Trialbyfire Posted June 28, 2007 Share Posted June 28, 2007 Ya know.... I just put it all in perspective. Since my breakup: I have a larger and much better class of friends. I have a better job, and I'm making more money. I've lost weight. I have a couple of female suitors now, apparently, though I'm not really into either one, but it feels good to be "desired" again. Meanwhile.. She's still screwing around (she's had at least 2-3 relationships in the last year) She's still hiding secrets from her parents that would break their hearts..... I've even met 2 people in the last year who actually knew her at one time, both of them with NOTHING nice to say about her, even as far back as high school. I look at it as a positive "epilogue" to this whole story. -tp waiting for a new adventure to begin:) Enjoy your new life and remember, her arse has a door imprint on it, from when you kicked it shut to prevent her return. Tbf Karma is wicked mean. Link to post Share on other sites
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted June 28, 2007 Share Posted June 28, 2007 As of tonight, she removed the picture. Very odd...yet....a little frightening, if you catch my drift..... -tp i sense something...a presence i haven't felt since..... Ooooh this sounds like my favorite horror movie. Scary stuff. Wonder what that action on her part means...removing that picture so quickly after you visited her page. This could be a ploy on her part... TP dear, don't visit that page again. You're so terribly tempted, I know, but be a good boy and resist the urge. (TTSP means well. You know that, don't you?). Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted June 28, 2007 Share Posted June 28, 2007 And here I am, laughing AT her. Feels good to be "the better looking ex". Yes, it's shallow, but what the hell. It feels good. -tp surprised she isn't dating women again. I think it's a matter of perception and you can look at it one of two ways. a) You can be joyful that she dumped you and chose someone whom you feel is inferior to you. OR b) You can be upset that she chose someone who you feel is inferior to you yet she still she chose him over you. Either way, what I would do is forget about her. She's yesterday's news. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted June 28, 2007 Share Posted June 28, 2007 I think it's a matter of perception and you can look at it one of two ways. a) You can be joyful that she dumped you and chose someone whom you feel is inferior to you. OR b) You can be upset that she chose someone who you feel is inferior to you yet she still she chose him over you. Either way, what I would do is forget about her. She's yesterday's news. No offense, CG but I really don't see the purpose in bringing up option B. I mean what was the purpose of that? TP already went for column A here. I question your motives in bringing up option B. What's the point? Is that supposed to help TP in some way that I'm not seeing? Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted June 28, 2007 Share Posted June 28, 2007 No offense, CG but I really don't see the purpose in bringing up option B. I mean what was the purpose of that? TP already went for column A here. I question your motives in bringing up option B. What's the point? Is that supposed to help TP in some way that I'm not seeing? I'm just presenting the way some people think and feel. I didn't mean to assume that HE is necessarily leaning towards B. What I am saying is that is a possible negative repercussion to many who are healing when checking out an ex's web site. Some may feel the elation of A for a while, then after thinking about it, switch to B. If he's truly over her, he wouldn't have the slightest inclination of checking out her web page. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted June 28, 2007 Share Posted June 28, 2007 I'm just presenting the way some people think and feel. I didn't mean to assume that HE is necessarily leaning towards B. What I am saying is that is a possible negative repercussion to many who are healing when checking out an ex's web site. Some may feel the elation of A for a while, then after thinking about it, switch to B. If he's truly over her, he wouldn't have the slightest inclination of checking out her web page. I know but this is his thread. What does it matter how others may perceive things? It's how TP perceives things that matters here. Also, I completely disagree with you about that last statement. I've googled old friends and old boyfriends just to see if I can find out what's happened with them. Doesn't mean I'm pining away for any of them. (Trust me, I'm not.) Link to post Share on other sites
