I have one shot at this!

[Dre]

Hello all

 

Long story short ... tonight I should have been having a wonderful evening celebrating my 2yr anniversary with my gf ... instead I'm a asking you all for some advice

 

2 weeks ago seemingly out of the blue my gf called me and told me that she "is confused and needs some space" etc ... I was like WTF?

 

Since then she has not been able to talk to me on the phone, has said that she is not ready to see me yet and the only contact we've had is through email

I get the typical lines like "we started getting comfortable" or "I just wasn't happy this past month" etc

 

I brought up a few things that I knew were bothering her somewhat and she agreed ... I said that I had planned on talking to her about all that but she ended up breaking up with me before I had a chance ... she's keeps saying that she "thinks" it's too late or she "doubts" that she will change her mind etc

 

I've emailed her to let her know exactly where I stand (I am willing to do anything to make her happy) ... we are going to be meeting sometime this wee and I wanted to ask everyone about how I should approach this meeting ... should I talk to her about why she wanted to break up etc? should I let her know what my feelings are? should i pretend like it's no sweat off of my back?

 

I feel like I have one shot at this ... there is some doubt in her emails and add to that the fact that she admits that right now she is not ready to face me etc that tells me that either she is guilty of something or that she thinks that seeing me will sway her decision

 

Thanks

[chryssy83]

She already knows you want her back, so you don't need to tell her again. If you meet up with her just let her decide what she wants to talk about. You don't bring up the relationship. Just tell her you wanted to know that she's doing okay and everything. Demonstrate to her that you are also okay.

 

I went through something similar and by the end of the night he was crying/begging me to give him another chance. Can't say that's what will happen with you, but if you do all the begging you don't leave room for her to regret the decision.

 

If you can't go to this meeting and be okay if she says she doesn't want to be with you anymore you aren't ready to go. I am not a huge fan of NC, but you should read what some of the people on this site have to say about it. A lot of it is very true. In the end, if she doesn't want to be with you, you are better off moving on now. If she does, she's more likely to realize it when you aren't hanging around like a sad, neglected little puppy waiting for her to come back.

 

Edit: Stop looking at this as your "one shot" and realize that it may not happen or it may be a process. Don't put all your hopes in this one conversation.