DanielMadr Posted June 5, 2007 Share Posted June 5, 2007 What would you do if your best friends wife told you that she fantasizes about you and asked you to sleep with her? Stating that she is unhappy and wants leave him any time soon anyway. Some options: a) sleep with her and tell him b4 she will tell him b) sleep with her and stay quiet c) decline and shut up d) decline and warn him there might be a problem e) something genuine Link to post Share on other sites
BonneKarma Posted June 5, 2007 Share Posted June 5, 2007 I'd go with No. 4. If you sleep with your best friends' wife then you become the bad guy whether you fess up, or not. No. 3 only solves part of the problem because she's just going to find someone else. It would be a really tough situation to be in, having to tell my friend about these advances, but I think I'd like to know if my guy was hitting on my friends. There is always the chance that she'd lie and say it was the other way around, that you were hitting on her and she turned you down so you got mad and made up lies. I guess that's the risk I'd take. It would depend on how long I'd been friends with the person and how well they really knew me. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted June 5, 2007 Share Posted June 5, 2007 What would you do if your best friends wife told you that she fantasizes about you and asked you to sleep with her? Stating that she is unhappy and wants leave him any time soon anyway. Some options: a) sleep with her and tell him b4 she will tell him b) sleep with her and stay quiet c) decline and shut up d) decline and warn him there might be a problem e) something genuine Who cares what WE would do... What would YOU do? You're the person concerned here right? Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted June 5, 2007 Share Posted June 5, 2007 Be loyal to your best friend and tell her where she can stick it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DanielMadr Posted June 5, 2007 Author Share Posted June 5, 2007 Who cares what WE would do... What would YOU do? You're the person concerned here right? Who cares what I would do? I already did anyway.....the right thing of course....no need for applause, she wasnt particularly attractive and her request robbed her for the rest of points she might have. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted June 5, 2007 Share Posted June 5, 2007 ooh, wrong answer: " she wasnt particularly attractive" right answer would have been "I'm not about to do that to a friend, and her request robbed her for the rest of points she might have." Because a friendship often outlasts a "love" relationship and you don't do things to **** up a friendship. however, she must be caught between stupid and desperate to hit on you like that. Have you asked your buddy if things are going all right in their marriage? Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted June 5, 2007 Share Posted June 5, 2007 Who cares what I would do? I already did anyway.....the right thing of course....no need for applause, she wasnt particularly attractive and her request robbed her for the rest of points she might have. What if she was gorgeous... I bet you'd be fantasizing about her.. It would have changed everything right? Now that you know that, your 'friendship' will definitely change. Link to post Share on other sites
Topper Posted June 5, 2007 Share Posted June 5, 2007 I have been in this situation. In my case I was very attracted to a good friends live in girlfriend. She let me know that she was unhappy. She wanted out. She also told me she had always had a crush on me. If I wanted her all I had to do was ask. The situation really tormented me. I did want her. I also felt bad for Bill. Bill was crazy about Kathy. Most of our group of friends could see that they were not really good together as a couple. I told Kathy That I couldn't do anything untill she made a clean break with Bill. She did, but it still did not end well. About a month after kathy ended things. Bill made a 1/2 azzed atempt to kill me. He was out of his mind with rage and came at me with tire iron. Lucky for me he was drunk and I was sober. The only thing to do here is take the high road. Fu..king your best friends wife is not the high road. I would not tell the friend directly. he could turn it on you and you would be the bad guy hitting on his wife. Get another friend to tell him that he need to talk to his wife. Tell him that his wife is unhappy. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted June 5, 2007 Share Posted June 5, 2007 Sleeping with or dating a friend's woman should be 100% off limits. It is just something you don't do. Even if the woman leaves him you still don't date the woman that broke his heart. Some things are sacred and brotherhood is one of them. If you ask me you should try to get some proof that his wife is trying to cheat on him then tell him so he can have her out of his life. Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted June 5, 2007 Share Posted June 5, 2007 Sleeping with or dating a friend's woman should be 100% off limits. It is just something you don't do. Even if the woman leaves him you still don't date the woman that broke his heart. Some things are sacred and brotherhood is one of them. If you ask me you should try to get some proof that his wife is trying to cheat on him then tell him so he can have her out of his life. Good advice. