moving on, but still so extremely

[tikster]

as most of you know i work w/ my ex who left me to see this other girl. it's been three months for them now. i think last month i finally decided to let go and stop the ignoring and being miserable b-cuz it was just not good for me and i prefer to be happy.

 

in fact i even started talking to my ex at work again. the weird thing is that he has reverted back to the way that we were just before we started dating. like he really tries to get my attention and teases me just like he did when he was trying to get me to go out with him. for instance, just a litte example, when i was leaving work he was walking behind me and as i was across the parking lot he called my name to say bye, he asks me questions s if he's interested in what's happening. there was even a moment when we locked eyes and it was kind of a weird moment, so i broke it by looking away.

 

he's still dating this girl so i don't think he's trying to get me back, but it is soo confusing. i don't kno what he wants from me. i don't initiate any kind of conversation w/ him, it's all him.

he obviously wanted me outta his life when he dumped me n treated my like garbage, but won't really leave me alone.

i feel like i should hate him for what and how he treated me, but at the same time i don't want to act that way b-cuz i don't want to be miserable.

 

i almost want to set him aside and explain that most ppl don't have to see their ex's as often as i do and i need him to stop talking to me altogether so that i can completely heal. at the same time it's not like he's calling me outside of work or anything. i'm tryin to look for another job, but for the job i want it's kinda difficult. but hey, i'm trying!

[passionpeach]

You are doing just fine and I do not see any reason why you should be confused at all. Stand your ground. Just take whatever he shows you as it is. Do not put any meaning to his actions nor try to decipher what he tends to show you. Look, if he really wants something then he will pursue by all means even if you ignore it. But if it really makes you feel uncomfortable then I guess it's better to tell him how you feel about the situation. Most things are settled in decent conversations. Just tell him in a polite manner that you are not comfortable yet that he is talking to you now that you are still in the healing stage. I'm sure he will not have any problem with that.