What do you men think about women who earn 6 figures a year?

[Trialbyfire]

Hey, also I was raised to believe that money and PRESTIGE and STATUS determine happiness. Don't blame me, my parents taught me this. I was also told "go to school to become a doctor or lawyer or dentist so you can make a lot of money and be respected." I don't blame my parents though, I also sincerely believe this from my own life experiences. I don't care as much about "high status professions" as in the type of profession, I only care about money though. I noticed a lot people care more about the money than a "high status profession". Although "high status professions" are still admirable though, mainly because of the prestige factor.

No doubt we're all products of our environment but if someone has core rot, they aren't really good people, therefore, will not draw too many friends. Prestige and status determine nothing.

[Trialbyfire]

I feel sorry for you for having that outlook.

She'll learn and it will probably be a painful lesson. Too bad because she's smart enough to know better.

[Star Gazer]

if someone has core rot, they aren't really good people

 

You've used that phrase "core rot" several times recently. I find it so perfectly descriptive in this circumstance, as well as the others where it was used. I might have to imitate you with that term of art in the future.

 

She'll learn and it will probably be a painful lesson. Too bad because she's smart enough to know better.

 

Well, we can't expect much from someone who actually admires Paris Hilton...

[McFadden]

I'm still in school not making a lot of money yet, but I've had people be weird when they find out my parents have money. It wasn't a big deal with most of the people I dated because they were in the same situation.

 

By the time I am out on my own I may or may not be able to make that kind of money, I'm choosing a career based on doing something I like and not going for the doctor/lawyer/business thing.

[runner]

in a word: nothing. ...just, 'okay !'

 

i'd just give my usual polite blank stare, listen intently if she really felt the need to talk about it whilst trying to change the topic to something more interesting.

 

money in and of itself doesn't interest me, its how you earned it and what you do with it. and the convo doesn't necessarily have to be preceeded with, 'i earn xxx,xxx.xx amount a year, woo hoo !'

[cutegirl]

She'll learn and it will probably be a painful lesson. Too bad because she's smart enough to know better.

 

Learn what? Learn YOUR opinion about "what matters"?. It is not a FACT that prestige and power do not determine anything, as you stated. That is merely your OPINION, You cannot force other people to share your opinion. Different things matter to different people. Perhaps money and prestige mean nothing to YOU, that does not mean that it can be extremely important to others.

 

I do not appreciate the patronizing tone in which you stated that someday "I'll learn.".

 

If I want prestige and power to be important then that makes it so in my life. You cannot dictate what is important or not in someone else's life just because you believe it to be so. Just because money and power is not important to you personally, does not make it so for everyone else.

 

Everybody has different values and morals.

 

Your belief that power and prestige aren't important are simply your beliefs, they are not universal.

[Trialbyfire]

You've used that phrase "core rot" several times recently. I find it so perfectly descriptive in this circumstance, as well as the others where it was used. I might have to imitate you with that term of art in the future.

 

Well, we can't expect much from someone who actually admires Paris Hilton...

You're welcome to use it. It's applicable sometimes.

[Trialbyfire]

Learn what? Learn YOUR opinion about "what matters"?. It is not a FACT that prestige and power do not determine anything, as you stated. That is merely your OPINION, You cannot force other people to share your opinion. Different things matter to different people. Perhaps money and prestige mean nothing to YOU, that does not mean that it can be extremely important to others.

 

I do not appreciate the patronizing tone in which you stated that someday "I'll learn.".

 

If I want prestige and power to be important then that makes it so in my life. You cannot dictate what is important or not in someone else's life just because you believe it to be so. Just because money and power is not important to you personally, does not make it so for everyone else.

 

Everybody has different values and morals.

 

Your belief that power and prestige aren't important are simply your beliefs, they are not universal.

Each of us has to learn our own lessons in life...when you get to where you want to go, it will all be meaningless. Been there, done that...

[cutegirl]

Each of us has to learn our own lessons in life...when you get to where you want to go, it will all be meaningless. Been there, done that...

 

You are assuming that the "lesson in life" as you call it, is that "money and prestige is not important". That is only your opinion, I can chose to have whatever I want to be important to me.

 

I also don't feel that life has to be about "lessons". Perhaps life is just about living it as it happens, who says you have to "learn" anything?

