Teacher's Pet Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 Yep.. That's how long it took for me to get dumped. At least this time we had 5 dates, and I got to touch her in a womanly place. Notice I'm making light of this, because really, I just want to throw myself off a bridge, but then what good would I be to anyone? For once, I think I'll just spare LS my whiny, self-hating ramblings. -tp considerate. loving. caring. funny. outgoing. intelligent. romantic. sweet. sexy. and "not what she was looking for". Link to post Share on other sites
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 5 dates in 6 days and 12 hours? TP, well done for putting a smile on a rotten moment. She has absolutely no idea what she's missing, you're better off without Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 Warning: I am drunk and should not be posting. Seriously, TP? 5 dates in 6 days?? What's goin' on there, buddy? Who was initiating these dates? And what womanly place were you touchin'? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 9, 2007 Author Share Posted June 9, 2007 Mainly her. She asked me out on our first date, and followed up with "When can I see you again?" In fact, I'd say 4 of the 5 dates were initiated by her. She also invited me to meet her parents (would have been tonight, actually)... So.... wasn't me "rushing things". Just rushed out. -tp really, really not feeling well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 9, 2007 Author Share Posted June 9, 2007 When I have my head together, I'll make my usual long whiny post. I'm going over to a friend's house for some female-type sympathy. I'll cry and post about it later. -tp start the pity party, daddy's home! Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 Like your haiku I hope as you were reaching up her skirt you didn't call her hooha her "snatch." I'm sure she wouldn't appreciate that love language. Hang in there, TP. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 9, 2007 Author Share Posted June 9, 2007 Didn't have to reach up it. She was spread eagle in the back seat of her car, "open for business", so to speak. She even learned why a girl in a miniskirt should NEVER bend over in front of my face, either And trust me, no where in the sounds that followed was a single complaint. Yeah, I'm still good like that. -tp ha. i'll be as dirty as i wanna be. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 i'll have to give you lessons on how to be more of bad boy Link to post Share on other sites
underpants Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 TP I am sorry to hear about that. At least you got to see a lady part. Actually though when I read the amount of contact so early in getting to know someone, it felt a bit ...rushed. Some people (men and women) rush things and it usually ends up ....ending soon. It's like fast fowarding to the end of a movie. Or having that I don't even really know you and we are naked together feeling....and that can give some a reason to bail. I know you said she initiated most of the dates, but every day contact, that early in getting to know someone might be kind of too much. No air of mystery so to speak, no room to let them think about you and miss you. Also, no time to really figure out what they are about and if you even want to know them better. See where I am going? I don't think you need to be a bad boy, just a bit more cautious, a bit more elusive. This can be sexy. Don't give up you snatch so easily, that will really make a girl wonder. You are a cool dude and I am sure like buses, another will be along any moment now. Regards, Unders ---just making conversation at the bus stop with a nice stranger. Link to post Share on other sites
MagnoliaJane Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 tp, I am not sure what to say... Maybe only this: I don't think real love comes along so fast. Remember how long it takes to build a real friendship? It takes even longer to build a real love. All the rest is infatuation (so to speak). My point is: next time, keep grounded. We're all sitting here and well... sitting here (so far). Don't get desperate. Love yourself more. There, I said it. Link to post Share on other sites
AriaIncognito Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 Wow I'm sorry A friend of mine has this issue with men, actually, and I wonder if it's similar. She recently dated a guy hot and heavy for a week, then he basically dumped her, saying he wasn't ready or whatever. Maybe there's something to be said for remaining "hard to get" for a little while. Either way, we've still got your party on 6/23 to celebrate :-) Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 We'll get 'em next time, champ. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 Sorry TP.. There will be another 'round the corner Link to post Share on other sites
dr strangelove Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 Look tp I know you will ignore what I write but what the heck Are you ready for something serious with this lady? Let me tell you what I think is happening here. Ive had a little experience with a similar situation I think she really likes you, but by the sounds of it the dates have probably only been sexual. And as well you mentioned she contacts you. I would probably wait a little while, til next week and either call her (if she hasnt called you by then) or go by to visit her Now im assuming that you have never got her a gift, right? Now if you go visit her, I would take her a gift and say either.. I meant to give this to you they day you didnt want to see me anymore or dont say anything. I know you are confused by her putting out so quickly, but at this point she is too and now she mostly likely thinking "does he want me for more then sex?" Spanish women whom I have dated a few, very passionate and complex women. They seem very strong and tough, but they have a deep female side that responds well to romance and poetry. So dont give up just yet, but you should approach her on a different angle where sex is put aside for a little while and appeal to her other senses You will hear from her again or if you contacted her im sure she will be happy to hear from you. Another possibility is that you said or did something, which of course you wouldnt mention here. In any case, the war is not lost. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 9, 2007 Author Share Posted June 9, 2007 we've still got your party on 6/23 to celebrate :-) I think I'm gonna need you again like on New Year's Eve. You know what really sucks? She wouldn't stop talking about how sweet you, S, and J are. At least she knows enough to realize THAT much. Well, you did say you'd marry her if I wasn't going to, so... here's your chance. -tp always a bridesmaid. Link to post Share on other sites
