Not exactly sure in this situation?

[Steveto]

Hey guys/girls,

 

I've been out of the dating scene for the past 6 years, by choice because I was REALLY burned before and needed an extended break. Recently, I met someone I had only known for a 2 week period 15 years ago on a Euro class trip...at that time I was 16 and she was only 12...she was a daughter of someone I had met...no stars no nothing really..just met her..anyway..I ran into her again on one of the social networks...we started talking over the phone for about 2.5 weeks..non-stop and smsing (BTW, I live in Europe now)..We seriously clicked...talking on the phone was effortless.

 

Anyway, one day..she just stopped..phone rang and rang...smsing stopped..nothing..I waited a few days..then was a little worried...waited a week..Couldn't take it anymore..couldn't stop thinking of her...soo..was thinking..what should I do? I was gonna call in a fav to a friend that lives in her city to see if she was still working (I only know where she works..not live) and if she was ok....but I figure that was like borderline stalker ..so I ordered a dozen roses and had them delivered..I received an email that night that explained everything..she was very ill, cell phone is in the shop..no time to pick it up, she works looong hours and her internet is out of commission at home..(I knew about the internet thing way before and the long hrs). She said she was gonna try to get her phone and call me the next day....been 2.5 weeks since that time...

 

this is the last bit she wrote in that email:

 

"As for the ideas you're having about coming to see me....I think it would be great, but I need some time before then, especially now after being so powered out. We'll meet soon enough I'm sure, just wana take it one step at a time."

 

I've been over it a hundred times, but I gather she thinks that maybe things are going a little too fast, but definitely not all lost..and that was the last form of communication I got..I send her one email every 5 or so days just to say hi..nothing to make her think I am some weirdo. She's busy and works like 14 hr days..

 

This is my interp...I don't want to send too much mushy stuff, or it would be like "clingy" and "smothering"..if I sent nothing..it's like I don't give a crap and she might say, well..maybe I am not important enough...sooo..I will send an email maybe once every 4-5 days saying stuff like hey...don't work too hard..make fun of her and end it with a still thinking of you thing..I'm not about to drive to her work to say "hi"..cuz that's like borderline stalker..heh..(though sometimes I do think of that..haha) ..if I push too much..she might change her mind and say a relationship is not really in her priorities and wants to focus on career..that is not what I want to hear.

 

Keep in mind that she does work a lot of hours..she's been really sick, she sucks at writing emails (always did), she rarely takes breaks and well..I might be making excuses for her to make me feel better..it's been 3.5 weeks since she called (I am almost positive she has not picked up her phone from T-Mobile).

 

I tried talking to other women..but it's like pulling teeth to talk to them, or there is no chemistry..I want this girl...but should I just wait..have more patience?

 

Any advice would be GREATLY appreciated.

 

Steve

NOTE: I forgot to mention that we had already had the discussion about GF/BF status once we actually met each other again..we have established that there is chemistry and have seen multiple photos of each other. Only thing left was to meet in person.

[Steveto]

Can a mod delete this..I reposted it in the dating forum because I realized that would be a better place to be discussed in.

 

Thanks,

Steve