Can Anyone Relate. Pls Help

[garagegal]

THIS IS REALLY HARD TO WRITE BUT IM HOPING SOMEONE CAN ADVICE ME.

 

BASICALLY ME AND MY BOYFRIEND OF TWO YEARS SPLIT UP IN SEPT FOR A BREAK. FROM THE START, I HAVE GIVEN MY ALL WHICH IS WHY THIS IS SO DESTROYING FOR ME.

 

HIS FAMILY HAVE NEVER WANTED TO KNOW HIM AND HE ENDED UP MOVING IN WITH ME FOR A YEAR.

 

IT DIDNT WORK OUT COS HE DIDNT HAVE ANY WORK AND GOT BEHIND ON THE RENT, SO MY MUM TOLD HIM TO LEAVE,

 

THINGS WERE DIFFICULT AND HE MOVED INTO A HOSTEL BACK IN HIS OLD AREA,

 

NOW THIS IS WOT HAPPENED,

 

WE WERENT TOGETHER AT THE TIME BUT I GET A CALL FROM WORK TO SAY THAT HE HAS SOMETHING TO TELL ME.

 

ITS SERIOUS.

 

HE THEN PROCEEDS TO TELL ME THAT HE AND HIS EX HAD A ONE NIGHT STAND AND THAT SHE WAS NOW 3 MONTHS PRAGNANT.

 

IM SO HEARTBROKEN BECAUSE DEEP DOWN WE ALWAYS THOUGHT WE WOULD GET BACK TOGETHER BUT WOT CHANCE IS THERE NOW.

 

SHE TRAPPED HIM INTO IT AND HES NOT AT ALL HAPPY BUT SAIS HE WILL STAND BY THE CHILD AND DO HIS DUTY. WE ARE BOTH 23 YEARS OLD. HE SAIS IT WAS NEVER MEANT TO HAPPEN AND THAT IT WAS JUST A SHAG TO HIM.

 

I CANT POSSIBLY EXPLAIN HOW IM FEELING.

 

WE BOTH STILL LOVE EACH OTHER AND I SUPPOSE WOT IM ASKING IS, IS THERE ANY HOPE?

 

COULD I EVER GET BACK WITH THIS MAN.

ANOTHER POINT I SHOULD MENTION IS THAT HES TOLD ME HE STILL LOVES ME AND THAT HE REALISES WOT HE HAS TRULY LOST.

 

WHEN THE BABY IS BORN, THERE IS A CHANCE THEY MITE GET A FLAT TOGETHER FOR THE BABYS SAKE.

I ALREADY KNOW IF THAT HAPPENS, IT WOULD BE IMPOSSIBLE

 

THE BABY IS DUE IN JULY, AND I FEEL I HAVE HALF THE YEAR TO THINK ABOUT IT ALL AND THE OTHER HALF TO DEAL WITH IT

 

PLS SOMEONE HELP ME.

 

I LOVE HIM SO MUCH, BUT I ALSO KNOW THAT HIS EX HAS TAKEN AWAY THE MOST PRECIOUS THING IN THE WORLD AND THAT HE HURT ME MORE THAN I COULD EXPLAIN.

 

 

IM NOT AN IDIOT BELIEVE ME. I KNOW HE IS JUST AS BAD, BUT HIS EX WAS ALWAYS AN ISSUE BECAUSE HE WENT OUT WITH HER FOR 4 YRS AND MET ME WHEN THEY SPLIT UP.

 

THE MINUTE HE MOVED BACK INTO THE AREA SHE STARTED CONTACTING HIM AGAIN, THINGS WENT DOWNHILL FROM THEN ON.

 

I DONT WANT TO FALL INTO ANOTHER TRAP OF WAITING ONLY TO GET HURT, BUT THEN WOT IF HE REALLY IS THE MAN FOR ME.

 

MY LIFE SEEMS SO EMPTY.

 

CAN ANYONE RELATE TO ME

[Tony T]

His ex didn't take anything away from you and she didn't trap your guy either. He did it to himself. She did not put a gun to his head to get him to have sex with her. He did it either because he wanted to get his rocks off, he loved her, or both. So don't believe any crap this guy may give you. The fact of the matter is that you guys split up and he needed sexual relief.

 

People take breaks from each other because they don't want to be with each other, plain and simple. So you have a lot of responsibility here because you consented to this break.

 

Now, think hard. Why did the two of you need a break from each other. Something was obviously not right. Right now you feel the way you do because of his getting back with the ex and this pregnancy...otherwise, your feelings wouldn't be nearly as strong. There was a good reason you needed a separation, just remember that.

 

As far as hope for getting back together...of course, there's hope. But waiting around to get back with someone you once had to take a break from and who now is the daddy of another lady's kid is pretty nutty. Sit tight and, yes, of course, the two of you could get another chance. But meanwhile you've got a life to live and I hope you will take advantage of that. It only happens once.

[Ally Boo]

Nothing but time is going to make the hurt go away. After I found out about my ex...I lost like 30 lbs. It will get better. I'm so sorry you are hurting like this...just trying to imagine how you feel brings me to the brim of tears.

 

I actually did try to look past his...and it just was never the same after that moment he told me. Below is my post...maybe reading it might help.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?postid=73869#post73869