Angela Posted January 31, 2003 Share Posted January 31, 2003 I am 22years old and have been on the 'dating scene' for about 3 years now. I am currently finishing my law degree and modesty aside probably have above average looks. However, I have never had a relationship that lasts longer than one month; I tend to pick up really good looking guys I don't know very well, we fool around, and I never hear from them again. I do enjoy going out and having fun but am sick of this merry-go-round of rejection. I would probably be able to find a 'boyfriend type' if I lowered my standards but without that sexual 'bang' at the beginning, I just don't see the point. I have been seeing this one guy for about 3 weeks now and really started to like him but he hasn't called in a week now despite the fact that I've left a message on his machine and he seemed really keen on our last date. I want ANSWERS but will not lose my pride by attempting to contact him again when he has clearly lost interest. I value my independence but have never had someone who likes me as much as I like them. I don't understand why everything turns to s**t. I am sick of going out every weekend and setting myself up for rejection. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted January 31, 2003 Share Posted January 31, 2003 Well, at least you take responsibility by admitting you set your ownself up for rejection. First, be sure you don't have halitosis, body odor or any other turn-offs you may not be aware of. Do whatever you can to ensure your breath is clean and fresh. Secondly, you are at the age and you seek the population of very good looking guys who are players. They can have any girl they want, they know it, they are shallow minded and sewing their wild oats. They will spend their young years at the buffet of beautiful women just having a good time...from female to female. Either you have to get used to what you've been going through by ceasing your expectations and not putting weight on any particular man or you can seek out males who are a bit older, a bit more stable and who have already done the playing thing Thirdly, there is a chance that many of these spaced-out, empty-brained studs are intimidated by your intelligence. And to top it off you are finishing your law degree at age 22....quite an accomplishment in itself...so you are probably extremely intimidating to these young tots. Perhaps you shouldn't disclose so much about your educational pursuits right up in the beginning. If you don't set out with any particular expectations, don't take on the "demeanor" or a law student, and just enjoy the ride however long or short it may be, it's very possible you will have much better experiences with men...particularly the older ones. ZEN SAYING: "A good traveller has no particular destination and is not intent on arriving." Listen to the message and you will arrive. Oh, to answer your question, there is nothing wrong with you. And I ask the court to enter that into the record. Link to post Share on other sites
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