[Trialbyfire]

You are assuming that the "lesson in life" as you call it, is that "money and prestige is not important". That is only your opinion, I can chose to have whatever I want to be important to me.

 

I also don't feel that life has to be about "lessons". Perhaps life is just about living it as it happens, who says you have to "learn" anything?

Life is one big learning experience. If you stop learning, you'll stagnate and get left behind with the other mal-adjusted. No doubt there's different ways to live.

 

One more word of business advice though cutegirl:

 

If you want to run with the big dogs, you gotta' learn to pee a little higher darlin'...

[Curmudgeon]

I don't think most guys know that women can earn more than they do. For example, some guys "think" they can impress a woman by driving a Benz or BMW or even a Lamborghini... By doing so they are automatically ASSUMING a woman cannot afford one on her own and therefore would be impressed. They do not consider the option that perhaps she makes even more than he does and wouldn't be impressed... They do not even consider that as a possibility. Therefor I think that it doesn't cross most men's minds that there IS a possibility that a woman, could possibly earn more than they do. I feel like the man usually ASSUMES he makes more than the woman does.

 

...that you don't like men very much and believe yourself superior to them. It oozes out of your every post.

 

Pity!

[McFadden]

Sometimes I feel like some guys are only giving me the time of day because of my car (my parents helped pay for it a bit.) Especially the ones who have lousy cars or don't have cars yet. I think that's kind of hot though.

[bish]

Would you be intimidated and threatened or would you be fascinated and enchanted?

 

Would you find this particularly rare and special, or are you generally aware of the fact that there ARE women out there who earn decent money? Or have you never come across such a successful and independent woman before?

 

I think that you are fascinated about what you make for all of us.

You seem really intent on letting everyone know how much you make.

 

Good for you. I'm sure we are all happy for you and its great to see someone who is very successful, as are most of us.

 

But is there really some reason you feel the need to bring this up all the time? Its starting to look somewhat arrogant and narcissistic.

[bish]

I don't think most guys know that women can earn more than they do.

 

So, what exactly do you do?

[Art_Critic]

Would you be intimidated and threatened or would you be fascinated and enchanted?

 

Would you find this particularly rare and special, or are you generally aware of the fact that there ARE women out there who earn decent money? Or have you never come across such a successful and independent woman before?

 

Today for a woman to be making six figures it really isn't that rare...

I know of 2 highschool teachers that make 95k a year..They do however have PHD's and one is a coach also

 

I would respect a woman making any amount of money for a living.. whether it be 30k or 400k..she would get the same respect from me..

I wouldn't be threatened.. Why be threatened over someone who can support themselves ?

 

Get it yet.. 100k isn't what it used to be

You talk like it is a big deal... Not to say that it is a measly amount.. but 6 figures today isn't wealthy..

 

If a person makes 100k a year and spends it all on cars and depreciating assets I would think she is possibly much poorer than the family making 65k a years saving their 10% in the 401k and saving thru their home..

 

Now if you make 7 figures.. then I would think that might be a rare occurrence or even the very high 6 figures..

 

Remember one thing.. all it takes is a down turn of things in your life and 6 months and you loss every thing you have..

 

Cherish what you have.. don't brag about it

[Touche]

So, what exactly do you do?

 

I think I once remember her saying that she helps run some web-based sex sites. I could be wrong but cutegirl can correct me if I am.

 

By the way, cutegirl. It's going to be very hard for you to find a mate that you'll ever be happy with I think. You have some rather warped views on men. I agree with Curm on that one.

 

Also, it's a shame money doesn't buy class. No offense meant but throwing your money around for all to see and being flashy is really tacky. It shouts "nouveau riche" and is very declasse'.

[Lizzie60]

It could be possible for men, especially those who don't make too much money to be intimidated... It's hard to say... it really depends on how 'confident' that person is... how smart.. etc.

 

It is not uncommon for a woman to be in the 6 digits... trust me...it isn't LOL... for some, it could be very easy... without a PhD or what not...

 

But money is not all... but I agree it does bring a lot... it does contribute to happiness...

 

I rather be rich and healthy than poor and sick...

[directx]

I think its great that anyone can be successful moneywise.

It doesnt bother me at all, in fact I prefer it. It shows she knows how to be successful. Its sexy as hell.

 

Hell, I would go so far as to quit my job and be a stay-home dad and do everything I can to make it easy for her to work.

