CURIOUS? esp.for the MEN: When your SO tells you how unattractive they feel

[rtHawk]

I am curious how you feel about this; have you encountered it???

I have both personally and heard my friends talk of this, family etc.

 

What do you think or feel when the person you love, your SO, verbalizes how unattractive they feel; how ugly their body or parts may be in their own eyes. How unattractive they are and how they worry that you as their partner will find others more attractive.

 

What is your response?

your reaction?

how do you handle it or deal with it if it happens more than once?

 

do you know about their childhood or past experiences/relationships and what may cause them to feel these feelings????

 

I am particularly interested in how men feel when the woman they love does this----

[Moose]

What is your response?

I remind her that she's with me, and that my opinion is the only one that matters. I realize that society, "says" she needs to be weight and height proportionate, (and she is), and she needs to feel sexy, so.....

your reaction?

I send her shopping for new clothes, and maybe a weekend at the spa......

how do you handle it or deal with it if it happens more than once?

I remind myself that all women, (and men alike), want to be and feel attractive. So I'm very open to what she wants to do about it.....and I'll bring up how much of a hottie she REALLY is......

[rtHawk]

awwwww Moose---your are so sweet to your Mrs. Moose!!!!!!!!!!!

[UsernameRemoved]

I tell her that she's sexy to me, always has been and if I fail to convince her I simply ask her what she doesn't like and start trying to convince her body-part by body-part and whatever parts she's still unhappy about; I start helping her look into getting them to be the way she wants them.

I just wish she could see what I see when I look at her when she's in these moods.

[rtHawk]

Topic Review (Newest First) Today 5:22 PM KellDarkes I tell her that she's sexy to me, always has been and if I fail to convince her I simply ask her what she doesn't like and start trying to convince her body-part by body-part and whatever parts she's still unhappy about; I start helping her look into getting them to be the way she wants them.

I just wish she could see what I see when I look at her when she's in these moods.

 

 

sweet! keep helping her to see what you see...... reminders and reassurance is always nice and loving.

but.... what is her trigger????

hollywood actresses, magazine models, victoria secet, SI swimsuit, porn, your ??? behaviour around other women????

what gets her in those moods...

ther dreaded pms???