Pichachu Posted December 19, 1999 Share Posted December 19, 1999 I have a boyfriend who is 15 years older than me. He makes me incredibly happy except for the fact that he is a porno nut. I feal that these women are the worst insult to me, and in there nude state, are being exploited. It makes me sick to see all the pages he printed out of different web sights. I love myself as a beautiful sexy women untill I see these things, then I feal like I am being cheated on. He has six pages devoted to where the sights are in his cabinet, and eight different favorite sights on the interenet favorites screen. Please advise me on how to procede with this relationship!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Wiser Woman Posted December 20, 1999 Share Posted December 20, 1999 The guy's a sicko.... sad but most likely true. My feeling is to drop him like a hot potato. Anyone who can make you feel you don't like yourself or you don't measure up is playing head games with you and with your heart. His obsession, and obsession it is, is not uncommon and he probably needs treatment. It might be different if you and he enjoyed a flick or something pornographic in nature together but thinking of him hunched over a computer gazing at that stuff all the time turns my stomach and it obviously isn't making you happy either. Have you told him how you feel? What's his reaction? If you haven't told him, sit down with him and let him know how this bothers you. His reaction will tell you if you want to continue to invest more of yourself in this guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Blondie Posted December 20, 1999 Share Posted December 20, 1999 The guy's a sicko.... sad but most likely true. My feeling is to drop him like a hot potato. Anyone who can make you feel you don't like yourself or you don't measure up is playing head games with you and with your heart. His obsession, and obsession it is, is not uncommon and he probably needs treatment. It might be different if you and he enjoyed a flick or something pornographic in nature together but thinking of him hunched over a computer gazing at that stuff all the time turns my stomach and it obviously isn't making you happy either. Have you told him how you feel? What's his reaction? If you haven't told him, sit down with him and let him know how this bothers you. His reaction will tell you if you want to continue to invest more of yourself in this guy. I've been going through almost the exact thing. My bf is visiting porn sites a lot lately. I don't see anything wrong with an occational visit, but it's getting ridiculous. I think he's having a problem with E.D. and may be trying to get some arousal. Anyone else wonder about that? I haven't talked to him about it yet, it's a pretty tough subject for men to open up about. Link to post Share on other sites
michael Posted December 21, 1999 Share Posted December 21, 1999 your boyfriend must still think he is single huh?!! You need to inform him he has a girlfriend and she doesnt approve of him cheating on her! And it is soo disrespectful and morally insulting to a relationship if it bothers you.Dump the chump if he doesnt lose the smut.He is probably using his hands up way to much when you arent around.What is this freak thinking.My girlfriends always made me satisfied enough not to turn to porn.Good luck bud. I have a boyfriend who is 15 years older than me. He makes me incredibly happy except for the fact that he is a porno nut. I feal that these women are the worst insult to me, and in there nude state, are being exploited. It makes me sick to see all the pages he printed out of different web sights. I love myself as a beautiful sexy women untill I see these things, then I feal like I am being cheated on. He has six pages devoted to where the sights are in his cabinet, and eight different favorite sights on the interenet favorites screen. Please advise me on how to procede with this relationship!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Mel Posted December 21, 1999 Share Posted December 21, 1999 I'm here to tell you that he's not going to change. My husband started hiding the magazines 8 1/2 years ago, when I was pregnant with our first child. Thought we came to a "mutual" understanding as to where I stood on the issue. Well, last year it started up again, first the internet and then ANOTHER discussion about how aweful it makes me feel. THEN a few months later 4 more completely raunchy magazines mysteriously show up hidden in his office. Go figure. I feel completely hollow inside. I am considered attractive and am the one who has the sex drive in the house. So if he isn't ever horny, why does he seem to find enough "energy" to get off to others? And no matter what he tries to say, you know dang well that's what he's doing. Isn't that a pleasant way to think of the father of my two children? It's hard to get that respect and trust back. Anyway, if it bothers you, get out, before you're in too deep. Best of luck to you. I have a boyfriend who is 15 years older than me. He makes me incredibly happy except for the fact that he is a porno nut. I feal that these women are the worst insult to me, and in there nude state, are being exploited. It makes me sick to see all the pages he printed out of different web sights. I love myself as a beautiful sexy women untill I see these things, then I feal like I am being cheated on. He has six pages devoted to where the sights are in his cabinet, and eight different favorite sights on the interenet favorites screen. Please advise me on how to procede with this relationship!!! Link to post Share on other sites
MOONSTAZ Posted December 24, 1999 Share Posted December 24, 1999 I have the same problem I was dating this guy for like 1 year 5 months and then i found porno sites on his computer and i flipped. As it turns out, everyday that i don't give it to him, he waks off and looks at them, which makes me feel pressured to have sex with him when i don't want to...i don't know what to do, is this normal male behaviour???? Link to post Share on other sites
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