sb129 Posted June 10, 2007 Share Posted June 10, 2007 Thanks for the goodnatured explanation, I wasn't 100% sure of what your guys history is, thats all. Of course men and women can be friends without wanting to get married. I just wondered if this wasn't an east coast version of stargazer and tanbark??!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
madgun68 Posted June 10, 2007 Share Posted June 10, 2007 Besides, what could I possibly do with a gorgeous blonde with full lips who looks like Reese Witherspoon? -tp wait, I think I know THAT answer. Oh come on. You definitely know the answer! Link to post Share on other sites
AriaIncognito Posted June 10, 2007 Share Posted June 10, 2007 Thanks for the goodnatured explanation, I wasn't 100% sure of what your guys history is, thats all. Of course men and women can be friends without wanting to get married. I just wondered if this wasn't an east coast version of stargazer and tanbark??!!!!! Our history is, we both got dumped about a year ago, came to the site, happened to notice we were in the same state and decided to actually meet. The rest as they say is history. I introduced him to my circle of friends (since they all live up in his area) and he's become part of the circle. As for the reese thing, yeah I wish I looked like her. I do have the full lips though, all real. I was so ahead of my time. My whole life I tried hiding them, then they came into style. Yes. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted June 10, 2007 Share Posted June 10, 2007 Thats a great story! Gaining a friend is always a bonus, even if its thru something as painful as a breakup. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 10, 2007 Author Share Posted June 10, 2007 As for the reese thing, yeah I wish I looked like her. I do have the full lips though, all real. I was so ahead of my time. My whole life I tried hiding them, then they came into style. Yes. When were full lips NOT in style? I remember back in high school staring at chicks with full lips, wondering what they'd feel like when applied to various parts of my anatomy. Once in a while I've been lucky enough to find out. B had very thin lips, but she also had a flat ass too..... somehow, I made the most of it. LOL I need a girl with a round ass and full lips (and a few actual days off from working to appreciate them!) :) -tp i like big butts, and i cannot lie. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 10, 2007 Author Share Posted June 10, 2007 Our history is, we both got dumped about a year ago And of course, the one year anniversary of my dumping is in 9 days. The following Saturday shall be the social affair of the century, right here in beautiful Passaic County, New Jersey. And as always, everyone from LS who's in (or might be in) the area is most welcome to come out and party with us. We're talking karaoke here! :) -tp glowin' like the metal on the edge of a knife Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted June 11, 2007 Share Posted June 11, 2007 I'm confused here. After the 6th date she just came out and said "you're not what I'm looking for" How did the conversation end at this? I want answers and details dang it! Link to post Share on other sites
AriaIncognito Posted June 11, 2007 Share Posted June 11, 2007 I want them too allina and i'm supposedly his best friend LOL. He's not been around to talk with all his bartending... Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted June 11, 2007 Share Posted June 11, 2007 I want them too allina and i'm supposedly his best friend LOL. He's not been around to talk with all his bartending... as his BFF it's now your job to drag his butt over here and demand an explanation Link to post Share on other sites
oppath Posted June 11, 2007 Share Posted June 11, 2007 I got dumped after 6 months and all I got was "it's not you, it's me. I don't know who am and need to find myself, but if I wanted a relationship with anyone it would be with you" and it was a broken record, no matter how many times I said "I don't understand what that means." I wish I were told "I don't think we are right for each other," which is how I translate "you're not what I'm looking for." Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted June 11, 2007 Share Posted June 11, 2007 I'm confused here. After the 6th date she just came out and said "you're not what I'm looking for" How did the conversation end at this? I want answers and details dang it! I know! This just sounds so outta left field - I want answers too!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
AriaIncognito Posted June 11, 2007 Share Posted June 11, 2007 I got dumped after 6 months and all I got was "it's not you, it's me. I don't know who am and need to find myself, but if I wanted a relationship with anyone it would be with you" and it was a broken record, no matter how many times I said "I don't understand what that means." I wish I were told "I don't think we are right for each other," which is how I translate "you're not what I'm looking for." Oppath - i dont think it really matters how we are told, we all hear what we want to hear anyway. If you dont want to believe that you're being broken up with, you'll believe whatever anyway. My ex told me he just didn't see it going anywhere romantically, yet I heard "someday I'll fall in love with you, so take me back when i come". So... lol Link to post Share on other sites
oppath Posted June 11, 2007 Share Posted June 11, 2007 Well, it doesn't matter what someone tells you. If they break up, they are saying they don't want you in their life! I think sometimes we want the perfect answer, the perfect closure, when it's right there in front of us: they break up with us. That's all the closure you need. It's over. They aren't right for you. With my ex, I'm only repeating exact words, not what I "heard." I specifically said "if you don't feel we are right for each other, just say it," and she said she couldn't. Anyway, this isn't about me, only to illustrate that this girl isn't right for him, even if he did move things too fast. She broke it off, all he can do is walk away. Maybe she'll come to her senses in a week or two, but there is no use holding on to false hope. Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted June 11, 2007 Share Posted June 11, 2007 Thanks for the goodnatured explanation, I wasn't 100% sure of what your guys history is, thats all. Of course men and women can be friends without wanting to get married. I just wondered if this wasn't an east coast version of stargazer and tanbark??!!!!!I don't understand how men and women can be friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 11, 2007 Share Posted June 11, 2007 I know! This just sounds so outta left field - I want answers too!!!! we kind of all have asked him and he doesn't seem to want to reply to our posts about what she said or why she broke up with him. Link to post Share on other sites
