Interested in intern, how should I go about this?

[Mydish1]

So there's this new intern that started a week ago, I've only met her recently. I've been coming off friendly and still maintain professionalism in the workplace. As far as friendliness goes, I even welcomed her to grab some magazines from my office if she ever runs out of stuff to read, as i have large stacks of it. But I dont stop and talk to her everytime I pass by her, but once in awhile or if its appropriate.

 

i dont work alongside her as she mainly does filing in the outside area. Unfortunately no one in the office talks to her or tries to be friendly, im the only one. This morning I took some interest in what she was doing, and she even asked me what I do here.

 

Honestly I'd like to tell her she's welcome to join me for lunch today (when I go) or some other day, but i dont know how that would come off or if she'd get freaked out by me asking so soon, i dont want to rush things. I dont mind if we wind up just friends or more, as I do want to get to know her. I think generally she goes for lunch earlier than me, plus she leaves work earlier than me also. Would I be better off building rapport in the coming days and ask her down the line, or perhaps coffee?

[Art_Critic]

i dont want to rush things.

 

Reminder... you are at work..so is she

 

She is earning a living and as such she isn't there to be part of a dating pool..

I would think it would be rather presumptuous of you to think that she is there for you to ask out on a date.

 

If she really is an intern then why would you want her to feel funny about coming to work if you started something with her and it failed or if you tried something and put her in a position of correcting you..

 

If 6 months down the road after you have built up a good work relationship then if you really want to shiiot where you eat then try it.. otherwise just let her be..

[whichwayisup]

People come to work to work, not to be hit on....

 

I would say just get to know her AS A FRIEND. I mean, you don't even know if she's got a boyfriend, or is married.

 

Don't come onto her, ask her out. She's only been there for a week.

[Mydish1]

I spoke with her again when we left the building, and im not as attracted to her as i thought. And for the most part we get along very well, considering the fact I just met her a day ago.

 

She's one of those girls I can see being close friends with. Id much rather get to know her first before anything.

[whichwayisup]

Yup. Leave it at that, and hopefully a nice friendship between co-workers will develope.

[amerikajin]

I spoke with her again when we left the building, and im not as attracted to her as i thought. And for the most part we get along very well, considering the fact I just met her a day ago.

 

She's one of those girls I can see being close friends with. Id much rather get to know her first before anything.

 

Bullllllsh*t.

 

Face it, you want to slip those panties off and go to work. You can say what you want, but we know better.

 

Give her some time and space to get adjusted to the job. Get to know here on a casual basis for now and feel the situation out before you make a move. As others have pointed out, she's there to work so don't create any tension by moving in like a hawk. But if she seems eager and game to know you on the other hand...

[Mydish1]

Well...perhaps. Anyway, I just found out she has a bf in the state where she goes to college...thats what i get for asking how her weekend went! You win some, you lose some.