Amurra Posted February 2, 2003 Share Posted February 2, 2003 I just do not know when is the typical time to meet his friends. They all know about me, and he has talked to them about me, but has not asked if I want to meet them. They all went out tonight, but he did not even ask if I wanted to join him, or anything? So. I was wondering at what point should I be meeting his friends?? Please Help! Link to post Share on other sites
Kat Posted February 2, 2003 Share Posted February 2, 2003 I met my daughter's father's friends when I moved interstate to live with him. Kinda had no choice, I had none of my own. My current partner and I were friends before we were lovers and therefore had all the same friends. If it looks like you will be part of his life for a while I think it is best if you meet his friends. Just casually bring it up in convo. "These friends of yours (or add a name of someone he talks about) when do I get to meet them, I am intrested to find out the people who are so much apart of who you are" It isn't exactly a serious step but it is an important one for any relationship and a simply question will let you know Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted February 2, 2003 Share Posted February 2, 2003 To me, this is a very serious issue. There has got to be some reason why he doesn't want to introduce you to his friends. They are a major part of his life and you are just sitting out there somewhere. You didn't say but I'm assuming this is a guy you've been dating for a while. Sounds to me like he doesn't consider you very permanent in his life. Makes you feel real good, doesn't it? He's a rotten creep as far as I'm concerned. Kat's a real sweet lady suggesting that you ask him about this. I personally wouldn't remain with a somebody I had to ask...under these particular circumstances....leaving you behind while he goes out with his friends on a Saturday night. Also, in his defense (maybe), if all these friends are male he may want to keep his relationship separate from his macho buddies for male-type reasons...especially if he's young. IF this group that went out last night included women, his failure to bring you along is not a good sign. Take Kat's advice and talk to him. Find out why he won't make some introductions. And don't listen to any BS or doubletalk. If you don't like what he says, the door is the one with the knob on it. Link to post Share on other sites
yani Posted February 6, 2003 Share Posted February 6, 2003 EVERY GUY'S VIEW ON THIS IS DIFFRENT. I HAVE HAD GUYS TAKE MONTHS AND SOME TAKE DAYS. THE GUY I AM DATING NOW HAS ALREADY INTRODUCED ME TO HIM MOTHER,GRANDMOTHER, ABOUT A DOZEN COUSINS, AND HIS FRIENDS. HE EVEN GOES OUT OF HIS WAY TO DO SO BY BRINGING THEM BY MY HOUSE. THIS MAKES ME FEEL SPECIAL LIKE HE IS PROUD OF ME. IF THIS IS BOTHERS YOU LET HIM KNOW. HOWEVER HIS TIME WITH HIS BOYS IS HIS TIME I WOULD NOT TAKE OFFENSE TO TAHT. Link to post Share on other sites
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