Taking a break = starting something with another girl?! what?!

[aklay]

my ex-boyfriend (? dont really know where we stand) and I were together for a year and a half, it had always been long distance as he lived 350 miles away. I truly and honestly believe we were meant to be together, he believes the same too. This was my first year in college and I became really frustrated and stressed and we agreed to take a break until school ended and then we would see what time would tell. Yesterday I told him I wanted to continue our relationship and he admitted to me he'd been talking to another girl for several weeks and she became interested in him and he had sent her signals it was mutual. He tried to downplay the situation but really, it was a big deal. So he told her he didnt share the same feelings and he just got caught up in the moment and wants to be friends. When I asked him where we stood he claimed he is confused and doesnt know what he wants! I have known him for 2 years, and he's only been talking to this girl for several weeks! I feel like he's comparing what we have to what him and this other girl have! What is really going on?? Did he become seriously interested in her?? He puts part blame on his friends too, because they encouraged him to talk and get to know this other girl. What should I do?

[sao2]

I don't know if this got settled or not but you have to realize that you have already processed "makeing up" in your mind and then kind of sprung it on him. I read some of your other posts and you were already seeing another guy in the meantime and questioning whether to go back or not.

 

He is probably having the same thought processes you were having before you decided to try and continue your previous relationship.

[WithOrWithoutYou]

"Taking a Break" is often/usually (but not necessarily always) another phrase for "break up".

 

This was my first year in college and I became really frustrated and stressed and we agreed to take a break until school ended and then we would see what time would tell.

 

This sounds a lot like this "break" was largely your idea, and he probably felt quite rejected. LDRs are very difficult (lack of sex and physical intimacy, combined with the not even seeing each other on a daily or even weekly basis), and when someone who is in one suggests "taking a break", that just serves to confirm and solidify all fears, doubts, and problems that people already have with a LDR.

 

He probably felt dumped, and made efforts to try to move on. I have not been following your posts, but based upon what the other poster said (if accurate), you may have tried to do the same, decided you didn't like it, and now want to go back. He may not be there yet, and you need to face the fact that he may or may not get there. Good luck with it though. He may just need some time to figure out what he wants.