What do you men think about women who earn 6 figures a year?

[alphamale]

Would you be intimidated and threatened or would you be fascinated and enchanted?

mostly intimidated & threatened....

 

Would you find this particularly rare and special, or are you generally aware of the fact that there ARE women out there who earn decent money?

I have aquaintances who are female and rake in the dollars....nice ladies but a bit too domineering and male-like for me. Few of them are what would be thought of as traditionally attractive females.

 

Or have you never come across such a successful and independent woman before?

I've dated female lawyers, one ER physician, one woman who was a director of AT&T....I have no problem relating to them intellectually but its the other things that cause problems. ANd many of these types of women tend to be very conservative.

[Trimmer]

cutegirl I think your problems have less to do with how much you make and more to do with your attitude.

Hmmm, I'm getting my "hotgurls" and my "cutegirls" mixed up here... Plays hell with my mental images. But anyway, I agree with this.

 

My first business mentor gave me that little ditty. He was someone I completely admired and respected because he'd learned the ropes and was extremely successful. 5 to 6 figures were his gross monthly income...

 

The part that I found so appealing about him was that you would never know his income level. He never trumpeted his successes in life but rather accomplished everything with grace and subtlety. His charitable contributions were substantial and his networking capabilities were legendary. Very old boys club and yet more than willing to welcome and help someone who was wet behind the ears.

I agree - for me, it's more about the person and her attitude, and not specifically about the money. I would be attracted to someone with confidence, honor, and a generous spirit, who accomplishes meaningful goals and navigates life with grace, subtlety, and humor. Women with lots of money can certainly be that way. So can women making less than 6 figures. Alternately, just as much as men can, high-earning women can also be arrogant, presenting a false confidence and always seeking external validation, measuring others with a financial yardstick - not attractive.

 

You look to be asking the question "how does a woman's money affect your opinion of her?" My answer is that my opinion of a woman is heavily dominated by her attitudes and the way she acts, not because of, but in spite of her money. I guess another way I would sum it up is that an arrogant attitude about money can be a significant turn off, but lacking a solid spirit and personality, having money doesn't make up the difference; it doesn't add much to the package.

 

Did the answers on your thread here surprise you, or were they pretty much what you expected?

[Trialbyfire]

My answer is that my opinion of a woman is heavily dominated by her attitudes and the way she acts, not because of, but in spite of her money. I guess another way I would sum it up is that an arrogant attitude about money can be a significant turn off, but lacking a solid spirit and personality, having money doesn't make up the difference; it doesn't add much to the package.

Very succinctly put Trimmer.

 

It's also the difference between old money and new.

[Topper]

In the big world of real money a low 6 figure income is well ...chicken feed. I worked in a bussiness that brought me in contact with people that earned millions in a year. You can't keep a 4.5 million Dollar Yacht with crew without having some real assets. 100 million? If you have that in play you are now starting to play with the Big Boys.

Cutegirl you may be doing OK for yourself. That's great, more power to you. Just why do you need to come in here all the time bragging about your income?

A long time ago I was doing some work on a modest 55 foot yacht. A Man wearing jeans an old polo shirt and worn sneakers approached me. he wanted someone to come take a look at his boot to do some work. I finished my work and went over to take a look at his boat. it was a 125 foot built in Holland and the interior was finished in Italy. So I'm thinking this guy in Jeans and sneakers most be the skipper. Nope it is his Yacht. We have some beers talk over what needs to be done and have a few more beers. This was a really fine gentlemen. he was down to earth with little pretence. He never talked about his money. he had a few passions one was boats and sport fishing. the other was collecting fine art. It was only later that I found out the guy who hired me was worth about 600 million. One of the things he was most proud of was setting up a charitable foundation.

There are times in my life I made a low 6 figure income. Life can be can throw you a curve at any time.

your Idea that Money is the only means to measure sucess is very limited.

[alphamale]

basically what it comes down to is that it's hard to get it up for an average looking woman who makes double what you do.

