Ali Posted September 4, 1998 Share Posted September 4, 1998 I am sure many of you have been through the same situation as me. I am a 22 year old female. My first love broke up with me about two months ago. He said he needed space but still wants to be friends. We see each other often and he calls me every night. I don't understand why. He says there maybe a chance for us in the future but I don't know whether to believe him or not. I just want him back. I am scared. Link to post Share on other sites
WildFire Posted September 5, 1998 Share Posted September 5, 1998 hey there:) first off *hugs* sounds like u need one. the only thing I sudgest for this situation is go out on a limb and believe him. Mabey he does need space. Try asking him what's up in his life( in diferent words of course) let him know you won't pry at him to find out what wrong but if he ever needs a friend to talk to he can turn to you. If you work on building this friendship one of a few things may happen...you may discover that you like him better as a friend and want to remain that way, you might both discover you really love eachother and get together again..you may end up finding another guy and getting together with him (with this other guy as a friend or not) a friend ship is a really great construction ground for finding out who some one is and building a relationship... I really hope things work out for you...just a few things to think over and mabey (i hope) calm you down and realize a friendship is not so bad..and hey-least he's talking to you:) The more positive you make this new expirience, the more positive you are going to let it turn out..in what ever way it does. *hugs* WildFire I am sure many of you have been through the same situation as me. I am a 22 year old female. My first love broke up with me about two months ago. He said he needed space but still wants to be friends. We see each other often and he calls me every night. I don't understand why. He says there maybe a chance for us in the future but I don't know whether to believe him or not. I just want him back. I am scared. Link to post Share on other sites
LoveAngel Posted September 6, 1998 Share Posted September 6, 1998 I am sure many of you have been through the same situation as me. I am a 22 year old female. My first love broke up with me about two months ago. He said he needed space but still wants to be friends. We see each other often and he calls me every night. I don't understand why. He says there maybe a chance for us in the future but I don't know whether to believe him or not. I just want him back. I am scared. Ali, I can understand how confusing this all must be for you right now. First of all, someone who you cared for very much decided that he wasn't ready for a relationship and broke it off, however he hasn't completely disappeared from your life. He's still very much there and it looks like you haven't gotten a chance to deal with the relationship ending. In a way, you haven't given it time to. You can't possibly survive emotionally from this relationship if you're going to keep riding this roller coaster he's got you on. If the relationship is over, then the relationship is over. If you both want to have a friendship with each other then you've got to make the distinction between what's allowed within the confines of friendship and what's not. If he wants to have a more intimate relationship with you then he has to be ready to commit to it. I'd suggest the two of you sitting down and discussing this situation. You've got to set limits: Either you're going to date, or you're going to have a completely platonic relationship. You're not his pawn and you can't set yourself up to be, consciously or subconsciously on either one of your parts. Best wishes to you. Yours, LoveAngel Link to post Share on other sites
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