Surrendered Wife

[Sunset]

I have started a support discussion group following principles of Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle. If anyone in the UK is interested in joining please PM me or reply to this thread.

 

Note to Mods, this is a free discussion group I am not selling anything.

 

Thanks

[Touche]

I have started a support discussion group following principles of Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle. If anyone in the UK is interested in joining please PM me or reply to this thread.

 

Note to Mods, this is a free discussion group I am not selling anything.

 

Thanks

 

For those of us who aren't familiar with the book, can you tell us a little more? Maybe we can discuss it here too?

 

I'm not too crazy about that title though to be honest. What are these wives surrendering? Maybe I'll go look this up.

[Touche]

After a two second search I found this:

 

Compassionate and practical, The Surrendered Wife is a step-by-step guide that teaches women how to:

 

* Give up unnecessary control and responsibility

* Express their needs while also respecting their husband's choices

* Resist the temptation to criticize, belittle or dismiss their husbands

* Trust their husbands in every aspect of marriage - from sexual to financial...and more.

 

Wow, what can I say? What does "unnecessary" control and responsibility mean exactly? The rest of it I have no problem with...except on the last item what does "trust" mean exactly in this context? Leave it all up to the husband? Wife has no input? What does it mean?

 

Ok, found more. This bit had me laughing out loud! I mean PUHLEEZE!

 

Respect means that when he takes the wrong freeway exit you don't correct him by telling him where to turn. It means that if he keeps going in the wrong direction you will go past the state line and still not correct what he's doing. In fact, no matter what your husband does, you will not try to teach, improve, or correct him.

 

That is the essence of a surrendered wife.

 

Hoo Boy..too funny! Guess I'm not a good little "surrendered wifey" since I'd be telling "What the heck? Where are you going? You just went past the state line, you nimcompoop!" (Ha, just kidding about the nimcompoop part, but I mean REALLY!)

 

This book should be changed to the Doormat Wife. I've seen enough. So basically the meeting will be with a bunch of doormats. Good luck with that.

[Bobster999]

"The underlying principle of The Surrendered Wife is simple: The control women wield at work and with children must be left at the front door of any marriage to revitalize intimacy.

Compassionate and practical, The Surrendered Wife is a step-by-step guide that teaches women how to:

• Give up unnecessary control and responsibility
  
• Express their needs while also respecting their husband's choices
  
• Resist the temptation to criticize, belittle or dismiss their husbands
  
• Trust their husbands in every aspect of marriage - from sexual to financial...and more.

The Surrendered Wife will show you how to transform a lonely marriage into a passionate union."

 

 

The above is a summary on the author's website. Sounds good to me.

[Touche]

"The underlying principle of The Surrendered Wife is simple: The control women wield at work and with children must be left at the front door of any marriage to revitalize intimacy.

Compassionate and practical, The Surrendered Wife is a step-by-step guide that teaches women how to:

• Give up unnecessary control and responsibility
  
• Express their needs while also respecting their husband's choices
  
• Resist the temptation to criticize, belittle or dismiss their husbands
  
• Trust their husbands in every aspect of marriage - from sexual to financial...and more.

The Surrendered Wife will show you how to transform a lonely marriage into a passionate union."

 

 

The above is a summary on the author's website. Sounds good to me.

 

 

Well it's ridiculous. That bit above is a little innocous, true. But read further. Like that dumb lost in the car bit.

 

The woman went from a total shrew to a complete doormat. It's insane. There IS a happy medium..a balance between those two extremes. Obviously she couldn't find that balance.

[a4a]

there has been a thread on this before......

 

but I will say to Touchy....... : :lmao::lmao:

[a4a]

"The underlying principle of The Surrendered Wife is simple: The control women wield at work and with children must be left at the front door of any marriage to revitalize intimacy.

Compassionate and practical, The Surrendered Wife is a step-by-step guide that teaches women how to:

• Give up unnecessary control and responsibility
  
• Express their needs while also respecting their husband's choices
  
• Resist the temptation to criticize, belittle or dismiss their husbands
  
• Trust their husbands in every aspect of marriage - from sexual to financial...and more.

The Surrendered Wife will show you how to transform a lonely marriage into a passionate union."

