Paulie Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 I generally don't have much difficulty in approaching women, but in this on particular case, I'm really looking for some advice. I go to the same church every week, and volunteer, along with 6 or seven other guys, to pass the collection basket. Thee's one girl, who goes with her friend, and they sit together...I generally stand in the back, either alone, or with my brother. I'm 27, I guess she's about 23. We've made eye contact several times, I'm sure...but I would really, really like to ask this girl out, get to know her better. The problem is that she generally comes in late, and leaves before most people (right after communion), so I'd almost have to like, run after her in order to say hello...although, to be honest, that's not always the case...she's walked by me a few times. In short, what is the most normal, coolest way to approach a stranger in church, and not have it be like...overly random or weird? I's not that I don't have the guts to approach her...I just want to know the best way.. Any input would be appreciated Thanks, Paulie Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted February 17, 2003 Share Posted February 17, 2003 As you may know, one of the greatest fears people have is fear of rejection. That's the only thing that stops you from walking up to her and introducing yourself when she is in your proximity. On the days when she gets to church late and leaves early, you don't stand much of a chance. But the next time she walks by you or is near you, take the initiative, smile and say hello. I don't think you should ask her out at that time...just get her name and have a short conversation. The next time you see her after that, you can walk up to her, address her by name, and make your move. So basically, it's a two...maybe three step process. If you sense there are others in church that you know who may know her, you might talk to them and ask brief questions about her. Perhaps she may attend other church functions that could give you a better opportunity to meet her. Just don't be afraid to make your approach, in any case. To have YOU come to this message board to ask this question, she must have to be one HOT babe!!! Good luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Paulie Posted February 23, 2003 Author Share Posted February 23, 2003 Thank you Tony for your previous advice on this subject. Ideally, I would be able to have this girl walk past near me on the way out of church, say hello, which in effect would plant a seed...and then maybe ask her out one of the next few times that I see her at church. But I cant wait another week to introduce myself...I want to take some initiative, and just plain introduce myself. I was thinking of just walking up to her after mass, and saying " Hi...I'm (My name), I've seen you here every week, and just wanted to introduce myself"...which would be followed by askingher about herself...if she goes to school, etc. Is this weird, or too forward? I'd be curious for some feedback...thanks Link to post Share on other sites
LifeRealistic Posted December 22, 2005 Share Posted December 22, 2005 Ok, since you said "mass" and not service, I am taking you are Catholic. So am I...and this sheds some light on things, as to why this is so difficult. The Catholic church is not as free flowing as like a born again church...its very hard to approach people - because we are supposed to be silent most of the time - except for prayer, and signing , and giving sign of peace etc. Ok, I would do what you were thinking about, but be sure not to compliment her ...why? because that WILL be to forward and seem like a pick up, and maybe a little slimey, even if at church. I think your plan is a great one. and PS its nice to see younger people are going to church Great job ! Link to post Share on other sites
SmoochieFace Posted December 22, 2005 Share Posted December 22, 2005 Now I really am wondering if Paulie got the girl since it's been damn close to THREE YEARS since he asked how he should approach her! Link to post Share on other sites
LifeRealistic Posted December 22, 2005 Share Posted December 22, 2005 wow _ I need to learn how to use this site better- thats for sure! lol :laugh: :laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
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