[nittygritty]

The "new money" mentality that you display makes me wonder if you grew up extremely poor? Your love of money is repulsive so I think the reason your needing to ask the question "What do men think about women who earn 6 figures a year?" is because you don't understand that the problem is really your personality.

 

It wouldn't matter how financially successful you are in RL if this is the depth of your conversations.

 

You sound like a wannabe to me. Most people who have money don't usually have the need to talk about it all the time. People who have no class or have identity disturbances or character disorders like Narcissists are usually the ones who talk constantly about their love of money, beauty, etc.

 

I recommend professional counseling.

[allina]

I have to say I'm amused yet freaked out about how many times you've posted this same thread over and over.

 

We get it! You make 6 figures!

 

Guess what?! So does my mother, so does my father, so do many people.

 

I think you're flawed in putting so much emphasis on money.

[nittygritty]

Very succinctly put Trimmer.

 

It's also the difference between old money and new.

 

Hey, I was typing when you posted this but I was thinking the same thing.

[Woggle]

Growing up poor doesn't make a person act like that. I grew up poor and I feel no need to go around flashing and showing off. I like my toys but I couldn't care less about status symbols.

[Pyro]

Would you be intimidated and threatened or would you be fascinated and enchanted?

 

Would you find this particularly rare and special, or are you generally aware of the fact that there ARE women out there who earn decent money? Or have you never come across such a successful and independent woman before?

 

I thought that you did this thread already once before, but I will answer again.

 

Honestly, it really wouldn't phase me. Chances are is that she worked very hard to make it to that level, so I would have to congratulate her, but I know that having money can cause some people to become snobby, so if that were the case, I would have no respect for the person.

 

I have met many women that make some great money. Some are cool and some are snobby, so it varies.

[Star Gazer]

The "new money" mentality that you display makes me wonder if you grew up extremely poor? Your love of money is repulsive so I think the reason your needing to ask the question "What do men think about women who earn 6 figures a year?" is because you don't understand that the problem is really your personality.

It wouldn't matter how financially successful you are in RL if this is the depth of your conversations.

 

You sound like a wannabe to me. Most people who have money don't usually have the need to talk about it all the time. People who have no class or have identity disturbances or character disorders like Narcissists are usually the ones who talk constantly about their love of money, beauty, etc.

 

I recommend professional counseling.

 

I don't think whether she grew up poor or not has any real influence here. It really is all about her personality and attitude.

 

Did anyone notice that she posted on the thread about guilty pleasures that she posts on another forum where women post pictures of themselves posing with their high-end hangbags (LV, Gucci, etc.), and that she admires Paris Hilton for her wealth that stems from nothing? Barf.

 

Growing up poor doesn't make a person act like that. I grew up poor and I feel no need to go around flashing and showing off. I like my toys but I couldn't care less about status symbols.

 

I agree with you here. I grew up poor as well, and I don't have cutegirl's attitude about money, arrogance, success, and/or flashiness. In fact, I'm much more comfortable spending time and being around people who have NO money.

[Herzen]

I've seen extremes. My ex is very wealthy while my recently unemployed gf is striving just to hold on. Money/wealth matters naught to me in a woman, I'll take great smarts, a sharp sense of humor and an unquenchable sexual thirst over a large bank account, any day.

[doiask42much]

SG, I noticed that re: cutegirl and her high-end handbags as well. I didn't want to make snap judgments (I usually do but am working on not doing so), but it did look a tad shallow.

 

That said, I do think money does matter. It gives you freedom, choices. I've been with it and without it and it's definitely better to be with, as long as it's not an obsession. I guess I see it as a tool. I've been with exes who could not sustain themselves consistently and then I became like a bank to them. A bank they did not have to pay back. And I have a gf who is consistently scraping by, so when we hang out I either feel obliged to pay for her or that we do something that doesn't cost anything, which mostly consists of watching TV on my couch. I can't say it isn't limiting. NO money at all does kind of suck.

 

I guess I thought the OP was looking to see whether it was a plus or a minus for a woman to be doing that well. I think it's definitely a plus, as long as all the other necessary elements are there re: personality.