 

 

The above is a summary on the author's website. Sounds good to me.

 

Just drug the biotch with thorazine without her knowing.

[Star Gazer]

I've read the Surrendered SINGLE and found it very helpful and enlightening.

[Touche]

Just drug the biotch with thorazine without her knowing.

 

:lmao: Ha, ha! You crack me up too, A.

 

And DUH, of COURSE a MAN is going to love this nonsense!

 

Good for you, SG. So why are you still single? And what's a surrendered single like?

 

Are these the tips:

 

*Put out on the first date or you'll lose your man's interest if you wait too long.

*Always be available to your date. Don't ever let him think you have your own life.

*Don't argue about anything whatsoever. Smile sweetly and gaze into his eyes at all times.

*Do whatever he wants sexually no matter how perverted and gross it is. Keep your mouth shut (unless he wants it open.)

 

[a4a]

:lmao: Ha, ha! You crack me up too, A.

 

And DUH, of COURSE a MAN is going to love this nonsense!

 

Good for you, SG. So why are you still single? And what's a surrendered single like?

 

Are these the tips:

 

*Put out on the first date or you'll lose your man's interest if you wait too long.

*Always be available to your date. Don't ever let him think you have your own life.

*Don't argue about anything whatsoever. Smile sweetly and gaze into his eyes at all times.*Do whatever he wants sexually no matter how perverted and gross it is. Keep your mouth shut (unless he wants it open.)

 

 

 

I wouldn't think that you were allowed to look him in the face ever... perhaps always keep your head bowed... back out of the room when told to exit, never turning your back to the man unless instructed to do so if he wants to look at your ass.

[Touche]

I wouldn't think that you were allowed to look him in the face ever... perhaps always keep your head bowed... back out of the room when told to exit, never turning your back to the man unless instructed to do so if he wants to look at your ass.

 

Oh man! Too funny!

 

So are we close, SG? What was so helpful about the book?

 

And don't forget to never look at Tan's face when you meet him. You can look up (pretend you're star gazing) or down but never directly at him. And don't even THINK of arguing any point with him (you'll lose anyway), just agree with everything he says.

[Star Gazer]

Good for you, SG. So why are you still single? And what's a surrendered single like?

 

Are these the tips:

 

*Put out on the first date or you'll lose your man's interest if you wait too long.

*Always be available to your date. Don't ever let him think you have your own life.

*Don't argue about anything whatsoever. Smile sweetly and gaze into his eyes at all times.

*Do whatever he wants sexually no matter how perverted and gross it is. Keep your mouth shut (unless he wants it open.)

 

 

You are so incredibly RUDE. At least I'm taking steps to become a BETTER person, whether it be by reading a gazillion books or learning how to tolerate ridiculously rude posts such as this one.

 

I'd suggest before bashing the book, you READ it. But for your reference, no, what you've listed above is not contained anywhere within the book's 8 corners.

 

Oh man! Too funny!

 

So are we close, SG? What was so helpful about the book?

 

And don't forget to never look at Tan's face when you meet him. You can look up (pretend you're star gazing) or down but never directly at him. And don't even THINK of arguing any point with him (you'll lose anyway), just agree with everything he says.

 

Again, so rude. Where does your passive-aggressive hostility stem from? Are you jealous or something?

[Touche]

You are so incredibly RUDE. At least I'm taking steps to become a BETTER person, whether it be by reading a gazillion books or learning how to tolerate ridiculously rude posts such as this one.

 

I'd suggest before bashing the book, you READ it. But for your reference, no, what you've listed above is not contained anywhere within the book's 8 corners.

 

 

 

Again, so rude. Where does your passive-aggressive hostility stem from? Are you jealous or something?

 

Wow, where'd THAT all come from? Has the single life made you lose your sense of humor? (I mean, it can have that affect on a person!) And what on EARTH would I be jealous of? I mean I can't think of a single thing. Please clue me in.

 

I was JOKING! Sheesh...some people. Wow.

 

And I don't have to read the dumb book. I could more than likely, write a better one. It sounds like rubbish just from the stupid title. Just goes to show ya...there's a sucker born every minute.

