Dookie_Dont Posted June 6, 2007 Share Posted June 6, 2007 A long distance relationship. The girl is great but even from far away I feel your trying to grip me. She wants me to do things with her, that I don't want to. It's basically up to me to go and visit her, it all relies on me. So I feel like I'm the only one trying, but really I guess its only up to me because of her family. We both talk about how we can close the distance, but its horrible because we don't want to ask it of either of us. But she continues to talk about moving here. She wants to escape. I want this to work, and I feel that it can. She says she does too. Infact we both feel that even though we just met, we "want" to fall in love with each other. It just all "clicked" and it's some of the scariest stuff ever. It just seems so unreal. I don't want to give up, but I'm scared to dedicate so much effort to a girl. When blah after writing this, I do see it really does all rely on me for now. This is my first long distance relationship. And its starting to get to me - already. I suppose fear comes with the game though right? I just don't know what to do, I'm rambling. But we got into a little arguement just now over how she dosen't like this or that, when really its who I am. So it constrains me. Eh, she dosen't trust me I don't think.... Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted June 6, 2007 Share Posted June 6, 2007 How physically far apart are you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dookie_Dont Posted June 6, 2007 Author Share Posted June 6, 2007 150 miles. Link to post Share on other sites
taiko Posted June 6, 2007 Share Posted June 6, 2007 Have you actually met, face to face? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dookie_Dont Posted June 6, 2007 Author Share Posted June 6, 2007 Yeah, and already intimate. I know 150 miles might seem like nothing to some peoples situation, but financially it can be difficult ya know? Link to post Share on other sites
DOA Posted June 6, 2007 Share Posted June 6, 2007 If you haven't already done so, and you're really serious about wanting to maintain the LDR (which means VISITS, yes!), then try to set a weekly/monthly budget of how much you need to save up over how many months until the date you actually plan to get in a car/hop on a plane, whatever, to see your sweetie. You can do 150 miles, trust me. Just keep track of your finances and STICK to your monetary plan. Unfortunately for me, my long distance has just doubled. I'm now separated from my loved one by nearly 9000 miles! Link to post Share on other sites
catrocks Posted June 6, 2007 Share Posted June 6, 2007 If you haven't already done so, and you're really serious about wanting to maintain the LDR (which means VISITS, yes!), then try to set a weekly/monthly budget of how much you need to save up over how many months until the date you actually plan to get in a car/hop on a plane, whatever, to see your sweetie. You can do 150 miles, trust me. Just keep track of your finances and STICK to your monetary plan. Unfortunately for me, my long distance has just doubled. I'm now separated from my loved one by nearly 9000 miles! I agree with this - 150 miles is totally doable if you save up and want to make it work enough. Arghh!!! 9000 miles!!! I thought I had it bad at almost 4000 miles! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dookie_Dont Posted June 10, 2007 Author Share Posted June 10, 2007 Shes an amazing girl, we went to school together and she found me on the internet after I had moved away. We spend the weekends together and actually this weekend is the first I didn't get to see her. And I'm lonely for sure. It was unavoidable she had to go on a trip. So it is do-able for sure, she wants to move here. She keeps talking about moving in with me, but its almost too soon. And as much as everybody would be like "TOO SOON" well yeah, it feels that way. She wants a serious relationship, she wants commitment - everything about this looks great. I'm just blown away how well it all clicks, its scary how far I am into her. I would be the one doing all the traveling and driving there, because I can spend the weekend with my folks while I spend time with her. Her parents won't really let her drive all the way here to spend the night. As far as I can tell they don't want to let her anyway, I think its her dad. I was thinking maybe getting her to help out with gas. But I'd feel bad to ask about that, but like now she wants to move here. And as too soon as it feels, I think it could work. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dookie_Dont Posted June 18, 2007 Author Share Posted June 18, 2007 Update: Things are going great, but once again its basically me on the financial end of this situation getting it hard. I try to tell her that I'm in trouble on my finances and that I can't afford it and I need her help. She agreed to help me pay for gas to get there and back because so far we've been seeing each other every weekend. But although she has said she would, I've yet to get anything. Instead she buys me stuff like Dvds and food, things like that - they aren't really necessary. When she does this I feel bad to ask for gas money. But my expenses are pushed, and I'm riding a fine line. I guess I'm going to have to show her that either I get help on gas or I can't come see her as often. And if I don't get this under control now, I won't be able to see her for a while. ================== Oh yes, and another question!! When is a good time to have the talk about who is going where to bring each other closer. Its either I go there, or she comes here. When do you have the talk!? Link to post Share on other sites
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