Forever isnt so long Posted June 6, 2007 Share Posted June 6, 2007 i know it hasnt been very long only about a month. but i feel like she has completly forgot about me. like she has moved on while im stuck in a spiralin depression. she seems happier now that im not in her life. like the break up hasnt even affected her. i havent talked to her or seen her since the break up but this is what mutual friends tell me. she is always with this one kid who i hate but there "just friends" i mean she seems like she doesnt even notice im gone. i just want to kno if shell ever come back. when ever we used to get in fights i was always the to come back and try to make things better. but now that we broke up completly i dont want to crawl back because im affraid ill chase her away. but i have the urge to so that i dont lose her and she doesnt think i dont care anymore. i dont want to lose her but shes not the kind of person who ever comes back it seems. but what if shes the type of girl who wants to be chased what if shes sitting home and waiting for me to call. and i dont so then she decides that i dont care so she moves on completly. i dont want to lose her but i dont kno what to do its all so new to me. i love her to much to lose her completly. somebody help me Link to post Share on other sites
learning2luv Posted June 6, 2007 Share Posted June 6, 2007 I definitely believe you should take it easy. How long have you been apart? Do you really want to be in a relationship where she (as serious as you have been) is still trying to play games, aka being chased. I think you just let it relax and if she loves you, then she'll find her way back. Speaking from experience I have found that the more effort you put in at the wrong time will drive her farther away. Obviously she isn't with you right now for a reason, so let her be. As hard as that may sound, you have to be patient, she knows your good qualities, you don't have to keep telling her what they are. Unfortunately, there isn't much you can do, but what might be the best is doing nothing. Not playing games, or stuff like that, but just letting her have her time in the sun. If you can make it through the course, and not be bitter then maybe there is a chance. But being overly aggressive at this might stir up additional resentment. All good things come to those who wait. Good Luck! Link to post Share on other sites
NorCalDave Posted June 6, 2007 Share Posted June 6, 2007 I definitely believe you should take it easy. How long have you been apart? Do you really want to be in a relationship where she (as serious as you have been) is still trying to play games, aka being chased. I think you just let it relax and if she loves you, then she'll find her way back. Speaking from experience I have found that the more effort you put in at the wrong time will drive her farther away. Obviously she isn't with you right now for a reason, so let her be. As hard as that may sound, you have to be patient, she knows your good qualities, you don't have to keep telling her what they are. Unfortunately, there isn't much you can do, but what might be the best is doing nothing. Not playing games, or stuff like that, but just letting her have her time in the sun. If you can make it through the course, and not be bitter then maybe there is a chance. But being overly aggressive at this might stir up additional resentment. All good things come to those who wait. Good Luck! I completely agree with this. I went through the same thing with my ex, and I chased her at exactly the wrong times. She ran from me even further. If they are not contacting you and needing space, GIVE THEM THAT SPACE. If you don't, you will only push them further away, which is what you don't want to go for. Even if they are seeing someone new, pursuing them will only make them run faster from you. Respect them enough to let them go. If things were meant to be and she has love for you, she will find you again in time. But you have to be strong and wait for that time to come. She will give you signs. She will eventually get in touch with you. But only if you let her go now. Link to post Share on other sites
madgun68 Posted June 6, 2007 Share Posted June 6, 2007 The advice you've been given so far is the best course of action you can take. Any move you make in the hopes of getting her back very well could backfire and just push her that much further away from you. Just focus on you right now. Find something that you enjoy that'll help you take your mind off her. The more you think about her, the harder it is on you. Read, go to the gym, build up closer friendships.. Whatever works for you. Link to post Share on other sites
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