cuteblondegurl Posted June 29, 2007 Share Posted June 29, 2007 My parents and I are concerned that my sister's fiancee is using her to gain permanent residency in the US and eventually citizenship. They met in college while completing their MBA. The relationship progressed rather quickly and that's why we are concerned. How do we express our concerns without her getting upset at us? Link to post Share on other sites
Born Again Posted July 6, 2007 Share Posted July 6, 2007 Hi cuteblondegirl- I had a very close friend of mine who was a foreign citizen, went to the US to attend college years ago, and liked it so much that when his student visa ran out, he wanted to stay there. He did this by finding a girl that was willing to marry him for money (it was an agreement between them), and he obtained permanent Visa status. They married, but after a while of living together (they were just out of college), fell in love with each other. Their marriage lasted for over 10 years. They eventually divorced, but for other, non-related issues. I understand your concern about your sister's boyfriend wanting to use her to gain permanent residency status in US. That may be the case, or it may not- you just don't know. He may really love her. Try to explain to your sister in a roundabout way that you have concerns about him using her. If she agrees to being used like that, maybe she can even cut a deal with him like my friend did. If she really does love him however, you may need to back off, and let her figure it all out. No one likes to hear bad news, and you being the bearer of this type of news will not gain you any brownie points with her. Good luck. Born Again Link to post Share on other sites
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