tikster Posted June 30, 2007 Share Posted June 30, 2007 :oWhat does it mean when your ex flirts with you heavily? i mean junior high school methods of getting your attention, bringing up moments that happened in the relationship, with body language he's always facing you, looking at you and kinda follows you where you go. ok, well my ex left me for another girl, who he is still with, about 4 months ago. He has always tried to keep my attention, but i have not thought about them as a way of him trying to be with me again. however, about two nights ago he and i were working together and it seems as though he has reverted back to his very flirtatious ways with me just like he was when he was trying to get me to go out with him. He's always trying to get my attention, tickling me, taking my things and making me fight him for it, very playful and school boyish. apparently he intentionally kept my comments on his myspace so that he could look at my profile ( i deleted him when we broke up),but i recently privated it and he asked me why i did that. He mentioned our first date and an intimate moment that we used to laugh about. at the end of the day he intentionally took my bracelet so that i would have to get it from him when i exited the building. he was supposed to give it back, but instead held onto it, so we were connected through the bracelet (kinda as if we were holding hands). i asked him y he was doing this and he said "i don't kno, meanwhile we were looking at each other( as if we wanted to say something). he was attentive to me during the entire day, and to this day whenever we talk he has never mentioned "her" to my face. I'm wondering if he is testing the waters or something, an ego boost?? well i don't kno. i'm wondering if this is serious enough for me to tell him that he needs to leave me alone because he left me for someone else, didn't seem to care how i felt bout it when we broke up and plus, he is still with her. he is making this moving on process difficult. even if we were just supposed to remain friends this isn't the way he should act, right? Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted June 30, 2007 Share Posted June 30, 2007 i'm wondering if this is serious enough for me to tell him that he needs to leave me alone because he left me for someone else, didn't seem to care how i felt bout it when we broke up and plus, he is still with her. Yes it is... tell him to leave you alone... he seems to be immature and wants all the girls he can get... he didn't give a hoot about leaving you for this other girl...now he's flirtatous with you.... strange... or maybe you're reading too much into this since you're not totally over him yet. be careful... or you'll get hurt again... you're working with him so you got to be civil...but when the conversation turns about your past relationship...etc... change subject or tell him you just don't want to talk about that anymore... period. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted June 30, 2007 Share Posted June 30, 2007 If you still care about him, shut him down fast. The boy's a player. Link to post Share on other sites
Ashbash11 Posted June 30, 2007 Share Posted June 30, 2007 I'm a pro at dealing with an ex boyfriend who flirts and gives constant mixed messages..I would have to tell you to be very FIRM with him and tell him to stop flirting with you. I know it's difficult, because it seems like maybe he's interested again, but you've got to set limits with him! Trust me on this one, I've learned this the hard way. Just think, if he were actually interested in you, he'd still be with you, right? Instead, he left you for another girl, so don't let him get away with this behavior! Link to post Share on other sites
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