Ex-BF, Breaking Up with New One, Pregnancy, Marriage, Juicy Stuff

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Towards the end of my senior year in high school I began dating this guy, Chris. We loved each other so much, but we had a lot of issues since we both had a lot of growing up to do. Long story short, we dating for two years (living together) but he cheated on me, and was controlling, and I let him be and tried playing emotional games. Neither were in the right. Eventually, we broke up and he moved out. He joined the army and I about immediately started dating one of my oldest friends, Stephen. Two weeks later, I got pregnant.

 

It's now been a year and Stephen and I are breaking up since he is not pulling his weight, and hasn't been for our entire relationship. I only stayed with him so long because I wanted our daughter to have a father. But Stephen turned out to not be the kind of father I want as a role model for my daughter. Chris and I have been talking occasionally through my entire relationship with Stephen, as friends. Though the entire time I still had strong feelings for Chris.

 

Now Chris is currently engaged to a girl he's been dating for six months, who is also in the army. But they fight a lot and he's not sure if he wants to marry her just because they can get out of the barracks and will get more money if they're married. He thinks he cares about her but isn't positive. They were supposed to get married tomorrow but he put it off, and now she's saying if he doesn't marry her it means he doesn't love her.

 

For the last few weeks, though, we've been talking more and more. Both of us still love the each other, we've discovered. Additionally, when I was talking to him about him getting married to his fiance, he was telling me how unsure he is. But when I jokingly said I would move up there next week and marry him, he instantly knew that would make him happy, and had no doubts. Not that I'm doing that.

 

So we've been talking about getting back together, and possibly getting married. Since he's in the army he's on the other side of the country and the only way for us to be together (since I don't want to move there by myself, and neither of us believe in long distance relationships) is to get married. He knows I have a child by another man, and he is happy to accept her into his life. Both of us have grown since our breakup (big life changes like the ones we had will do that), and so we know that we'll be able to handle any problems we might have. But I just don't know if we should make this jump, or what we should do. Any advice?