Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 9, 2007 Author Share Posted June 9, 2007 If it is one thing I feel from your post is that you bounce. You will bounce from this one. Of course I'll bounce. I'm fat. -tp but oh, so cuddly Link to post Share on other sites
dr strangelove Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 That box of donuts that you have hidden under your bed that she calls you. but in the mean time enjoy your lamenting as you wont take any action Link to post Share on other sites
passionpeach Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 I am sorry to hear about what happened to you man. But then I agree with the other people who posted replies on this thread. Things happened so fast that it is hard to consider that the emotions that flooded from both of you was indeed love. Maybe you should try being friends with her first. Stable relationships start with really good friendships. Rushing into it just kills the flame. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 jersey girls are easy to get they say the darndest things. Throw some game on these women and ull be swimin with the best in no time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 9, 2007 Author Share Posted June 9, 2007 I just got back from the laundromat, where I seem to do some of my best thinking. I've decided that I truly don't believe this is over yet, BUT, because I believe that, I'm not going to pursue it, either. For a brief period, I let "the old me" come out again, and I've decided to put a very quick stop to that. Yes, I care very much for this girl, but I love ME more. I'll let her come back to me, because she KNOWS I'm worth it. I have too much going on in my life to "chase" a skirt (no matter how short it is). She knows how to find me. -tp i don't chase, i am pursued. Link to post Share on other sites
dr strangelove Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 quote "-tp i don't chase, i am pursued." well... Thats not what I hear from your neighbourhood ice cream truck guy Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 I just got back from the laundromat, where I seem to do some of my best thinking. I've decided that I truly don't believe this is over yet, BUT, because I believe that, I'm not going to pursue it, either. For a brief period, I let "the old me" come out again, and I've decided to put a very quick stop to that. Yes, I care very much for this girl, but I love ME more. I'll let her come back to me, because she KNOWS I'm worth it. I have too much going on in my life to "chase" a skirt (no matter how short it is). She knows how to find me. -tp i don't chase, i am pursued. chasing and pursuing... it should not be one way or the other it should be give and take.... ok TP sit in your rocking chair.... do your laundry.... love yourself.... and wait. or you could stop feeling sorry for yourself and stop waiting for good things to happen and decide that you are able to make them happen. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 9, 2007 Author Share Posted June 9, 2007 I'm going to make things happen by LETTING them happen. I have a history of acting on impulse. For once, I'm going to let nature take it's course. If it doesn't work, it's not the end of the world, but for once, I'm going to let someone else do the work. No woman is worth grovelling over, but a part me likes to think differently about myself. And I truly believe I'm worth it. -tp taking a stand Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 I'm going to make things happen by LETTING them happen. I have a history of acting on impulse. For once, I'm going to let nature take it's course. If it doesn't work, it's not the end of the world, but for once, I'm going to let someone else do the work. No woman is worth grovelling over, but a part me likes to think differently about myself. And I truly believe I'm worth it. -tp taking a stand Noone thinks that you should grovell...Yes what will be will be true. You are worth it, but by no means is a relationship one sided... someone else should not have to do the "work" it should be done together. I understand that you will let things happen... so I agree not to try to hard. Any man wants to be made to feel like he is special... Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 What did she say to you when she broke up with you ? What was her reason ? Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 TP, sorry to hear about what happened. My breakup month is October. And thats when my birthday is. Last two Rs ended a few weeks before my birthday. Boo. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 Because a guy who's caring' date=' attentive, romantic, sensitive, appreciative, affectionate, generous, intelligent, and funny is not what she is looking for, apparently.[/quote'] women aren't looking for that no matter what they may say....they are looking for masculinity and confidence... Of course I'll bounce. I'm fat. I agree that being condescending towards one's self is quite funny but it won't get you many women... Yes' date=' I care very much for this girl, but I love ME more..[/quote'] how can you care for any person in such a short time? I have a history of acting on impulse. You'll get more women with patience and by having a more aloof attitude... Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 After seeing this go down without hearing what she dumped him for I would say that things went to fast and TP was too available. Something tells me that TP used humor as a coping mechanism and she saw right thru that.. I think you just went too fast TP.. You needed to at least have had those 6 dates over 2-3 weeks and not all in one week. She never even got a chance to see you how you really are.. relaxed.. 6 dates in one week means a lot of stress and facade on both sides.. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 I think you just went too fast TP.. You needed to at least have had those 6 dates over 2-3 weeks and not all in one week... I would suggest 6 dates over 6 weeks....but thats just my MO. Link to post Share on other sites