[bish]

cutegirl I think your problems have less to do with how much you make and more to do with your attitude.

 

Teling everybody how great you are because you make x gets really old really fast.

 

who cares how much your make.

 

Methinks she doesn't even make that much. Unless she is a high dollar prostitute, or a trust fund baby that just lets investments make money, people who "earn" 6 figures are far too busy to be on a site telling people that they make 6 figures.

 

Methinks she is a liar.

[doiask42much]

Ha, valid point, Bish.

 

I was also thinking, inflated salaries like that are usually the first to get cut in times of economic downturn. I recently read a book about that very subject, called Bitter Is the New Black, the memoir of a haughty, overpaid woman (she made $250k) and how she was laid off and forced to give up her lifestyle, to the point that they were almost evicted from a "ghetto" apartment and she couldn't find a job, not even in retail. I'm not recommending the book per se (it wasn't terribly good) but more illustrating that just because you make 6 figures today, if you actually do, you may not always make that much. And if and when your riches disappear, how will you define yourself?

[hotgurl]

Methinks she doesn't even make that much. Unless she is a high dollar prostitute, or a trust fund baby that just lets investments make money, people who "earn" 6 figures are far too busy to be on a site telling people that they make 6 figures.

 

Methinks she is a liar.

 

I don't think she is lying but it it is possible.

 

I think she has said that she makes her money from internet porn. And I can see making 6 figures in that biz. which is why she is on the internet all day.

 

I also thougth she goes on about how rich she is to compensate for how she makes her money.

[nittygritty]

Growing up poor doesn't make a person act like that. I grew up poor and I feel no need to go around flashing and showing off. I like my toys but I couldn't care less about status symbols.

 

Your right, growing up poor, middle class or rich doesn't make a person act like cutegirl. I have no idea what causes someone to act like that.

[Trialbyfire]

I don't think she is lying but it it is possible.

 

I think she has said that she makes her money from internet porn. And I can see making 6 figures in that biz. which is why she is on the internet all day.

I agree with this. It's fairly easy to multi-task.

[Touche]

Your right, growing up poor, middle class or rich doesn't make a person act like cutegirl. I have no idea what causes someone to act like that.

 

I'd guess it's parents who didn't teach her values.

[Art_Critic]

If a woman makes 7 figures then would that change anything ?..

 

6 figures is a norm today considering inflation from the last 20 years..

Now 7 figures is a class change..

 

It wouldn't change anything for me .. other than I could get free good investment advice for my 4 figure salary..

[bish]

I don't think she is lying but it it is possible.

 

I think she has said that she makes her money from internet porn. .

 

Well, thats pretty close to the high dollar prostitute that I mentioned.

[nittygritty]

I'd guess it's parents who didn't teach her values.

 

I agree but cutegirl is an adult now and is choosing her own values.

[cutegirl]

Methinks she doesn't even make that much. Unless she is a high dollar prostitute, or a trust fund baby that just lets investments make money, people who "earn" 6 figures are far too busy to be on a site telling people that they make 6 figures.

 

Methinks she is a liar.

 

I can prove it. Would you like for me to post a copy of last years return with my name and ssn blacked out? It shows the dollar figure. It might not prove anything though because I will have to block my name and ssn out and I'm unwilling to post a copy of my drivers license for obvious reasons.

 

Also, I'm on the internet probably 15 hours a day. I'm not busy at all. I actually only work a few hours ago a day, but I'm on-line pretty much most of the day and night as well. I have enough residual income building up where I make money when I sleep. I don't actually have to be "working" in order to get paid. I don't work in a 9-5 job.

[Trialbyfire]

I agree but cutegirl is an adult now and is choosing her own values.

Very true.

 

To give her the benefit of the doubt, some people need to learn on their own, instead of being willing to take advice and go with it.

[cutegirl]

Well, thats pretty close to the high dollar prostitute that I mentioned.

 

I guess you don't what "marketing" and "selling" means. There's a big difference between being IN it and SELLING it through affiliate programs.