What does it mean?

[RubyJean]

Around 8 yrs ago I dated this guy for about three weeks. Prior to that he asked me out on anf off for about four years. I finally said yes and he sent me flowers, cards, faxes, etc saying how craz he was about me. On the first date he talked marriage and wanted to give me a key to his house. On the secoind date he gave me a gold bracelet. Mind you I told him that night prior to the gift that this was moving wayyyyy too fast especially since I had just ended a 3 yr relationship with a man who gavce me no attention. As the weeks went on we had a good time and were very sexually compatible. After a weekend at the ocean on the ride home I got theis feeling something wasn't right. The next day I asked him if he justwanted to be friend s or continue to date...after him "thinking" about it he calle dme back and said he was crazy about me but didn't want to have a dog! Yes you read that correctly. I had a dog and love dogs and he didn't want to have one. So I said okay and then it ended.

 

Periodically throughout the years I would hear from him (usually on or around my birthday - an email or phone call wishing me happy birthday). We got together once about a year after the breakup but I haven't seen him in person for about 7 years.

 

He is on his second marriage since the breakup and get this...he married a lady who show s and breeds dogs. When he started dating her he called and appologized to me since that is why we broke up. I told him "it was fine - it just wasn't meant to be".

 

Years go by and he still contacts me on my birthday but this last year it has been more frequent besides on my birthday. Eventually every email (I haven't spoke to him on the phone even though he has tried calling a couple of times) he asks about having lunch sometime and he always brings up sex somehow. Of course he tells me how sexless his marriage is, how depressed his wife is and so on... I told him he needs to work it all out with his wife and that I won't change my mind today or in the future about us having sex (this was in response to him saying recently that he wouldn't be surprised if I change my mind about us getting together).

 

I enjoy emailing with this guy because we have a lot in common and I am wondering if there is a possibility that he regrets that we broke up over me having dogs and wishes we were together or if it truly is a sexual affair he is only after. Do guys like this have such regrets?

 

Now the other weird thing is recently I can't stop thinking about him which has never been the case since we broke up all those years ago. I don't get it.