AriaIncognito Posted June 11, 2007 Share Posted June 11, 2007 I don't understand how men and women can be friends. It's quite easy. Are you attracted to every person of the opposite sex that you meet? If you are, then I'd guess you can't be friends. Most people aren't attracted to every other person, so friendship is indeed possible. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 11, 2007 Author Share Posted June 11, 2007 I don't understand how men and women can be friends. Well, you can use me and Ariawoman as a case study. -tp just no needles, please Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 11, 2007 Share Posted June 11, 2007 I don't understand how men and women can be friends. i agree B4r....each person only has a limited amount or time, energy and resources and if you're wasting it on being "friends" with the opposite sex then that leaves you less resources to spend on finding lovers. aquaintances is fine, but friends? no way. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 11, 2007 Author Share Posted June 11, 2007 Very simple... She claims I was "moving things too fast". However... SHE asked me out on the first date. SHE asked "When can I see you again?" SHE initiated 75% of the physical/sexual contact. SHE claims that I "moved to fast" by introducing her to my friends on the 3rd date, HOWEVER, she invited me to dinner with her FAMILY. I think there's a HUGE difference there. The funny thing is, she was supposedly "mad" that I had her meet my friends, yet she couldn't stop raving about how great they are and how she couldn't wait to get to know them better, etc..... Here's something I didn't think about until last night: About 3 weeks before we met, she was seeing someone. Apparently, this guy was a jerk and dumped her. So now, I'm looking at this whole situation as being a "rebound" for her, but who knows..... She constantly told me how great it was to be with someone who actually complimented her and appreciated her, "for once". One of my friends said it sounds like she "fell too hard" for me and got scared, but who knows... I have a good feeling this isn't over yet, of course, I'm not exactly holding my breathe waiting, either. Time will tell...... And of course, throughout all of this, I have not had a day off from work since May 18th, so I'm really running on ZERO energy, physically, mentally, and now emotionally....... My next scheduled day off from working is June 23rd (my party), so I'm hoping to just keep it together until then. Beyond that, I go to a 6-day work week, which I can handle. -tp overworked, underlaid Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 12, 2007 Share Posted June 12, 2007 SHE asked me out on the first date. so? you say i'm not free until next wknd. SHE asked "When can I see you again?" and you reply "next wknd"... SHE initiated 75% of the physical/sexual contact. that means squat... HOWEVER, she invited me to dinner with her FAMILY. your reply should have been "I don't meet family until i've been with someone for at least six months..." dude...women test you all the time to see what you're made of. you failed the tests. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 12, 2007 Author Share Posted June 12, 2007 Being new here, Italia, you aren't used to my umm..writing style. So I'll leave that part at that. As for my party, she was really not aware of the "theme" of the party, other than it was me trying to get as many of my closest friends together as possible..... After all, a lot of the purpose of the event is to also "celebrate" the NEW me, regardless of how or why I changed....... But anyhow..... I'm thinking a lot of it is the "rebound" thing, since she was just dumped 3 weeks ago by another guy...... I'm not really overly concerned about it, to be honest, since I have plenty of amazing friends, a great new job, and frankly, no time for games. -tp unless you wanna buy me a Wii. Link to post Share on other sites
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted June 12, 2007 Share Posted June 12, 2007 I think I'm gonna need you again like on New Year's Eve. You know what really sucks? She wouldn't stop talking about how sweet you, S, and J are. At least she knows enough to realize THAT much. Well, you did say you'd marry her if I wasn't going to, so... here's your chance. -tp always a bridesmaid. TP, no matter what anyone else says, I LOVE your signature lines. I'm late in saying this, but sorry to hear about the girl. To be honest with you, the pace that she was going at, I was kind of iffy about her in the first place. She barely knows you for 10 days, and she's all over you. Literally and figuratively. That says a lot about her decision-making skills. I doubt she put much thought into starting the fast-forward dating thing, so naturally she didn't put much thought into ending it, either. She was a "very available miss" on a dating spree. That's all. Unfortunately, some guys and girls are like this. They initiate the whole thing with a bang, and then fizzle out in 7 days. It's baffling and insulting, ain't it? Makes one wonder if they couldn't have thought of all the negatives before they rushed full-fledged into the drama. Take it easy. We learn something new everyday, don't we? P.S.: Your party will still rock the town. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted June 12, 2007 Share Posted June 12, 2007 TP, it was a week long relationship. It should take you about a day to get over it. Instead of beating your head against the wall wondering why someone would reject you - EMBRACE REJECTION. The more you are rejected the less sensitive you become to it. Start dating multiple women at the same time. Note I did NOT say "have sex with them." I said evaluate several women at the same time. You'll be less likely to put all your eggs in one basket and if something goes wrong with one of them it won't phase you because you'll have many others in the wings waiting. You wonder how some guys end up with some of the greatest women around? It's because they were dating many women at the same time and evaluating them. And if you think I am the only one who thinks this way, ask around. Women do this as well. They're of the same opinion: "Why date one man at a time when I can compare them all and pick the one that is best for me (and me for him)??" I think this approach will help you in more ways than one. Just don't go sleeping with them all because that is simply wrong. Just hang out, have dinner, go to a movie, amusement park, etc. Get to know them first before you start bumping uglies. Cheers. Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted June 12, 2007 Share Posted June 12, 2007 It sounds like things were headed to the relationship level really quickly and when she realized it and had a second to think about it she decided that it wasn't what she wanted. Link to post Share on other sites
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted June 12, 2007 Share Posted June 12, 2007 It sounds like things were headed to the relationship level really quickly and when she realized it and had a second to think about it she decided that it wasn't what she wanted. True, true. Which is why I said that she lacked in the thinking and decision-making department. Totally. Hang in there, TP. Link to post Share on other sites
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