mishy Posted June 29, 2007 Share Posted June 29, 2007 I broke up with someone last year. We also had a very deep friendship. I haven't posted anything about it on here before. We have seen each other a few times (twice actually in 6 months) at mutual friends gatherings- lunch and a birthday party. The last time was last weekend. He was the one who dumped me (he did it over the phone- it was particularly ugly and thoughtless). At the lunch on the weekend we got on really well and he made references to old private jokes we had - it just felt like we could at least be friends again. I'm not going to call him because he told me ages ago he didn't want me to call him. i just had the sense though, on the weekend that he missed me. i didn't even know he was going to be there so i had no illusions built up in my mind about what to expect. But my question is- from his point of view - the "dumper" - wouldn't it be almost impossible for him to call me because of the fact that he did the dumping? (and that he didn't want me to call him? i just had a feeling from him that we could start to be in contact again. help! Link to post Share on other sites
Hestia Posted June 29, 2007 Share Posted June 29, 2007 are you sure you're over him? you look a bit too excited about the idea of getting back on contacting an ex. what if he doesnt call? is it that a big deal? you've managed to do well without him so far, why would you need him now? you dont need him to call you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mishy Posted June 29, 2007 Author Share Posted June 29, 2007 ok fine :confused: Link to post Share on other sites
Dumbledore Posted June 29, 2007 Share Posted June 29, 2007 ok fine :confused: I'm really sorry that you're feeling this way. It is probably time to put all this behind you, keeping the fond memories, but realising that he is not committed to you anymore. A sad fact of life. There is every chance that you will make new friendships that are just as deep. And, hopefully, ones that will be valued as they should be valued. If he truly cared for you, then I think he would still be in your life. Enough said right there. Link to post Share on other sites
InvisibleTouch Posted June 29, 2007 Share Posted June 29, 2007 Mishy Only he can call. You cant call him. Continue to add value to who you are by building your life. Date other guys casually and be seen to be happy, content and moving forwards. If he does value you then he will respond. It has nothing to do with pride on his part (unless he is dissordered). Until he does call do not let your mind wonder. Just carry on with your new life. Link to post Share on other sites
madgun68 Posted June 29, 2007 Share Posted June 29, 2007 But my question is- from his point of view - the "dumper" - wouldn't it be almost impossible for him to call me because of the fact that he did the dumping? (and that he didn't want me to call him?Mishy, It is possible that he hasn't done so out of guilt or something, but if he really wanted you two to be in contact again, he would take steps to accomplish this. Do NOT take steps to make it easier on him if this is what he wants. Just remember that this was his choice, not yours. He needs to be the one re-establish contact. Link to post Share on other sites
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