confused about relationship

[Mike]

I've been seeing someone intimately for 5-6 months now. We've been

 

together for 8-9 months now. We're technically not

 

boyfriend/girlfriend, but there is somewhat of a commitment. She

 

recently broke up with her ex-boyfriend for 5 years 3-4 months before

 

we met, and she has made it clear that she is over it(both mentally &

 

emotionally as it seems). I'm ready for a commitment with her, but in

 

the back of my head I still want to play the field so to speak. I'm

 

still a virgin and I want to love that person before I have sex with

 

them. I have a feeling that I will fall in love with her, and things

 

will go in a positive direction. But as the relationship has

 

progressed, we have still not commited to each other. I feel that

 

things have been going on for while and I can't see any reason for her

 

to be holding back. But the longer she makes me wait, the further I

 

am driven away. Would it be a good idea to give her an ultimatem? I

 

plan that when the new year comes and she hasn't made any decisions, I

 

would tell her that I want some time apart for her to think about it,

 

and for me to get away from the situation as well. I fear that if this

 

happens, I may be tempted or pulled away to another woman. Then again,

 

all this time we've been together she may be waiting for something

 

better to come along, and maybe thats why she hasn't commited to me. I

 

guess I'll never know. Also more importantly is that if I decided to

 

go with someone else, I could be missing my chance to have a loving

 

and sexually fulfillng relationship. I get advice from my friends, but

 

it all just confuses me. I would really appreciate your expert advice

 

on my situation, it would help me out so much. I thank you for your

 

time and patience.

[kris]

I think If u feel this way you should take some time apart

 

If she really loves u she'll think you for giving her time to breathe

 

Prove that your not like other men don't walk away just take some time to get it together and figure it out

 

They say if u love something let it go if it comes back its

 

your and thats how you know its for keeps and its for sure just be ready and willing to give her more if you ever want to talk E-mail Me

 

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-k-

 

just remember theres nothing worse than a cheater so If you wanna live out your sexual disires keep it in mind that all women will hate you if u become a cheater to just 1 girl

 

gotta Go

 

Keri