I feel replaced

[SmileEmptySoul]

I have been friends with this girl ever since middle school I am now a JUnior in highschool.

 

Iv grown to like her for the past 2 years, but I dont know exactly when. She is a close friend. She shares everything me and we talk a lot. So we are at a party and everyone is drinking and w/e. I was a drunk and She started hooking up with someone im acquatined with (not really friends but we say "hey" and talk) I was shocked, pissed, jealous, and upset. I got angry, put a hole in the wall, and I start crying. I passed out before i got to the steps. My friends got me upstairs and I dont remember anything from then on. They told me that I was crying for two hours. Everyone slept over and went home the next day. She didnt say anything to me the whole night and the next morning. She was aware of what happened, and how I feel about her.

 

I was more angry at the fact I didnt know she was talking to this guy for 2 months then ehr hooking up with him. She says we are close friends and she doesnt tell me this. It was like a punch in the face. It just came all at once i couldnt handle it. I went to my friend right after it happened and i was like... "Are they going out." and he replied "No, but they are talking and just hook up." I said "Since when?" He says "two months ago, dude everyone knows." I was furious that everyone knew but me.

 

I havent talked to her since. Her birthday is in one week. I was thinking of apologizing and buying her a gift. But what am I apologizing for? Then i talked to my best friend. And he said "You cant just go running and start kissing her feet. You buying her a gift and apologizing isnt going to do anything. It will make her happy for those 10 minutes and then she will go running back to him."

 

I also dont want to go to her house for her birthday because hes going to be there. I cant stand seeing them two together. It makes me want to rip my eyes out. Friends say she wants to fix what happened. But yet she cant tell me herself or even come talk to me. **** that.

 

Im asking for advice on what to do. Should I go to her birthday eventhough prince charming will be there? I will just get pissed and probably do something I will regret. Or should I not go which could probably end our friendship.

 

Right now im not feeling anything from not talking to her. Im actually a bit relieved im not talking to her. But everytime i bring back the image to my head those same feelings come back.

 

I dont know what to do. Buying her a gift and going to her party will not make her stop talking to him. I feel like I will just let her win, If I go crawling back apologizing. ON the other hand I feel like a lil immature boy for not talking to her. I have so many mixed feelings its ridiculous.

 

I felt like she has been pulling me along on a leash for the past few months. Trying to make me like her and then saying "Oh i like someone else haha" I feel like im being replaced. Im actually leaning towards not talking to her and waiting for her to talk to me. IF she TRULY wants to fix this, she would talk to me, correct?

[norajane]

If she was a good friend, she'd want to talk to you about this and fix it. She'd sit down with you and tell you why she kept this guy a secret...probably because she knew how you felt and didn't want to hurt your feelings.

 

But she's not doing that. So yes, she could have been stringing you along.

 

I'd say go to the party and have a good time. I wouldn't be buying her gifts or anything. But if you think you'd get out of control, don't go to the party at all. If it ruins your friendship, it wasn't much of a friendship to begin with, was it?

 

And there are plenty of girls out there. You're just getting started. Don't get hung up on a girl who's not hung up on you.

[whichwayisup]

I know this hurts, but it seems that she doesn't have the same feelings for you as you do for her.

 

The fact you feel better when you're not around her says something, doesn't it? Don't go to the party as it will only make you feel worse. Buy her a gift and a card if you want to and give it to another time and mention to her that you two need to talk after her birthday. If she is a TRUE friend, she'll listen to you and respect your feelings...Sadly though, her actions are showing you that she doesn't even want to hear what is inside your head.

 

What are YOU getting out of this friendship? Seems pretty one-sided to me. Take time for you and think about what you want, maybe it's best to put some distance between you two until the pain lessens, your anger is more under control.