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[Lizzie60]

This is a thread for OW and OM only... (could be too painful for BS)

 

so BS please refrain to post if you are going to bash... thank you.

 

Out of curiosity...

 

How did you meet? Who did the first step?

 

How many times a week/month do you get together?

 

Where to you go? in a hotel? your place?

 

Do you always get together for sex or do you sometimes get together to for just a drink and chat?

 

Do you talk over the phone or txt mess. every day? Do you call him/her or wait for him/her to call you?

 

Thanks.

[tft]

We met at work, he made the first step (although he'd argue that!)

 

We see each other 5 days a week, always spend lunch together and go for a drink after work.

 

We don't have sex often, but if we do its at my house. We chat a lot, although there is a strong physical attraction we only kiss most days.

 

He calls me, I don't have his cell number.

[scaredinlove]

This is a thread for OW and OM only... (could be too painful for BS)

 

so BS please refrain to post if you are going to bash... thank you.

 

Out of curiosity...

 

How did you meet? Who did the first step?

 

we met at work and he took all the steps he pursued me for more than a yr before i gave in

 

How many times a week/month do you get together?

 

two times a week because we don't work together any more and we got caught almost a yr ago.

 

Where to you go? in a hotel? your place?

My place ,the car, some other places.......

 

Do you always get together for sex or do you sometimes get together to for just a drink and chat?

 

[We have lunch, we talk .when we were a secret we went to stores, walked around, went mini golfing, to the ball game.Good Old times.... Now we have lunch together and when we can we have sex too .

 

Do you talk over the phone or txt mess. every day? Do you call him/her or wait for him/her to call you?

 

We talk 5 days a week and sometimes he will surprise me on his days off, but not often because he is under survaillence.In the past we would talk everyday thousands of times.We call each other, but I think i call the most

 

 

 

What is this are you writing a book about OW????? Just kidding....

[Love is Tragic]

I actually work at a hotel(how convenient, eh? lol) and thats how i met me MM. At first he wasnt even someone i was interested in in that kindof way, but after talking with him (he would hang out at the front desk when he got off work) quite frequently, he sparked my interest. We pursued each other, although i was much more aggressive about it. When we finally had sex, we thought it would be a one-night stand, as he was supposed to be staying at home for good, that his work wouldnt need him for his assignment any longer.

 

Then i received a text from him about a week later(totally unsuspecting any further contact), saying he was coming back, and for the next 5 months, we had a sexual and emotional affair. We would usually talk every single week day and then had no contact on saturdays and sundays as he would go home on the weekends. We used to text as well until he got in trouble with his company as it was his work cell phone. Just about all of our trysts took place in his hotel room. But now i havent heard from him in a couple months, so ive pretty much assumed its over.

[stillhere]

How did you meet? Who did the first step?

We met at work. We worked together for almost 3 years before he approached me.

How many times a week/month do you get together?

We see each other practically every day now. Usually it was about 3-4 times a week (outside work).

Where to you go? in a hotel? your place?

My place usually. Never been to a hotel, although we almost did when i was still with my H.

Do you always get together for sex or do you sometimes get together to for just a drink and chat?

We have sex as often as possible, but we do spend quality time together. I'll go to work with him at his second job just so we can see each other. He's a workaholic, so he's rarely sitting still for very long.

Do you talk over the phone or txt mess. every day? Do you call him/her or wait for him/her to call you?

We talk on the phone daily. For hours usually. We average about 15 phone calls a day. He always calls to say good morning, and he never goes home without calling to say i love you and goodnight.

I call him and he calls me.

[Curmudgeon]

Even though I'm a former BS, this is not a bash. It's the meetings that I find interesting, though not surprising.

 

I'd been maried 22 years when I met a compelling and exotic woman at work. She was my complete and utter opposite, was the perfect professional and complete Ice Maiden yet we became appropriate friends in spite of it.

 

Three years later I divorced the ex (no connection) and two years after that I asked out my friend. We've now been married almost 11 years.

 

Obviously the workplace can be hazardous to your marital health! I'll be interested in further responses to see if the pattern continues.

[cuteblondegurl]

How did you meet? Who did the first step?

We met at our office building.(different company) I made the first move and we started talking daily.

 

How many times a week/month do you get together?

We get together once a week.

 

Where to you go? in a hotel? your place?

My place

 

Do you always get together for sex or do you sometimes get together to for just a drink and chat?

We do not always get together for sex. Sometimes we go for a drink, dinner, or a show.

 

Do you talk over the phone or txt mess. every day? Do you call him/her or wait for him/her to call you?

We text message each other daily except weekends. I do not call him. He'll call on occasion.

[Lizzie60]

I will talk about the manager, since I have many MMs but this one is different than the others.

 

How did you meet? Who did the first step?

 

At work, obviously... he made the first step.

 

How many times a week/month do you get together?

 

We meet once or twice a week.

 

Where to you go? in a hotel? your place?

 

My place... since I'm single... we're planning a weekend getaway sometimes.

 

Do you always get together for sex or do you sometimes get together to for just a drink and chat?

