex from some very attractive and very persuasive women. I don't get much satisfaction out of physical intimacy when there's no substance behind it. I prefer to have a woman give me all she has to offer. I leave the skin game to the boys of the world. There's nothing wrong with this - it's how God made us, that's all. I'm glad I'm my own god...so I can make myself as I see fit. Link to post Share on other sites
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