Storyrider Posted June 28, 2007 Share Posted June 28, 2007 If he's truly over her, he wouldn't have the slightest inclination of checking out her web page. Life isn't like that. Maybe he is 89.5% over her. If he ever, ever gets to be 99% over her, he may still be curious enough to google her from time to time... Or resourceful enough to use the residue of the relationship in his comedy routine. He would be a terrible comic if he managed to put his past completely behind him. He might have to become an accountant or something. (Not that there's anything wrong with that. ) Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted June 28, 2007 Share Posted June 28, 2007 I know but this is his thread. What does it matter how others may perceive things? It's how TP perceives things that matters here. Many people can relate. Should they all start new threads on the same issue or do you think they might possibly be helped by the experiences of others? Isn't that what LS is all about? Many issues I had in the past were solved without starting a single thread. Just reading. Also, I completely disagree with you about that last statement. I've googled old friends and old boyfriends just to see if I can find out what's happened with them. Doesn't mean I'm pining away for any of them. (Trust me, I'm not.) I'm not saying he is either. But it can with one little innocent peek Link to post Share on other sites
doiask42much Posted June 28, 2007 Share Posted June 28, 2007 I actually sort of agree with CG that if you were TOTALLY OVER someone you wouldn't be inclined to look them up at all. Touche, you don't have to be pining to be curious about what people are up to. If you're not curious in the least bit, you no longer care at all. That's when you're over it. And I think you can be totally over people you were just friends with, too. I don't think it's about whether it was romantic vs. platonic but more how/why things ended. I've had fallings out with various friends at various times, and it can sting almost as much as a romantic relationship when you think about why they're not in your life anymore, what they might be doing, or even feel bitterness that they don't seem to care about you anymore. That can lead to a temptation to look them up. Granted, it's probably not as strong as with an ex, but it's there nonetheless. I know from experience. I think it's great you're being so respectful and supportive of TP's feelings, but I do think he's not totally over her. Making very good progress though. I'm sure he'll be 100% there in no time. Link to post Share on other sites
underpants Posted June 28, 2007 Share Posted June 28, 2007 One of the great wisdoms I found today was in a thread about cruel things done to an ex. Tan commented that a cruel thing was the satifaction in knowing that the ex would not be able to ever f him again. I loved that, it brought a smile to my face. Leave her sight alone, and go on with a wink and a smile. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 28, 2007 Author Share Posted June 28, 2007 Ooooh this sounds like my favorite horror movie. Scary stuff. Wonder what that action on her part means...removing that picture so quickly after you visited her page. This could be a ploy on her part... TP dear, don't visit that page again. You're so terribly tempted, I know, but be a good boy and resist the urge. (TTSP means well. You know that, don't you?). The thing is... it's an AOL profile. There is no way of knowing who is looking at it. She couldn't possibly know I saw it..... .....unless..... -tp pulling down the blinds Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 28, 2007 Author Share Posted June 28, 2007 I've googled old friends and old boyfriends Touche, After seeing your new pic, I wish you'd google me! And by google, I don't mean "look me up on an internet search engine" I know, I'm awful. -tp whoa, momma! Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 28, 2007 Share Posted June 28, 2007 .....unless..... Unless she knows you post on LS... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 28, 2007 Author Share Posted June 28, 2007 Yeah..... Which of course, is the dreaded possibility that all of us who come here face... My real name has never been used on this site (except in my user info, and maybe 6 people on the site know my FIRST name, and only 3 that I know of know my LAST name as well)... I've never posted my email address, or really anything else that would identify me. Of course, anything is possible. And hey, if she does read this...... heck... my life is pretty damned good now. I have more toys than she does, and I certainly have better friends than the shady characters she associates with. And to be totally honest, the women I've been dating since her have been much NICER, and generally better looking. Of course, in her defense, none of the women I've met since her put out as fast. -tp want some salt in that wound? Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 28, 2007 Share Posted June 28, 2007 , but I do think he's not totally over her. Making very good progress though. I'm sure he'll be 100% there in no time. TP.. there is nothing wrong with not being over her.. you posted a post a week ago on how over her you are and she was history.. since then you have posted about her in almost each post.. Keep posting.. you are almost at the finish line... and don't hit her AOL page anymore till you really are over her.. Touche is right that even if you are over someone you will still do the occasional google or check on them thru their blog.. there isn't anything wrong with that.