Starlight Starbright Posted June 4, 2007 Share Posted June 4, 2007 Ok, so i already started this thread about the email my ex wrote me in the coping forum. I got some great responses, but I'm still super confused. I guess because in that forum I didn't really make it clear, but deep down, as much as everyone says to forget about him, I do want my ex back (despite the fact that he he is now dating someone else). I know that right now might not be the time for us, but I can't let go of this gut feeling that one day him and I will end up together. If you are interested, please follow this link to read the email he sent: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t121054/ Now, I am torn between not responding, which is what most people (those on LS and my family and friends) recommend, and writing a short response. The response I am thinking of writing is kind of friendly, and not addressing ANYTHING about the relationship nor about how I feel towards him. He says that all he wants to know is what is going on in my life. I was thinking of writing 3-4 simple sentences. I would congratulate him on some of the stuff that he said has happened to him and just list some things I have been doing. In writing this, I will accomplish 2 things 1. I will call his bluff. If he really ONLY wants to know what is going on in my life like he so adamently states in the email, he should be satisfied to receive this information in my short, vague response. I would then go back to practicing NC. 2. I'll put the matter to rest, so that I don't have to wonder weeks and months down the line, what if I screwed up by completely ignoring him. I just don't want to shut the door on communication and then regret it later. Do you guys think that if I do want him back, will my decision to respond right now make any difference in the long run? Will any kind of response just make him be able to comfortably put me on the back burner? Will not responding possibly make him shut me out of his life forever? Link to post Share on other sites
baden Posted June 6, 2007 Share Posted June 6, 2007 If he loves you there are no limits a person would go to make it known and it wouldn't be vague. I would keep NC. He is dating someone else as you have said and there is no point in being friends with an ex...at least not at this point. Link to post Share on other sites
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