mydadischeatingonmom Posted June 19, 2007 Share Posted June 19, 2007 Ok i dont know whats going on with me ....but since i lost my bestfriend i CHANGED SO MUCH.....its wired and we had the same lifestyle it was like she was my twin! anyway i cant trust or have a reall convo with people at work or i dont know how to fit in anymore i havnt had a friend for 2 years ...only my bf. but i get lonely sometimes....i would like to hang out and do what friends do....shopping,going to the club hanging out whatever..and im a very atractive woman...everywhere i go guys wanna talk to me , but i have a bf already that i been with for 2 years. so i dont do that stuff... SO why the hell cant i just have a friend? and I HATE the fact that everywhere i go girls get jelous of me or they give me the cold shoulder because i dont act like im all that at all ! so i dont understand . and when someone gets to know me they really like me and im a down to earth person im not even crazy or loud or act bitchy whatever you wanna call that! Link to post Share on other sites
wayderz Posted June 20, 2007 Share Posted June 20, 2007 Indifference? Talk to some people around work, get to know them and start talking about things you think they will like, but you also know about so you don't look stupid lol. Eventually your conversations will progress and you will be able to call each other friends. ^_^ Hope I helped. =P Also make a lot of jokes and be confident. Link to post Share on other sites
Steveto Posted June 20, 2007 Share Posted June 20, 2007 Ok.. well..I know a lot of girls that don't like having female friends and just for your information you CAN have guy friends...You just have to choose them wisely..we are your friends here!..I know that sounds corny, but what about internet friends? I got friends all over the world via the internet and also in real life..mainly because I travel a lot though..you're good looking..at least from what you tell us, so you can attract the guys..therefore you can be more selective..pick the ones that actually talk to YOU, not your breasts and who LISTEN to you...You should really be a socialite! Ok..easy thing..go find some interest groups..take a course like real estate..become active extracurricularly...There must be something you aren't telling us. Well, i am the other way around..tons of friends and colleagues (well connected person I am ..lol), but can't have a real relationship which I really want..something always goes wrong..maybe it's karma or something, but I wish I had someone that could hang out with me for a bit and point out what things I could improve on because I know that I must be doing something wrong. Everyone I know are either super far away or too busy to do anything but maybe coffee or lunch. We all have our issues..we just have to work on them and I will try to help you out with your dilemma as best I can. Steve Link to post Share on other sites
Chingy Posted June 21, 2007 Share Posted June 21, 2007 you're good looking..at least from what you tell us, so you can attract the guys..therefore you can be more selective.. Lol, that sounds funny. Anyways, first and foremost, I am sorry that you lost your best friend and as a result, causing you so much frustration. What I suggest, from a male perspective, is simply to relax yourself for a couple of days. Dinner at restaurants, shopping, cruising around, put those things aside for a little bit and just relax and prepare for a new beginning (this always work for me!). Then, speaking about friends, and males in general, don't be selective solely base on appearance. Just talk to people and see who you can feel comfortable with establishing a friendship. This is really a process that takes time and you need to be strong and tolerate temporary frustration. Best of luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Chingy Posted June 21, 2007 Share Posted June 21, 2007 Oh yeah...referring to your screen name.....I am so sorry to hear that. Link to post Share on other sites
McFadden Posted June 21, 2007 Share Posted June 21, 2007 Sorry to here that, but you definitely aren't the only one who feels like they don't have friends, or enough friends, or close enough friends ect. I have a few friends who have moved out of state and they are telling me that they have made no new friends since moving. What some people told me on here in regards to dating is to try to join some sort of local group that meets up. So it would probably be a place to meet friends also depending on how much time you have. I think girls may not want to be friends with you because they sense you have a high confidence (you said youre very attractive and guys talk to you all the time.) I don't know, I don't have very many girl friends either and its not because I chose it to be that way, I just rarely get a chance to get to know any other girls. Link to post Share on other sites
veronica12 Posted July 3, 2007 Share Posted July 3, 2007 Ok i dont know whats going on with me ....but since i lost my bestfriend i CHANGED SO MUCH.....its wired and we had the same lifestyle it was like she was my twin! anyway i cant trust or have a reall convo with people at work or i dont know how to fit in anymore i havnt had a friend for 2 years ...only my bf. but i get lonely sometimes....i would like to hang out and do what friends do....shopping,going to the club hanging out whatever..and im a very atractive woman...everywhere i go guys wanna talk to me , but i have a bf already that i been with for 2 years. so i dont do that stuff... SO why the hell cant i just have a friend? and I HATE the fact that everywhere i go girls get jelous of me or they give me the cold shoulder because i dont act like im all that at all ! so i dont understand . and when someone gets to know me they really like me and im a down to earth person im not even crazy or loud or act bitchy whatever you wanna call that! I posted a similar question today. I can relate to your situation. Sometimes I miss being 13 and open to meeting new friends. As an adult, we are much more reserved and suspicious. I am often lonely and wish I could reach out and be more spontaneous and open. Link to post Share on other sites
JulieJ Posted July 5, 2007 Share Posted July 5, 2007 Just the other day I was thinking about how I made the current friends that I have. I realized that most of the friendships formed after they had invited me to do something with a group and from their we started hanging out more regularly. I also realized that I was never the one to put myself out there and I always waited for the other person to initiate the friendship. I thought about it, and there i absolutely no reason why I shouldn't be initiating plans with new potential friends. I am alway so thrilled when a new acquaintance wants to hang out, and I'm sure others would be just as excited if I was the one doing the asking. My point is, after you meet someone a few times you shouldn't be shy about saying you want to hang out with them or inviting them somewhere--it could be the beginning of a new frienship! Link to post Share on other sites
veronica12 Posted July 5, 2007 Share Posted July 5, 2007 I have been asking the same question on my thread: "Does anyone miss having a "best friend"?". It has been comforting to receive replies from so many people on "LS" who relate to this. At the same time, it makes me sad. There are so many of us out there who are afraid to be vulnerable and make new friends. I know each day in my own life I appreciate anyone I can connect with. I hope to let my guard down more as I grow. It seems it will be a continuing process for me in my life. Link to post Share on other sites
daydreamerz Posted July 15, 2007 Share Posted July 15, 2007 I'm 21 and going into my last year of college. I do have a few really close friends in school, probably the first group of "real" friends I have ever had. This summer has been really hard for me though because I'm living on my own and I'm in the city that I go to school in but almost all of my friends are at home, 100's of miles from here. I didn't realize how much I would miss them and it's worse than previous summers because I'm a couple of hours from home so I don't even have my family. I think it's really made me realize how hard it's going to be once we graduate and are spread all over the country. I'm really worried because these are the best friends I've ever had and I'm afraid I'm going to lose them once school ends. This summer has also really made me realize how difficult it is for me to make new friends. I'm extremely shy and it takes at long time for me to warm up to people. This is the reason I've only had a few really close friends in my life. I've tried to make connections with others(people from work, my roommates, etc) but I always seem to fail. I'm so afraid to put myself out there because I'm terrified of rejection. Link to post Share on other sites
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