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 28, 2007 Author Share Posted June 28, 2007 Well, heck.. She's the reason I'm here in the first place, right? I came here for answers, and to be honest, I found about 98% of them. Besides, a lot of the time I write about her, is just a little "exercise" in the "creative juices". Why do you think some of my posts are so damned long? LOL I have plenty more to write, let's just say, at least in my...artistic pursuits. Heck, I have a ton of comedy material devoted to her, but what good comedian wouldn't write about a raging (and confused) bisexual ex-girlfriend with a bad haircut and sagging knockers? -tp trust me, man boobs are in. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 28, 2007 Share Posted June 28, 2007 I've never posted my email address, or really anything else that would identify me. Honestly.. if you think her picture was removed becuase you visited her site then she obviously knows some how.. I remember a post a million years ago that you posted your myspace page. It got deleted but maybe there is something you have posted that she might have googled.. If we follow the logic that we google old BF's/Gf's then she has googled you.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 28, 2007 Author Share Posted June 28, 2007 Wait a sec... If she pulled the photo... She also might be ditching the guy already.. Oops. LOL I guess his hour was up. -tp now serving...... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 28, 2007 Author Share Posted June 28, 2007 If we follow the logic that we google old BF's/Gf's then she has googled you.. Interesting point... I'm going to go google myself right now and see if I can "find me" on LS. -tp and the hunt begins. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 28, 2007 Share Posted June 28, 2007 She's the reason I'm here in the first place, right? I came here for answers, and to be honest, I found about 98% of them. Heck, I have a ton of comedy material devoted to her, but what good comedian wouldn't write about a raging (and confused) bisexual ex-girlfriend with a bad haircut and sagging knockers? Yeah.. you are right about that...She is the reason you are here.. and you are one funny guy TP.. I guess you have to get your material from some source.. it might as well be worked on on LS first as anyplace.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 28, 2007 Author Share Posted June 28, 2007 Yeah.. you are right about that...She is the reason you are here.. and you are one funny guy TP.. I guess you have to get your material from some source.. it might as well be worked on on LS first as anyplace.. Yeah, I'm a funny dude. I haven't performed in 5 months. But that was a self-imposed hiatus. Actually, I have a "creative pursuit" I'm in the planning stages of now.. something inspired by one of my co-workers. It's a one in a million shot, but it could prove interesting... AND..it would fulfill one of my New Year's Resolutions. Anyhow.. I just googled myself..... using my real name, my commonly known nickname, my stage name, Myspace name, and a few other things... NOTHING brings up anything CLOSE to LS. Only (thinking) FIVE people on LS know my real full name. Three of them are actually close friends of mine, one lives on the west coast, and one lives in another country. Out of those five, none have seen me naked, by the way, though any of the five are welcome to peek. -tp watch the birdie Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 28, 2007 Author Share Posted June 28, 2007 Yeah.. you are right about that...She is the reason you are here.. and you are one funny guy TP.. I guess you have to get your material from some source.. it might as well be worked on on LS first as anyplace.. Actually, I rarely "test material" on here. Most of what I do has to be HEARD to be understood. And no matter what anyone says.... I'm not getting rid of THAT JOKE. (you know who you are LOL) -tp mmmm.............bop. lol Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 28, 2007 Share Posted June 28, 2007 All I can say is, by looking you've allowed your curosity to grow. Listen to Caliguy! Maybe take a look at his thread about digging into the past and checking up on recent ex's.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teacher's Pet Posted June 28, 2007 Author Share Posted June 28, 2007 I think of it as "idle curiousity". It's been satisfied. I know can't do better than me, and that's more that satisfactory for my ego. And, knowing I've done better with my life since then? Double whammy. -tp thinks "double whammy" is a stupid phrase. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 28, 2007 Share Posted June 28, 2007 I think of it as "idle curiousity". It's been satisfied. I bet 10 bucks that you look at her profile again within a week! Link to post Share on other sites
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