Disappointment after disappointment...

[NotKelly]

This isn't so much about a "looking for love" thing as it is about just reeling under a string of disappointments. It seems my life is just getting worse and worse, more and more hopeless and unpleasant, and none of the recommended things seem to be helping. My job is getting worse and worse, I only get 2 weeks vacation a year and don't even get to take them until summertime because my workload is so heavy. I *never* get to go anywhere, *never* get to get away (and I don't even know anyone who likes to do the things I like to do, anyway). Well, I had a camping trip planned for the end of May, I was really looking forward to it, and it had to be canceled due to a death in the family (and not even someone I was terribly close to - just one of those things where you had to be "present" at the funeral services). Now it looks like the trip I planned for my second week off (around the 4th of July) might not happen either because the person I was supposed to go with might not be able to go. That's it. That's all the chance at a vacation I get until next summer.

 

The volunteer group I was so happy to join a couple years ago has turned into a huge disappointment. Try as I might, I just fundamentally don't click with this group of people and finally, after months of trying to make it work, I finally quietly decided to just stop going to the meetings. I like some of the individual people in the group, but it's impossible to pry them away from the group and have any real conversations with them about the issues. It was super hard for me to join this group in the first place, because I'm not a "joiner." I *really* went out of my comfort zone with these folks, for very little result. But I believed in the cause (still do) but sadly I just don't see it going anywhere. Two years down the toilet. Frankly I doubt they'll even notice I'm gone.

 

In April, I was really psyched to apply for a new job (the first one I'd applied for in years) that I was well suited for. It was one of those things where you look forward to going on the interview because you know exactly what they want. I was hoping they'd call. Well, it turned out the job posting wasn't even real - they'd hired someone weeks ago and neglected to remove it. Normally not a huge disappointment but it just seems like Chinese torture lately, drip drip drip all in the same place on your head and it feels like hammer blows.

 

It seems like this has been going on for years and years. Other people just seem to drift through life and wonderful things happen to them, but nothing good ever happens for me and I'm forced to sit there and watch other people enjoy life. When I'm TRYING, I'm really TRYING. And no, I'm not "trying too hard." I'm just attempting the normal things that normal people attempt. And nothing is happening.

 

Nothing is going right for me. I feel like I'm going to just drop dead at my work desk one of these days and no one will even notice. After a while you don't even want to try any more. You don't even let yourself get excited or hopeful about anything... it's just constant doors slamming in the face. I have no energy left to make any new plans and they probably wouldn't work out anyway. Needless to say I don't have ANY energy for a boyfriend.

 

Sometimes I wish I would just get cancer and fade away. I feel like I'm stuck in a bad, boring movie, waiting for it to be over. It's so pointless. What am I doing wrong?

[Tony T]

Sometimes I wish I would just get cancer and fade away. I feel like I'm stuck in a bad, boring movie, waiting for it to be over. It's so pointless. What am I doing wrong?

 

You've got a seriously bad attitude and outlook on life. There are a LOT of people that have it MUCH worse than you in life. A lot of men were blown to bits in Iraq today and thousands of men will go to sleep tonight there with a great fear they will be next. You have it so good you have no idea.

 

Pick yourself up by the bootstraps and start looking and thinking positive. As you think, so shall it be...the saying goes. Your negative thinking only perpetuates your reality. Remember, everything that happens in the world starts with a thought. Thoughts are things.

 

Take some of you lunch money tomorrow and buy the current best seller, "The Secret." It has a web site too. I don't make any money off of it, I don't even know the people that wrote it. But I do know you need to read it real bad and you need to get past the stinkin' thinkin' that makes all this crap happen to you.

[Star Gazer]

You've got a seriously bad attitude and outlook on life. There are a LOT of people that have it MUCH worse than you in life. A lot of men were blown to bits in Iraq today and thousands of men will go to sleep tonight there with a great fear they will be next. You have it so good you have no idea.

 

Pick yourself up by the bootstraps and start looking and thinking positive. As you think, so shall it be...the saying goes. Your negative thinking only perpetuates your reality. Remember, everything that happens in the world starts with a thought. Thoughts are things.

 

Take some of you lunch money tomorrow and buy the current best seller, "The Secret." It has a web site too. I don't make any money off of it, I don't even know the people that wrote it. But I do know you need to read it real bad and you need to get past the stinkin' thinkin' that makes all this crap happen to you.

 

Holy cow, Tony! As I was reading your post, I was thinking, "Yeah, she sounds like someone who could benefit from 'The Secret'" and then you said just that!!

 

I don't make any money off of it either, and would highly recommend you go pick it up. Start with the DVD version though (I think you can even rent it at the video store) - it pulls you right in.

[Ersatzteile]

No offense, but "The Secret" is one of the stupidest books I've ever read.

 

And TonyT, your reply to NotKelly was needlessly harsh. Do us a favor, don't go into the counseling field professionally. That person obviously came here looking for some comfort, and you browbeat her instead. God, what a ****ing ******* you are. (Is part of "The Secret" making other people feel bad?)

[EIN]

Join a gym, that is such a great relief when you achieve new heights in your exercise regimen and gain more confidence. I work with no free vacations so consider yourself fortunate. Just because its a national holiday and everyone seems to be going away and stuff does not mean that you can not go on your own time. Imagine all those that are working during these holidays. I am sure they as well wish they were somewhere else. If you want to vent pm me, I always listen. All the best.