 

Most of the time, we can't resist having sex.

 

Do you talk over the phone or txt mess. every day? Do you call him/her or wait for him/her to call you?

 

We text every day at work... (internal msn) and while he watches TV at home...he text message me from his BB all evening... I rarely call first, and would never call at his place...

 

Interesting that most affairs starts at work. It's true that we spend more time with co-workers.

[Curmudgeon]

Interesting that most affairs starts at work. It's true that we spend more time with co-workers.

 

Most of us send 45 or more waking hours a week, or much more, with our coworkers which leaves only about 62 waking hours available to spend with our family and with other obligations and commitments, the actual, focused time is usually far less than that, especially if there are active children involved. Long commutes cut even those hours down.

[RecordProducer]

Obviously the workplace can be hazardous to your marital health! I'll be interested in further responses to see if the pattern continues.

I must get a job immediately!

[kchiapet95]

How did you meet? Who did the first step?

 

We met at work. He was my boss. We flirted a lot, but I admit to being the one who finally confessed my attraction.

 

How many times a week/month do you get together?

 

Once a week or so.

 

Where to you go? in a hotel? your place?

 

When we do have sex, sometimes in hotels, at his friend's house, or in the backseat of my car. When we just hang out, we go to a restaurant, or the park.

 

Do you always get together for sex or do you sometimes get together to for just a drink and chat?

 

Sometimes sex, it is hard to resist, but sometimes that isn't practical. We'll just go hiking, or try to talk.

 

Do you talk over the phone or txt mess. every day? Do you call him/her or wait for him/her to call you?

 

We talk on the phone every day, a few times a day. Usually he calls me, but sometimes I call him.

[IpAncA]

Interesting that most affairs starts at work. It's true that we spend more time with co-workers.

 

Gez...I have no time at all to get involved with someone there. I'd have to pencil them in with everything else. I could just see myself calling for a conformation.

 

But if there is one thing I've learned on here is never marry someone who travels or is a businessman. No way!

[Cliche]

We met through work, though not at work. We became friends and remained just friends for months before we discovered that romantic spark.

 

We see each other every day of the week, whether it is just for lunch or dinner, to help each other with work, to go out on dates or just to hang out and talk. He stays overnight at my place 3 to 5 nights a week depending upon our next morning's schedule, and yes, those are sexual encounters. We call each other every day about 5 or 6 times a day. We both initiate the conversations.

 

Were it not for the little fact that he's married and lives with his wife, this would almost appear to be a normal relationship. But alas.....

[TogetherForever]

Gez...I have no time at all to get involved with someone there. I'd have to pencil them in with everything else. I could just see myself calling for a conformation.

 

But if there is one thing I've learned on here is never marry someone who travels or is a businessman. No way!

 

And make sure he doesn't like cake at all!!!!

[IpAncA]

And make sure he doesn't like cake at all!!!!

 

Gez I know.

[Babybird]

 

How did you meet? Who did the first step?

Surprise..we met at work. I'm not sure who took the first step. I asked him to kiss me, but he came over to my house. Which is the bigger step? LOL

 

How many times a week/month do you get together?

We see each other every day. Before the big split outside of work we would see each other 3 or 4 times a week.

 

Where to you go? in a hotel? your place?

My house.

 

Do you always get together for sex or do you sometimes get together to for just a drink and chat?

Most of the time we had sex. There were times that we just got to talking and then he had to go. We only went out once while he was with W.

Do you talk over the phone or txt mess. every day? Do you call him/her or wait for him/her to call you?

We sent texts, and talked every day. On the weekends there were times I didn't here from him. When he found out that I would go out with other guys if I didn't hear from him he started calling. Every great once in a while I would call him. He did most of the calling. Usually pretty late at night. We would talk until sunrise.

[frannie]

1) How did you meet? Who did the first step?

 

2) How many times a week/month do you get together?

 

3) Where to you go? in a hotel? your place?

 

4) Do you always get together for sex or do you sometimes get together to for just a drink and chat?

 

5) Do you talk over the phone or txt mess. every day? Do you call him/her or wait for him/her to call you?

 

 

1) We met online, and it stayed online for a year. Not sure there was a 'first step' as such, and I'm not sure how one defines that. He said he was married, I said right ok. He said his marriage wasn't anything he wanted... I said ok. We started talking about other things and everything. Mostly conversations, no 'moves' no touching. We met in 'real life' a year later.

 

2) & 3) Most ordinary weeks, he comes down to my house on a Tuesday evening after work, and he stays here til Friday morning...

 

4) ... so basically we do everything that people spending all that time together do. Eat, drink, work, go for walks, read books, watch tv, etc. etc. No, it's by no means all about sex. Far from it.

 

5) On the days he's not here, he phones me while he's travelling to and from work. Weekdays are different, and they're times he spends with his family or just relaxing. He doesn't make excuses to go anywhere so he can call. But as with any day we're not together he will email, and text if it's not inappropriate. i.e. he doesn't go to the toilet to text or anything like that!