john 07 Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 What happened with ex: Ex broke it off after 6 years. A week after she was with my friend. This happened in early march. Most of my close friends are her close friends. I get a call from buddy and hes like lets go to the chill bar today. I said ok. Then he asks is it ok if my ex come b/c they were suppose to chill. I was having an awsome day. After he asked that my mood went right down the drain. Now im angry and mixed emotions. I told him I can do my own thing like last week. He said NO. I just hung up after. Why is it that I get angry every time he asks me. Doesnt this show that im weaker than my ex. Doesnt this show she has control. She even said to my buddy that she doesnt mind hanging out with me as long as I dont make it awkward. The thing is its always awkward when I hang out with her with others. Is this a normal that Im getting angry/emotional. Please tell me your opinions. Thanks -by the way im in NC right now. Its been around 3 weeks of NC. Before that she called once a week. When she calls I dont pick up these days. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 If your buddy respected you, he wouldn't ask you out with him and your ex. That's just wrong. If I were you, I'd find better friends. Link to post Share on other sites
frd150 Posted June 16, 2007 Share Posted June 16, 2007 If no contact is helping you to heal then keep it up. Hang out with friends that will not put you in this position. I have avoided in person contact with my ex because my feelings for her are still very strong and would it be awkward, at this point ,YES. My friends even the mutual ones have not and will not put me in this position. The have been great to me. They have done a good job keeping me busy because they know how hard this was on me . Find those types for yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
nittygritty Posted June 16, 2007 Share Posted June 16, 2007 I would feel set up by my supposed friend. It sounds like your ex is either having second thoughts or wanting to have a FWB type of relationship with you until she finds another guy. I think you have a right to be angry. It shows that you have self esteem and a healthy sense of boundaries. There really is no reason to hang out with an ex who dumped you. If your ex is having a change of heart then she needs to speak up instead of enlisting the friends you share to try to force a reaction out of you. Very immature on her part IMO. Link to post Share on other sites
Topper Posted June 17, 2007 Share Posted June 17, 2007 So your ex GF of 6 years dumps you. Then within one week she is with one of your friends? Wow you don't see that she was cheating on you? That she had been planing this break up for a long long time? Nice friend by the way. Takes a real pal to screw his buddies GF behind his back. is this the same guy who invited you to chill at a var? Why the F would you even talk to the jerk? He wants to bring your GF as well? Next time why not just let the two of them rub your nose in Dog Sh*t because that would be less of an offence to you and your self worth.Like others have said you need to find a better group to hang with. Link to post Share on other sites
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