 

Doesnt bother my ego at all.

[hotgurl]

cutegirl I think your problems have less to do with how much you make and more to do with your attitude.

 

Teling everybody how great you are because you make x gets really old really fast.

 

who cares how much your make.

[norajane]

cutegirl, I get the sense from your posts here that you wish to be admired for what you've accomplished, that you wish to get external validation from others for your successes. However, because of the nature of your business, you are fairly well isolated from most people on a day-to-day basis, which may lead you to wishing people would recognize that you are financially successful through your status purchases - cars, clothes, etc. - and somehow, you're not getting the validation you need. You seem constantly disappointed that people don't recognize you are well off, or are even angry that men in particular don't automatically respect you for what you have attained.

 

My suggestion would be to broaden your circle of acquaintances and change your milieu somewhat. Join some professional associations - like a women business owners association, or an entrepreneurs association open to both men and women, or an investment club. They would be the first people to recognize and applaud your success, and that might bring you into contact with people who WOULD automatically assume you earned your car yourself. If it's status recognition you are after, you might also want to join a country club or something.

 

You really can't expect people on the street to care about you or to even notice your car and clothes and whatnot, especially in Southern California. Maybe the valet guy will notice, but most people are too wrapped up in themselves, and no one is going to notice you while you're running your business from your house all day.

[Krytellan]

And what do you say to social workers who help the mentally infirm or help homeless children find safety?

 

Thanks Sweetie. We "little people" appreciate you jumping in to defend our honor. I thought life was bad enough, but if I had the OP's view of success someone would have to be talking me off of the Glenn Jackson Bridge right now.

[Krytellan]

It could be possible for men, especially those who don't make too much money to be intimidated... It's hard to say... it really depends on how 'confident' that person is... how smart.. etc.

 

Hey, I'll be honest. I was recently in a relationship in which she had just reached that 6 figure earning potential and it was a little freaky for me. I'm smart (well, 2 standard deviations above average... hey, it's the one thing I CAN brag about... leave me alone ) and relatively confident. I've just never been around it. Military family, first to graduate college... just not part of my schema of what the world is. So yeah, it freaked me a little. There were times when I remembered being more comfortable when I wasn't around that much money. It would probably be different the next time around though.

[Hyperpen12000]

Would you be intimidated and threatened or would you be fascinated and enchanted?

 

Would you find this particularly rare and special, or are you generally aware of the fact that there ARE women out there who earn decent money? Or have you never come across such a successful and independent woman before?

 

I wouldn't be bother by it at all, unless she's trying to be controlling because of it. A lot of people believe that progression of monetary is progression of self. Which is totally non-evident. That type of thinking messes up our society.

 

Most men are intimidated and threatened by it because they feel as though they have nothing to offer. They (even myself) was taught that man should financially provide for his woman. When she's profusely doing it for herself, it defeats the purpose. Also, some men feel they should have high job positions to impress women. Though women say they just want a man with a good heart, in reality men believe otherwise. "What women wants a man who works as a movie usher or store manager at target?" is what they say.

 

 

 

There's just a lot of social reasons why men and women play the field this way.

[Star Gazer]

If you want to run with the big dogs, you gotta' learn to pee a little higher darlin'...

 

 

I assume that you don't like men very much and believe yourself superior to them. It oozes out of your every post.

 

I don't think any assumptions are necessary, Curm. It's obvious - like you said, it oooooozes.

 

But is there really some reason you feel the need to bring this up all the time? Its starting to look somewhat arrogant and narcissistic.

 

Starting to think?

 

Also, it's a shame money doesn't buy class. No offense meant but throwing your money around for all to see and being flashy is really tacky. It shouts "nouveau riche" and is very declasse'.

 

I agree completely. Such a shame.

[Trialbyfire]

My first business mentor gave me that little ditty. He was someone I completely admired and respected because he'd learned the ropes and was extremely successful. 5 to 6 figures were his gross monthly income...

 

The part that I found so appealing about him was that you would never know his income level. He never trumpeted his successes in life but rather accomplished everything with grace and subtlety. His charitable contributions were substantial and his networking capabilities were legendary. Very old boys club and yet more than willing to welcome and help someone who was wet behind the ears.

 

He also tried to get me to see that it was necessary to stop and smell the roses on my way. I think without him, I would have been lost in the muck and grind. As it stood, I already was to an extent.