11 Things I Learned About Love and Relationships

[passionpeach]

1. Look for the person who can be your bestfriend.

 

There's nothing more fulfilling than being your partner's bestfriend. This way you grow up as individuals and as a couple at the same time. Learn each other's weaknesses and strengths and eventually help one another become a better person while accepting the person for who he is. Do not judge him and do not let yourself get turned off by his persona. We can always get someone who we can share a laugh with but real friendship is not measured by merely being happy. A true friend is someone who is there for you when you are at your worst and stays to help you become your very best.

Understanding and acceptance are some of the key ingredients of a healthy relationship.

 

2. Help him understand his personality

Believe me most people do not know who they are and what it is that they truly want in life. It is because naturally we humans love dreaming of becoming someone we are not. Your partner can say "I am honest and no matter how hurtful something might be, I will still tell you because I don't want to lie to you." That sounds flattering doesn't it? But come to think of it.. No matter how honest he is, he might still be lying. Not to you but to himself. Why? Because of the pressure of wanting to become the most honest lover you will ever have. At least better that your ex who was a total actor. Who wants to be with a liar anyway?

In a relationship you need to help one another in finding your true selves because the only time you become honest to your partner is when you become honest to yourself. Face your fears and help your loved one face his as well.

 

3. Give all the love you can give

If you truly loive someone you don't have to hold back. Do not be scared to love just because you know that love hurts. Doing this might just make you lose something and someone really special. Give all the love you can give. You will never know if that's the last time you will ever receive the gift of loving. Do not regret that you loved unconditionally. No matter how risky it is, you will realize at the end of the day that it's all good and you will not feel miserable.

 

4. Put jealousy in a jar

It's ok to be jealous but do not ruin everything in your relationship just because you are jealous of something or someone your partner is connected with. If it makes you feel really uncomfortable, do not try to avenge yourself by doing crazy things.. Rather tell your sweetheart honestly. He should be mature and sensitive enough to work on it with you.

 

5. Realize that you are still two separate people

You and your partner are two separate people traveling the journey of life together. Each of you may have different dreams and goals so do not be selfish by trying to stop your loved one in fulfilling his. Your role is to be there by his side to support him and be an encouragement or even an inspiration. He might meet other people along the way but that doesn't mean that you are less loved and that you need to do your exit. Do not be too possessive... You don't want to end up traveling life's journey alone.

 

6. Love yourself

From time to time do something on your own. Try a new hobby. Shop alone. Treat yourself to a massage. Excel in your work or your studies. Be confident. How beautiful is it to love someone who has a life!

 

7. Have a sense of humor

A relationship doesn't have to be boring. Laugh together. Make faces. Do baby talk. Call each other goofy names. You can even fart while the other is around !! Hey, everyone loves a clown!

 

8. Be spontaneous

You don't have to plan everything in your relationship. Let yourselves grow together. Allow nature to take its course. Cherish every day of your life travel each road one step at a time and never worry about tomorrow for God is already there.

 

9. Fight for your love

Try hard not to let go of someone you think is really special and extraordinary just because you feel like you don't love him anymore and that you will be ok without him. Everybody knows that it's not easy to find someone really special.. I mean really extraordinarilly special. When you find this person and fall in love with him, find ways to stay. Do not be passive. You may think that you do not need him and you can easily get someone better.. think again. You may not need him now but how about tomorrow when you grow older? Humans are really uncontent animals. We always look for something more than what we currently have. Open your eyes. Reality is.. It's not everyday that you find someone who can stick with you regardless all your negative characteristics and still love you nonetheless.

If you are saying that you already lost the warmth do not think twice.. think a thousand times over. Before giving up try hard and I mean really hard with your whole heart and with an honest mind to find that lost feeling. It's just like when you have money in your pocket and later on you doubt you lost it. Why? Because you know at the back of your mind that you indeed have it.

Remember these:

1. Diamonds cannot be made.. You can only find them.

2. Love goes on even if romance is not around.

 

10. Love the things and the people he loves

If you hate your partner's loved ones and the stuff he loves chances are there's going to be a big conflict between the two of you no matter how much you love each other. It's so superb if your partner also learns to accept and love the people around you and the things that mean much to you.

Honestly, it's hard to find someone who will really love those you love and be loved by those you love in return. The conflict is often times triggered by the differences of their personalities and the steady threat that they might lose someone they treasure in their hearts.

So if you find someone who can really love your family and friends then you are blessed. Be thankful.

 

11. Let God intervene in your relationship

Doesn't matter what religion you are with.. God is our bestfriend amongst all the other bestfriends we can have. He knows everything. He is the author of love and He is love in Himself.

 

Having fallen in love three times in my life I have learned a lot of lessons. Most of which I just realized recently. I have always known love to be that unexplained feeling that one can never measure or even comprehend. I was so narrow minded. Experience opened my eyes to the true essence of love. There is more to love than just saying "I love you", or crying over the mushy things stated in the lyrics of a love song, of hugging your sweetheart, or even giving him the sweetest kiss. Love is the gift given by God to us humans as we travel this journey called life. We can share it with our friends and families or to that someone dear to our hearts who we meet along the way. The thing is that there is no certainty that we can always have our friends and families to share this great gift with. In life all things are possible yet nothing is certain. That is why God gave us this opportunity to meet other people outside of our circle. Since He gave us a glorious gift we sure would want to treat it special and share it with someone worth sharing your entire life with. So when you get to meet that person strive hard to keep him. Who knows.. He might pass by your life just once in this lifetime. We do not get younger each day.. And we get to live only once after all.

[Chamari]

I thought this was an awesome post. Thanks for sharing.

[passionpeach]

I am so happy to know that you liked it. This has been an eye opener for me too. When I broke up with my ex of one and a half year, instead of pushing myself to immediately move on, I started to ponder over what good and bad things we had in that relationship. I also thought over the effects of those things to our personal lives. I ended up realizing a lot of things and I managed to write some of them.

[lonelybird]

Yes, it is beautiful