Kamille Posted June 6, 2007 Share Posted June 6, 2007 I don't know what's wrong with me these last few days. Or even weeks. Last month I had a short fling with a great guy, it didn't work out because he wasn't over his ex and was in the mist of some crisis and I was really proud of myself for having the lucidity to walk away. But since then I have been caught up in a windstorm at work and I haven't really had a chance to go out and have fun and I suddenly am wondering if I did the right thing by walking away and why couldn't he at least make a bit more of an effort and am I perhaps intimidating because of my career and why is dating so hard and will I ever find anyone and why doesn't it ever work out, etc etc etc. I just really miss having someone to share my life with. Instead, the one thing I have in life is my career and while it is very fullfilling, I'm starting to realize it can be very isolating. To top it all off I can't seem to find friends to go out with when I do have a minute to myself as they all have bf, jobs and families. I know I need a vacation. And I am hoping to be able to take a few days off at the end of June. But what could I do to snap out of it? (By the way, in a few minutes I am forcing myself to go to the gym). And I need all the hugs I can get. Link to post Share on other sites
polywog Posted June 6, 2007 Share Posted June 6, 2007 Just a bad wave in your biorythm. It'll pass. Up & downs, I know all about 'em. Hugs, girl, ((((Kamille))) Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted June 6, 2007 Share Posted June 6, 2007 I don't know what's wrong with me these last few days. Or even weeks. Last month I had a short fling with a great guy, it didn't work out because he wasn't over his ex and was in the mist of some crisis and I was really proud of myself for having the lucidity to walk away. But since then I have been caught up in a windstorm at work and I haven't really had a chance to go out and have fun and I suddenly am wondering if I did the right thing by walking away and why couldn't he at least make a bit more of an effort and am I perhaps intimidating because of my career and why is dating so hard and will I ever find anyone and why doesn't it ever work out, etc etc etc. I just really miss having someone to share my life with. Instead, the one thing I have in life is my career and while it is very fullfilling, I'm starting to realize it can be very isolating. To top it all off I can't seem to find friends to go out with when I do have a minute to myself as they all have bf, jobs and families. I know I need a vacation. And I am hoping to be able to take a few days off at the end of June. But what could I do to snap out of it? (By the way, in a few minutes I am forcing myself to go to the gym). And I need all the hugs I can get. BIG BIG BIG HUGS! Yes I think a vacation would be good... go away on your own for a weekend or a week if you can... all by yourself... pamper yourself.. treat yourself to the best restaurants, go shopping... get something nice. Just go walk in the nature, sit by the water, read... Give yourself some time.. it will happen...when you're not looking for it. Plus don't doubt that you made a bad decision about this guy, you made the RIGHT decision... Exercise is amazing when you feel depressed. No need for Prozac if you exercise regularly... it releases something in the brain... it's all good. Cheer up! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kamille Posted June 7, 2007 Author Share Posted June 7, 2007 Thanks Poly and Lizzie. Exercise did help a lot and then I forced myself to go out on my own and I ended having fun. But I wake up feeling sad. I remember waking up feeling happy, energized, ready to tackle a brand new day. I think I'm going to drop out of the dating scene and try and focus on being happy on my own again. Link to post Share on other sites
Lights Posted June 8, 2007 Share Posted June 8, 2007 *hugs*. Hope things get better. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kamille Posted June 8, 2007 Author Share Posted June 8, 2007 Thanks Lights... Well... I spoke to the doctor and the solution is fairly simple. He thinks I'm having a burn out... Nothing a few weeks vacation can't fix... I'm contractual so I can't have a work leave, but starting mid-june I'm gonna have smaller work weeks and I'm trying to negociate with my various employers to see how much vacation time I can take in July (2 weeks minimum). I feel kind of relieved. All this time I thought my emotional turmoil was disturbing me at work and it turns out it's the opposite... My work is keeping me emotionnally turmoiled... Oh my god, I'm going to be on Vacation so soon! Link to post Share on other sites
mammax3 Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 Awesome! It's great you have the ability to be flexible with your work. And your vacation time is coming up fast! Enjoy it Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 Thanks Lights... Well... I spoke to the doctor and the solution is fairly simple. He thinks I'm having a burn out... Nothing a few weeks vacation can't fix... I'm contractual so I can't have a work leave, but starting mid-june I'm gonna have smaller work weeks and I'm trying to negociate with my various employers to see how much vacation time I can take in July (2 weeks minimum). I feel kind of relieved. All this time I thought my emotional turmoil was disturbing me at work and it turns out it's the opposite... My work is keeping me emotionnally turmoiled... Oh my god, I'm going to be on Vacation so soon! I have over 4 weeks of vacation saved up. In fact, I'm maxed out in terms of how much I can gather up, and so time is being lost. I've also noticed a steady state of irritation of varying degrees and a decrease in performance and motivation. So I can verify that a vacation will do you some good. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kamille Posted June 9, 2007 Author Share Posted June 9, 2007 Awesome! It's great you have the ability to be flexible with your work. And your vacation time is coming up fast! Enjoy it Thanks. One more week and I'm on the four day work-week and three more weeks and it's Vacation time! Dreaming up vacation plans and non plans (going to read a book at the beach) is cheering me up already. Unfortunately, right now, it's Saturday, it's sunny and I am sitting in front of the computer working. I definitely bit more then I can chew this year. I've also noticed a steady state of irritation of varying degrees and a decrease in performance and motivation. So I can verify that a vacation will do you some good. Yeah I can relate. I've been very irritable and highly unmotivated lately. And to that I might add that I've also been very emotional. And then I feel guilty about not being focused at work which only contributes to making things worst. Can you take some time off soon Johan? Link to post Share on other sites
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