Ally Boo Posted February 10, 2003 Share Posted February 10, 2003 Well, I broke up with my last boyfriend about 3 weeks ago. When we were together, he never wanted me to talk to his best friend, I guess he was afraid of being "cock blocked" even though the guy is happy and in a relationship. It initially wasn't going to be a full blown break up, I just knew I was leading him on bc I was emotionally unavailable, and I had every intention of trying again when I got my heart settled. Well, I talked to his best friend and found out SO many reasons WHY he didn't want me to talk to him. Basically, he's lied to me about everything from liking Kareoke, to how many girls he's slept with since his divorce (which are so stupid). I didn't understand why he would lie to me about stupid things, but I was like whatever, if he'll lie about something small, he'll lie about something big. Then I found out something big. Turns out, he's been incestually involved with his 18 year old neice. I am completely disgusted by this, of course. The thing is, I have a key to his apartment still (though I dont use it) and he has a few things that are mine as well. I have no desire to ever speak to him again. Part of me wants to tell him off, although it would hurt whatever is left of his friendship with the guy I've been talking to, plus, I just....I dont know. He is 30, and she is 18 or 19...it's his brother's daughter. And although his brother is his half brother, I am completely and utterly disgusted. How should I handle this? Link to post Share on other sites
Debster Posted February 11, 2003 Share Posted February 11, 2003 I've never heard that before. What does it mean? Due to things being busy at work lately, I haven't been checking in as much, so I'm not as up-to-date on things. Is this a guy you got together with after you broke up with the idiot who got someone pregnant? Or is this the idiot who got someone pregnant and you're returning to the scene of the crime? Link to post Share on other sites
midori Posted February 11, 2003 Share Posted February 11, 2003 yikes! A few thoughts: 1. doesn't sound like this friend is much of a friend. If what he has told you is true, how can he justify remaining friends with this guy himself? If he didn't think it was a big deal, why mention it to you? Something there doesn't add up. If it's important enough to convey to his friend's recent ex-girlfriend (thus muddying the waters) then surely it's important enough to make friendship thoroughly unattractive in the first place. 2. you're out of it, thank goodness. Why have anything further to do with the guy? Why sully yourself with further contact just to give him a piece of your mind? 3. if you do get in touch with him for the purpose of getting your stuff back, or some other necessary reason, I'd still keep mum about what this other guy told you. Whether the story is true or not, there's nothing you can do to improve the situation. And why would you want to get caught up in the fallout between the two of them? My goodness! The skeletons some people have in their closets are absolutely dreadful! Link to post Share on other sites
ECman Posted February 11, 2003 Share Posted February 11, 2003 This guy sounds like a complete a**h***..But you have to be kind of skeptic about his"best friend" that so readily avails this informatio to you. Are you sure he doesn't have alterior motives himself? Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted February 11, 2003 Share Posted February 11, 2003 Midori said: 3. if you do get in touch with him for the purpose of getting your stuff back, or some other necessary reason, I'd still keep mum about what this other guy told you. Whether the story is true or not, there's nothing you can do to improve the situation. And why would you want to get caught up in the fallout between the two of them? [color=darkblue]I think this is the best advice. There is no point in telling him off, it will only make you fee better for a moment. End the relationship, get your stuff back and give him his key. Whatever friendship exists between him and this other guy has nothing to do with you.[/color] Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted February 11, 2003 Share Posted February 11, 2003 Once you break up with somebody, they are free to have sex with any squirrel in the back yard. Forget this dude. Also, get your things from his place while he is home lest you open yourself up for other problems. Then promptly give him his key back. This is something you should have done long before now. I was cock blocked once but the urologist took less than a minute to fix it, although the bill was like $120. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ally Boo Posted February 11, 2003 Author Share Posted February 11, 2003 Cock blocking in my case would hypothetically be....his friend trying to get me...his then girlfriend...and the friend telling me things bad about my "bf" to make me want to not be with him. Actually, his friend told me that they haven't hung out with him since that night....BEFORE we dated. When we were together, we invited them over, but they wouldn't come. And both guys have told me they have grown apart. The friend DID think that it was a big deal, and they left immediately afterwards, and haven't been back since. I agree about the stuff...however, I really don't want to look at the guy again, maybe it would just be easier to leave my stuff with him and mail the key back. I dunno... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ally Boo Posted February 11, 2003 Author Share Posted February 11, 2003 This is not the guy who cheated on me and got the 18 year old pregnant. This was my "rebound" guy. Oh and as for the other guy....I hear he "gets more ass than a toilet seat" and has about 6 girlfriends...including one girl who lives in L.A. and works here in a comedy club sometimes...and a rumor is going around that they are engaged...so who knows. Link to post Share on other sites
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