[Star Gazer]

FWIW, for those who are interested, "The Surrendered Single" involves subjects such as the following chapters:

 

* Rethink Your Negative Thoughts About Dating

* Make YOURSELF Happy Every Day

* STOP Man-Bashing and Start Admiring Men

* Don't Use Sex to Control the Relationship

* Keep Your Own Life Even Though He's In It

 

These topics don't sound anything like the incredibly rude suggestions made before me. These are all common-sense ideas, of course, but still helpful and worth repeating.

[Touche]

FWIW, for those who are interested, "The Surrendered Single" involves subjects such as the following chapters:

 

* Rethink Your Negative Thoughts About Dating

* Make YOURSELF Happy Every Day

* STOP Man-Bashing and Start Admiring Men

* Don't Use Sex to Control the Relationship

* Keep Your Own Life Even Though He's In It

 

These topics don't sound anything like the incredibly rude suggestions made before me. These are all common-sense ideas, of course, but still helpful and worth repeating.

 

Great. Sounds good. Too bad they don't have a chapter on keeping your sense of humor while you're single. Sounds like it's needed.

[Star Gazer]

Too bad they don't have a chapter on keeping your sense of humor while you're single. Sounds like it's needed.

 

You should step out of your glass house before making comments like that.

 

You've got something personal against me, and that's fine. Don't try to act like you were just joking and that I'm uptight, because you and I both know that's absolutely not the case.

[Touche]

You should step out of your glass house before making comments like that.

 

You've got something personal against me, and that's fine. Don't try to act like you were just joking and that I'm uptight, because you and I both know that's absolutely not the case.

 

You're wrong. Plain and simple. I have nothing at all against you. It was really just a joke. Sorry, you didn't take it as such.

 

I'm not going to get into this anymore. It's off-topic. Take it up privately if you wish. But it was a JOKE. Get it now?

[Mustang Sally]

1. Humans: respect other humans for the unique individuals that they are, be they male or female.

 

2. Humans: work with each other (instead of against each other) to reach reasonable compromise in cases of disagreement.

 

3. Humans: be willing to put others' needs ahead of your own personal needs, as the situation dictates. Others will then be willing to do the same for you, when necessary.

 

Repeat #'s 1-3 as needed.

 

....Call me crazy....

[Touche]

1. Humans: respect other humans for the unique individuals that they are, be they male or female.

 

2. Humans: work with each other (instead of against each other) to reach reasonable compromise in cases of disagreement.

 

3. Humans: be willing to put others' needs ahead of your own personal needs, as the situation dictates. Others will then be willing to do the same for you, when necessary.

 

Repeat #'s 1-3 as needed.

 

....Call me crazy....

 

Exactly. Only I used humor to kind of put forth your same point. Good post, Sally.

[Trialbyfire]

I also agree that's an awesome post Mustang Sally. The "bend over" style is ridiculous. Respect each other in a relationship but have a little fun while doing it.

[Bobster999]

1. Humans: respect other humans for the unique individuals that they are, be they male or female.

 

2. Humans: work with each other (instead of against each other) to reach reasonable compromise in cases of disagreement.

 

3. Humans: be willing to put others' needs ahead of your own personal needs, as the situation dictates. Others will then be willing to do the same for you, when necessary.

 

Repeat #'s 1-3 as needed.

 

....Call me crazy....

Ok. Crazy .

[tanbark813]

FWIW, for those who are interested, "The Surrendered Single" involves subjects such as the following chapters:

 

* Rethink Your Negative Thoughts About Dating

* Make YOURSELF Happy Every Day

* STOP Man-Bashing and Start Admiring Men

* Don't Use Sex to Control the Relationship

* Keep Your Own Life Even Though He's In It

 

These topics don't sound anything like the incredibly rude suggestions made before me. These are all common-sense ideas, of course, but still helpful and worth repeating.

 

Good stuff. The third point especially gets lost these days, also from the reverse perspective.

[tanbark813]

The "bend over" style is ridiculous.

 

Not as long as both people are roughly the same height.

 

:bunny:

[tanbark813]

But it was a JOKE. Get it now?

 

Says the woman who gets pissed off at joke haikus.

[Trialbyfire]

Not as long as both people are roughly the same height.

 

:bunny:

That's 'cause you have a point Tan...