AriaIncognito Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 I saw them on date number, 3 I think? Maybe it was 2. I dont know. Anyway... From my observation they were both very relaxed. Neither was too attentive to the other. She was getting to know us (his friends) and we were getting to know her a little and conversation in general was flowing well between all parties. Now, do I think it went too fast, yeah I would agree. They seemed to spend a ton of time after he worked together, and well, that can make some flee, and make some want more. I guess for her, it was the former. I can honestly say I didn't see this coming though, from what I observed of her actions towards him, she definitely seemed into him. Anyway, just sit back tp. You've been working daily since 5/19. You haven't had time to chill out, let alone start a relationship. I don't know that you've seen the last of her, but don't put your eggs in one basket. I mean heck, D keeps coming back to me and where has that gotten me? 1 year later and I'm still not over him. So, don't wait around. Sometimes, moving forward is best and if it's meant to happen, it will. That's what I'm trying to tell myself. In the meantime, enjoy your friends and family and try to chill. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 Ariawoman and TP- forgive me for being so forward (actually its downright nosy), but is there any chance you could be more than friends? Link to post Share on other sites
AriaIncognito Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 I would suggest 6 dates over 6 weeks....but thats just my MO. For once I think I agree with alpha. When you're just starting to date someone, it's best to keep it to once a week. Maybe twice but that can be stretching it in the beginning. Now, would I say 6 dates in 6 weeks, maybe not. I'd think if you see eachother weekly for like a month, you'll know if you wanna step it up a little. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 Ariawoman and TP- forgive me for being so forward (actually its downright nosy), but is there any chance you could be more than friends? Actually its none of my business. Sorry guys. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 I have always correlated Speed = Number of times you see each other. The more the relationship progresses the more you see each other till the point you are seeing each other every day. In TP's case there was no way to speed it up as they were already going as fast as it could go from day 1.. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 I believe I did state on another one of TPs threads (after he said he'd gone out with her six days in a row) that a relationship that starts that fast ends even faster. Link to post Share on other sites
AriaIncognito Posted June 9, 2007 Share Posted June 9, 2007 Actually its none of my business. Sorry guys. No, there is no chance that we can be anything more than friends, but thanks for asking lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted June 10, 2007 Share Posted June 10, 2007 Oh Tp, When are you going to realize that you and ariawoman love each other, Ariadne Link to post Share on other sites
AriaIncognito Posted June 10, 2007 Share Posted June 10, 2007 No offense ariadne, but I think I'm a good enough judge to know if i love someone romantically or not. Just because people are friends doesn't mean they automatically want to run off and get married. At least, not in my world. Take off the distortion glasses and realize that a man and woman can be friends without being destined for marriage and the like. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 10, 2007 Author Share Posted June 10, 2007 Ariawoman and TP- forgive me for being so forward (actually its downright nosy), but is there any chance you could be more than friends? Oh boy, that question again. lol Sure, there's a chance, just like anything in life has a chance. But no, we are just really, really close friends. Like I don't see myself marrying her, but I'd give blood to save her life and stuff like that. And being that I'm deathly afraid of needles, that shows how much she means to me. We do slap each other on the ass quite a bit, but that's the limit of our intimacy. Besides, what could I possibly do with a gorgeous blonde with full lips who looks like Reese Witherspoon? -tp wait, I think I know THAT answer. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 10, 2007 Author Share Posted June 10, 2007 Oh Tp, When are you going to realize that you and ariawoman love each other, Ariadne Well, my dear... We DO love each other, but not in the way you are wishing we did. And as always, of course, the wish for our mutual happiness is quite appreciated, but our paths to happiness do not merge in that fashion. In other words, don't expect her to become Mrs. Pet anytime soon. LOL But you sure as hell should know when I finally con some chick into marrying me, Ariawoman will most certainly be in my wedding party in some shape or form. -tp bachelor party at Satin Dolls! Link to post Share on other sites
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