Dazed and confused...

[Crystal WillowStarr]

I need some advice ..

 

I've been dating my current boyfriend for 9 months now. I thought everything was great until out of the blue he told me he couldn't see me anymore. He said it was because his life was all confusing and he couldn't "cope" with a relationship right now.

 

Well, I was heart broken and crying and everything. He told me he'd give it some more time.

 

The next day he said he felt better. But that evening he said he really wasn't feeling any better and broke up with me again.

 

And now its two days later. This afternoon we got back together. But I can't stop worrying that he is going to break up with me again. I love him so much, and I don't want to lose him. And if he does break up with me again, I don't think I can handle it. I feel like I *need* him to be there. and in some ways I do need him.

 

Help?

 

- Crystal

[WildFire]

Hi,

 

You know what...it sounds like your bf needs some space to work out stuff in his life. you sound like you really love him..it's gotta hurt and be real confusing to you.

 

from my own personal view I'd say let him know it's ok, if he needs some space you can give it to him..if he needs some one to talk to you'll be there...if he needs help or counseling ..well see if there's anything you can do. I know thats putting lots on your shoulders...but there's gonna be a time in your life I'm sure when you can't cope with anything, including having a guy in your space and if you do this for him now then I'm sure one day by him or someone else it will be returned...what goes around really does come back to you.

 

let him know you don't want to break up again, let him know you don't want to loose him, but also let him know that if he needs some alone time, time to sort things out, you're there for him...and you'll give that to him, because you love him.

 

I hope this gives you something to think over...remember it's only my view, it's up to you to figure out whatto do.

 

ciao! and *hugs*

 

WildFire:)