Mydish1 Posted June 30, 2007 Share Posted June 30, 2007 I was bored one day at work and responded to this online ad looking for a specific guy to talk, and I fit the criteria. Since then we've been emailing each other daily for almost a week. We have conversations as if we were already friends or we've known each other for years - thats how smooth our conversations are. She's not entirely anonymous, I know some personal things like age/name. A couple times I've teased the idea indirectly of meeting up, but it never came to materialize..often I work late hours and sometimes weekends. My last email I dropped her my # and told her to give me a call. She responded and gave me her online screenname. Quite frankly after all this time I dont even know what she looks like, as neither of us have asked for each other's picture. If im going to be talking to someone constantly like this I would prefer to transition to phone or at least meet up...she lives in my city. But when she bounced back that email with her sn, it made me realize she either: only enjoys my cyber company; she's afraid of rejection; the type of girl that takes things extremely slow and is wary of people; is ugly or has something to hide; or in some form of way anti-social in this respect. And I guess she's always on the computer or has a blackberry because she responds to my emails quickly. I'm the type of guy that prefer to talk to people on phone or in person, I dont like impersonal ways of communication like email/sms/online chat. I dont know...is it possible for someone to purely enjoy someone's cyber company w/o wanting to know what they look like or at least hear their voice? what do you guys think? Link to post Share on other sites
Steveto Posted June 30, 2007 Share Posted June 30, 2007 Nah...she's just being careful. It is way easier for a guy to give his details than a girl. Sure you know her name and stuff and could probably find her address and number if you really wanted to, but the fact remains that she really just met you and has no idea who you are......I mean REALLY are. She replied with her online chat which is an upgrade from email and start talking to her there. I am sure after a bit she will give you her number. Technically you never outright asked for her number. You just offered yours and told her to call you. From the way it looks, yes, this girl is online all the time...probably works with computers in some way shape or form, so it would be easier just to chat online. Just try it for a bit then offer to call her and go out for LUNCH...don't do the dinner thing...lunches are short and if it doesn''t go well, both of you guys can at least finish up and leave fast. I work on computers too and prefer to chat online or email..she is most likely the same way... Link to post Share on other sites
Rain4 Posted July 1, 2007 Share Posted July 1, 2007 I agree with Steveto. There are too many internet pervs out there for a girl to just throw out her number. If she's smart, she'll take some time to get to have a better idea of the kind of person she's talking to - and meet some place public if it gets that far. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mydish1 Posted July 1, 2007 Author Share Posted July 1, 2007 While I agree some girls play it safe, would she be doing all this if she had a bf? she's never brought him up so i wouldnt even know But I guess for now ill see where this goes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mydish1 Posted July 2, 2007 Author Share Posted July 2, 2007 We spoke for nearly 2 hours online yesterday it was great and we even swapped pics...which she brought up. i think eventually we might run out of stuff to talk about. To be honest now that we have each other's sn, i dont even feel like emailing her anymore...seems a little pointless. Before yesterday we'd look forward to each other's emails, but now not so much. If we dont meet up soon i think ill be the one likely to lose interest. do i wait for her to bring it up, or should i? i think next weekend would be a good time. But she seems the type that likes to take it slow so i dont want to scare her off Link to post Share on other sites
Topper Posted July 2, 2007 Share Posted July 2, 2007 Just tell her You would like to meet her. But only when she is ready. Don't be pushy. Let her know that you won't bring up the subject again. Wait for her to get comfortable with that idea. Keep emailing and being friendly. It shouldn't take her to long to get it in her head that your not some weirdo pervert. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted July 3, 2007 Share Posted July 3, 2007 Have you talked on the phone yet ? What do you think of her picture ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mydish1 Posted July 7, 2007 Author Share Posted July 7, 2007 Have you talked on the phone yet ? What do you think of her picture ? mmm..nope! I gave her my #, but she never did call..wouldnt expect her to anyway, girls usually dont have the balls to call up a guy. I thought she was cute, but to me it didnt make much of a difference compared to before & after seeing what she looked like. neither of us had much of a reaction when we saw each other's pics. I mean again thats why I dislike technology...it makes human interaction so impersonal, which is why i wanted to meet her in person. Thats for the help though. But these past few days have been pretty dead for the most part, doesnt seem like she wants to talk to me online and our emails are coming to a crawl. I admit I lost a lot of interest and likely she has too which explains everything...so it was fun while it lasted:D:bunny: Online girls are too flakey anyway, they'd rather kill their interest in a guy by talking to them online rather than meeting in person and taking a risk at chemistry. People that dont take risks dont reap the rewards... Link to post Share on other sites
McFadden Posted July 7, 2007 Share Posted July 7, 2007 I think it is possible she sent an old picture and doesn't look like that, or even that she isn't the person in the picture and may have lied about everything. I don't mean to be paranoid but its literally happened to people I know. I never meet anyone from online unless I know people who know them. Link to post Share on other sites
lovesraqsgirl7 Posted July 7, 2007 Share Posted July 7, 2007 Well, as a female who is currently involved in internet romances I have to say that I've had a strange time with the guys. One guy was sooo insistent to start conversation on the phone that he almost turned me off. I finally talked to him and he sounded so "gay" that I lost interest...he really should've given me more time to "fall in love" with his mind....it might have allowed me to over-ride the "queeny-ness" of his voice. Yuck. As a female I say write and spark her imagination as much as you can....women use their imaginations and pretty much have the wedding allll planned after the first conversation. (Sad but true...) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mydish1 Posted July 7, 2007 Author Share Posted July 7, 2007 I think it is possible she sent an old picture and doesn't look like that, or even that she isn't the person in the picture and may have lied about everything. I don't mean to be paranoid but its literally happened to people I know. I never meet anyone from online unless I know people who know them. I know there are people who send/use fake pics of themselves over the web. But this girl doesnt seem like the type, she's been pretty genuine all this time...but all sorts of weirdos online so i'd only have her word it's her, she might even think the same about me. Well, as a female who is currently involved in internet romances I have to say that I've had a strange time with the guys. One guy was sooo insistent to start conversation on the phone that he almost turned me off. I finally talked to him and he sounded so "gay" that I lost interest...he really should've given me more time to "fall in love" with his mind....it might have allowed me to over-ride the "queeny-ness" of his voice. Yuck. As a female I say write and spark her imagination as much as you can....women use their imaginations and pretty much have the wedding allll planned after the first conversation. (Sad but true...) Ouch sorry to hear that, funny story though. For about a week's time all those emails we sent were mostly playful and imaginative..teasing, etc. and we did reveal real life stuff about each other once in awhile. But it just came to a point where we outgrew it and it wasnt fun sending those emails. There is a possibility that jumping to online chat that one time was the cause of it, everything we said was in real-time and the mystery of wondering what the other looked like disappeared..rather than waiting a day to hear the other to respond to the email...oh well. Link to post Share on other sites
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