old bf won't give up

[bedbe22]

I met this guy back in 2003. At the time I had just graduated high school and I was involved in a longterm relationship going on seven months. I met this guy where I worked and we became quick friends and eventually I ended my long term relationship to be with the new guy. I thought he was a great guy so I made the first move and I actually asked him out. We went out a couple times and we always a great time and we decided to date exclusively.

 

 

 

I was expecting that we would have a great relationship, but I was wrong. He didn't show me any love. He never kissed me or even cuddled with me. The only thing he would do is hold my hands, thats it. It was hurting me to the point where I getting anxiety attacks, I thought he didn't like me at all so I broke up with him.

 

 

Then about a year later we were talking again and he was trying to get back wtih me and he said that he really like me but he thought I would be moving, which I was supposed to but never did. In that time he went after me twice and at times I really wanted to be with him but I was afraid I would get hurt by him again. After awhile I found a good guy and we dated for a year and a half and then I get a call from on of my best friends and she tells me that my old bf wants me to call him.

 

 

I was curious how he was doing now, so I called him and we talked a couple of times. I can tell that he still wants me, why else would he ask about me after all this time? I let my phone run dry and then when I had it turned back on after a month and a half I found the he left me a message asking to meet him sometime to talk.

I can't do this anymore. I can never date him again after what happened. I think he's hopelessly in love with me. He's not going after me like he did before but it's probably just a matter of time, what can I do so he'll stop this once and for all?

[rockon]

I am a guy who was obsessed/is obsessed with a lady. Here is my advice:

 

Tell him your not interested in him. Tell him its nothing personal. Try not to tell him you want to be friends. Friends for guys like us hurts mostly, don't drag us along unless you really think it could work.

 

Eventually, the feelings in his head/heart go away and there will be other ladies out there for him. He thinks he needs you, but he doesn't.