AriaIncognito Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 I mean no disrespect by this but... If you need me in the same way over HER as you needed me on NYE over your ex, then you've gotta learn to slow waaaaaaaaaaaaaay down. Dating someone for 6 days shouldn't send you into what I saw on NYE....so I sincerely hope you rethink this... Don't let this one girl throw you for a tailspin. You've been meeting people and dating, which is way more than I've done, so seriously, cut yourself some slack and stop looking at each new date as "the one" and just look at them as "someone i'm getting to know and maybe someday it'll be more"... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 9, 2007 Author Share Posted June 9, 2007 June 30, 2000: H leaves me, 9 hours after I got laid off my job. (5 1/2 year relationship) June 19, 2006: B leaves me. (10 month relationship) June 7, 2007: A leaves me after 6 1/2 days. All I have to say is.. F*CK YOU, JUNE! F*CK YOU AND YOUR 30 DAYS OF SH*T! I'll NEVER be a June bride. -tp according poor tp's almanac, beaver season is now 7/1 - 5/31. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 according poor tp's almanac' date=' beaver season is now 7/1 - 5/31.[/quote'] It looks like to me that it should be 6/7-6/31.. the 3 weeks in June.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 9, 2007 Author Share Posted June 9, 2007 I mean no disrespect by this but... No, you are absolutely right, and my next post was to be on this topic, so here it is... It's not the loss of a 6 day relationship that's hurting me so much. It's the loss of a year of healing. You remember me from a WEEK into my breakup with B...you remember how I was. I've spent a year reclaiming my self-esteem and my confidence. Without those, I'd never have gone on ANY dates. I can even honestly say I built up a pretty good wall around myself. Thankfully, my dates over the last year have been mostly along the lines of PooPoo Girl, so it wasn't exactly hard "fighting off the feelings". Problem is, A was the first one I went out with that actually felt *right* being with. I'm very used to going out with someone and thinking "Ehh". This one was VERY different, and I guess I allowed her inside a little much. I guess for someone like me who is very emotional and sensitive (take note, girls heh heh), I've done pretty well this last year, especially since I NEVER broke NC with my ex. What hurts is that after all I've done to better myself, I realized I'm still very much vulnerable to being hurt. I feel like I let myself down, and allowed that wall I've worked so hard on to get crushed so easily. I'm not hurt because A left me. I'm hurt because *I* left me. The "new me" that everyone "loves" really let me down, and the OLD me was allowed to resurface. I'm not proud of some of the thoughts I've had over the last 24 hours, but trust me, they weren't pretty. It just feels as if everything I've worked so hard for has been for nothing, because now I feel the way I did that afternoon in June when we were talking on Yahoo for the first time, and then my phone rang....... you know the rest of what happened. It feels like THAT all over again. It's not A's fault. She was never anything less than a lady about everything, unlike B. Actually, she let me down rather easy, I have to admit, but still..... it feels like B all over again. I'm not mad at anyone but myself. I just feel like when B crushed me, she really did some permanent damage, because even a year later, those feelings are back now and they shouldn't be. I've been too "good" this last year to have to go back to "that place" again, and now I'm there. I feel like an injured athlete who came back to the roster, only to re-injure the same wound. Problem is, in the world of dating, your heart is the equivalent of your "pitching arm". Without it in sound condition, you will always be vulnerable to getting hurt again. I guess for now, I'm going back on the DL. -tp sent to the showers Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 9, 2007 Author Share Posted June 9, 2007 It looks like to me that it should be 6/7-6/31.. the 3 weeks in June.. lol no.. Beaver season will be anything NOT in June. Hunting beaver in June seems pretty bad for me.. -tp it's wabbit season! Link to post Share on other sites
AriaIncognito Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 June 30, 2000: H leaves me, 9 hours after I got laid off my job. (5 1/2 year relationship) June 19, 2006: B leaves me. (10 month relationship) June 7, 2007: A leaves me after 6 1/2 days. All I have to say is.. F*CK YOU, JUNE! F*CK YOU AND YOUR 30 DAYS OF SH*T! I'll NEVER be a June bride. -tp according poor tp's almanac, beaver season is now 7/1 - 5/31. D and I broke up (time number one LOL) on 6/21/06. My ex B and I (4 years live in) broke up in June as well but I can't remember the exact date. Somewhere in the 20s. It is sufficient to say that june sucks. But then again I've broken up with someone in most months by now...so...lol. And to art critic, there aren't 31 days in June. LOL. Come on tp, you should have caught that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 9, 2007 Author Share Posted June 9, 2007 And to art critic, there aren't 31 days in June. LOL. Come on tp, you should have caught that. Sorry. For some reason, the calendar on my wall doesn't have this "June" think you speak of in it. -tp is it July yet? Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 TP, am I missing something? Why did she break things off? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 9, 2007 Author Share Posted June 9, 2007 Because a guy who's caring, attentive, romantic, sensitive, appreciative, affectionate, generous, intelligent, and funny is not what she is looking for, apparently. Well, that's basically what she told me. But at least she reminded me that I'm such a great guy. -tp that and a dollar will get me 4 quarters. Link to post Share on other sites
underpants Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 I guess, I hold a grudge against Canada. Well, really just one dude who was born there, but somehow it makes it easier to hate a whole country full of very nice people who managed to produce one man who was awesome, but ....wasn't that into me. .....I don't really hate Canada, but I do boycot their ginger ale. TP, I don't see how you let yourself down. I just don't. You are dating again. This is a huge step in moving on and getting where you want to be, eventually. It's the journey my friend. I decided that I have to make the most of mine. I don't want to be sad anymore and I don't like seeing you beat yourself up, even a little for realizing you have the capacity to care about people. This is not a fault, even if it may have been misplaced, or given too soon. You date and you learn whether or not you kindness is warranted. Eventually you figure out how much of it is safe to give. The dance of seduction if you will. I think we are all starting to figure out that it is not just about getting our 'target' to really want us, but to really start looking at the target as something we really want to aim for. Go dance you funny seduction. If it is one thing I feel from your post is that you bounce. You will bounce from this one. Regards, Unders Link to post Share on other sites
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