Aussie65 Posted June 12, 2007 Share Posted June 12, 2007 My live-in-boyfriend last night and I were playing around in the kitchen like we always do and as he was dishing up some icecream for himself and cheekily said something to me I got a small amount and rubbed it on his face.I ran into the bathroom thinking he was going to get me back and locked myself in.He came to the door and seemed rather P'd off and starting yelling for me to open to door...then OPEN THE F'N DOOR BEFORE I KICK IT IN!!! He honestly had me so scared,I have never seen him like this and thought he snapped so I waited for him to move away from the door and came out asking him why the hell he spoke to me like that and to get the hell out of the house,that I dont need to be spoken to in that way by anyone.Well I was shaking and he just sat there and said that I took it 'too far'...I sat outside in the cold crying and shaking...I lived once with a guy that did kick my door in so I was reliving this thinking my man,the one I loved so much was showing his true colours. I went and spent the night in the spare room and in the morning confronted him only to be told he was 'joking'....that he was not serious at all and was laughinbg the whole time.I was still upset and said to him that I hardly found it funny,that a jokes not a joke when it hurts someone.He thinks I take things too seriously but I have been left feeling rather weird about this now....it seems he found great sattisfaction in upsetting me.If he was joking then why didn't he come to me and tell me this rather then let it carry on all through the night?.He was still laughing about it when he left for work in the morning. Would you be p'd off still even if he finally said sorry but still laughed about it?. Link to post Share on other sites
Rafa Posted June 13, 2007 Share Posted June 13, 2007 A couple of things do sound a little fishy here. OK so if he really was joking, he'd have noticed pretty quickly that you didn't find it funny, and were in fact even scared by the incident, at which time it would seem normal to tell you then and there that it was just a joke and that he was sorry, instead of just sitting there telling you that you'd 'gone to far'. And to let you sit outside in the cold crying and shaking - you've got to be kidding - there is no way he would've let that happen if he was in a light hearted friendly mood. He would have come to comfort you and apologize, and definitely try to smooth things over instead of just letting you go and sleep alone without anything resolved. So it sounds like he was genuinely angry and not jokey, but it's weird because if all you did was put ice-cream on his face then his anger was a massive over reaction. As you say, it's only funny if you are both having a laugh, and not if one of you is hurt and scared. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted June 13, 2007 Share Posted June 13, 2007 He obviously takes himself too seriously - there was no need for him to get all abusive just because you smeared him with a little ice cream. The man cannot laugh at himself. And then he became out of control angry at you for whatever perceived humiliation he felt. And then he tried to blame you the next morning for not being able to take a joke - when it was clearly not a joke. He doesn't like anyone to get the best of him. Think of two little kids playing outside with a garden hose. One sprays the other with water when he isn't looking. Now, the second kid might laugh and grab the hose and spray him back, or dump a bucket of water on him or whatever. Or, if he were like your boyfriend, he might get angry and start beating the crap out of the kid who sprayed him. Unfortunately, your boyfriend is the kind of kid who beat the crap out of anyone who tried to play a joke on him. Link to post Share on other sites
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