phatslim Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 Hi, just signed up and i need help before i go banannas. I went out with this girl for 8 years. We even got engaged. We had gone out since university and were madly in love and inseperable. In the 6th year we moved in together. On the 7th year we found we had both cheated several times during our relationship. We forgave each other and moved on. But then after that we broke up and got together three times in a few months. Basically we found getting along impossible. Finally a year ago we broke up but continued to live together as we saw other people. I asked her to move out and she did. Now she has a new boyfriend and i have a new girlfriend. But all through we have been unable to let go of each other. We are still in love (people still see it in the way we look at each other)but dont know if we are right for each other. I love my ex more than i have ever loved anyone but we have so much history plus i dont want to hurt my current partner. I cant stop thinking about her with nostalgia, regret, but anger as well. Lately i have been wondering if we should get back together or move on with our new lives. We have hurt each other deeply in the past but but have also loved deeply. What should i do? give up my new life with a woman who loves me and who i could grow to love or go back to an uncertain life with an ex who hurt me. (if she even wants me bacK) Also i dont want to break her up with her boyfriend if we are not right for each other Link to post Share on other sites
funkybassplayer Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 You said it, 'impossible to live with' and if you dont love this new girl, and she thinks you do, its unfair. Mate get rid of both of them, and take time out to find yourself again, then look for a healthy relationship with someone that you love. just a thought! Link to post Share on other sites
Author phatslim Posted June 15, 2007 Author Share Posted June 15, 2007 well i gotta say at the time i was with my ex i was kind immature and tended to blow up rather than resolve things, we both were actually so immpossible is relative. You have a point about though about misleading my current girlfriend... Link to post Share on other sites
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