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DanielMadr Posted June 5, 2007 Author Share Posted June 5, 2007 ooh, wrong answer: " she wasnt particularly attractive" right answer would have been "I'm not about to do that to a friend, and her request robbed her for the rest of points she might have." Because a friendship often outlasts a "love" relationship and you don't do things to **** up a friendship. however, she must be caught between stupid and desperate to hit on you like that. Have you asked your buddy if things are going all right in their marriage? I wrote I did the right thing as I write....I declined and warned him. And I would do the right thing anyway, hot or not...just it was easier this time She is drama queen at best. Things are horrible. But they are in denial or some martyr syndrome for years. They even pretend to love each other....saying it out loud....nobody believes it. They covered it up with a kid. Ppoor kid. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DanielMadr Posted June 5, 2007 Author Share Posted June 5, 2007 What if she was gorgeous... I bet you'd be fantasizing about her.. It would have changed everything right? Now that you know that, your 'friendship' will definitely change. It would make my decision harder thats all. No I havent fantasized about her. Our friendship lasts, not so good as before of course but reasonable. btw He tried to down play my integrity by the similar remark you did 'You dont find her attractive?' Like it matters. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DanielMadr Posted June 5, 2007 Author Share Posted June 5, 2007 I have been in this situation. In my case I was very attracted to a good friends live in girlfriend. She let me know that she was unhappy. She wanted out. She also told me she had always had a crush on me. If I wanted her all I had to do was ask. The situation really tormented me. I did want her. I also felt bad for Bill. Bill was crazy about Kathy. Most of our group of friends could see that they were not really good together as a couple. I told Kathy That I couldn't do anything untill she made a clean break with Bill. She did, but it still did not end well. About a month after kathy ended things. Bill made a 1/2 azzed atempt to kill me. He was out of his mind with rage and came at me with tire iron. Lucky for me he was drunk and I was sober. The only thing to do here is take the high road. Fu..king your best friends wife is not the high road. I would not tell the friend directly. he could turn it on you and you would be the bad guy hitting on his wife. Get another friend to tell him that he need to talk to his wife. Tell him that his wife is unhappy. Oh man, some tough shyt. Where is Kathy and your friend now? I told him directly. I warned him that she wants to leave him and asked me to have sex only to burn bridges or provoke some action. His wife then told him that she loves me and he was a bit angry that I down played it at first. Which I did not because all she wanted was someone to blame or to drag someone else(me) to her unhappiness and to humiliate her husband. I should have told him to dump her instantly. But I couldnt. I asked him if he loves her and he lied (he lies to himself) that he does, so I didnt suggest to dump her. Link to post Share on other sites
reef man Posted June 5, 2007 Share Posted June 5, 2007 What would you do if your best friends wife told you that she fantasizes about you and asked you to sleep with her? Stating that she is unhappy and wants leave him any time soon anyway. Some options: a) sleep with her and tell him b4 she will tell him b) sleep with her and stay quiet c) decline and shut up d) decline and warn him there might be a problem e) something genuine None of the above. You tell her to go to hell, then tell your best friend what she said. Link to post Share on other sites
reef man Posted June 5, 2007 Share Posted June 5, 2007 What if she was gorgeous... I bet you'd be fantasizing about her.. It would have changed everything right?. Not everyone is like you. thank god. Link to post Share on other sites
Topper Posted June 5, 2007 Share Posted June 5, 2007 kathy and i only lasted a short time. we had mutual lust and once that was out of our sytem, we saw that we were better friends then we could ever be as a couple. About a year later she met a guy that she fell in love with. The last I heard they were still married with a couple of kids and happy. Will and I avioded each other for years. I saw him at a collage alumni party about five years ago. We still do not speak. I do understand I violated a rule of brotherhood. Will was one of the other Vietnam Vets that hung out together in Collage. He teaches at the School now. I heard he married a former student of his a woman about 15 years younger then him it was something like his 2 nd or 3rd marriage. I wish both Will and Kathy much happiness. Link to post Share on other sites
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