JaneInVegas Posted July 2, 2007 Share Posted July 2, 2007 I've posted before about my frustrations with guys I've met on eHarmony. Well, now I've met one that has me really confused ... but maybe I'm out of touch with dating protocol. Christopher and I met for brunch at the Golden Nugget downtown yesterday morning. It was delightful. He was upbeat and talkative, and was really into me. He invited me to his place on the 4th of July, he said he has a really good view of the fireworks on the strip from his balcony. I accepted, and was happy we were hitting it off. He told me he was looking forward to getting to know me better, and told me very frankly he's tired of being alone and not having someone to talk to much of the time. I feel exactly the same way. He walked me to my car, and gave me a nice big hug, asked me very romantically for a kiss, and then strode away with a huge grin on his face. He waved and said, "I'll call you later!" I smiled and laughed and said, "You'd better!" He smiled and said, "Oh you better believe I will!" I haven't heard from him since. He closed our match on eHarmony. Is this considered to be normal dating protocol? Am I totally out of the dating scene? I thought after the first date guys called to at least say hi and to let you know they are still interested. This silence is puzzling to me after the totally positive way we interacted with each other. I really like Christopher a lot, and I'm tired of being alone. But I don't want to start chasing him, either. Link to post Share on other sites
Steveto Posted July 2, 2007 Share Posted July 2, 2007 Hey Jane...That must have been last year because it's not July 4th yet 8-) Anyway, yeah, it sucks....read this post.you will understand: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t123495/ You're definitely not the only one! For some reason..there are people out there that don't want to give you an explanation...bah! Just when it sounds so promising..you get squat. I'll never understand it myself..being alone has its ups and downs...It'll happen...just he's not the guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted July 2, 2007 Share Posted July 2, 2007 I haven't heard from him since. He closed our match on eHarmony. If he closed out his match on Eharmony then there is your cue.. It sounds to me that he isn't interested in you and just is a jerk.. But.. Being that he has made plans with you for the 4th of July I would use that as a reason to call him and tell him you are getting your plans ready fro the 4th and want to know when he is going to pick you up.. you should get your answer then.. Link to post Share on other sites
JulieJ Posted July 2, 2007 Share Posted July 2, 2007 But.. Being that he has made plans with you for the 4th of July I would use that as a reason to call him and tell him you are getting your plans ready fro the 4th and want to know when he is going to pick you up.. you should get your answer then.. I agree, use the plans for the 4th as an excuse to call and see what's up. If he doesn't call you back or give you a good answer, then just chalk it up to him being a jerk who leads women on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JaneInVegas Posted July 2, 2007 Author Share Posted July 2, 2007 Hey Jane...That must have been last year because it's not July 4th yet 8-) Anyway, yeah, it sucks....read this post.you will understand: Thanks for the link Steve, it's interesting to see how many people have been flaked out on! It wasn't last year, he invited me to his place this coming Wednesday. Link to post Share on other sites
JeanQueen Posted July 3, 2007 Share Posted July 3, 2007 I know it's no consolation, but just be happy he didn't pull thing crap on you after 4 months of near perfection. Obviously you read my story so I totally know how it feels. Keep searching for the good one sister! Link to post Share on other sites
Author JaneInVegas Posted July 3, 2007 Author Share Posted July 3, 2007 Okay, so I called him today expecting to leave him a voicemail, which I did. I was friendly and upbeat, asked him what the plan was for Wednesday. I really didn't expect a response from him, but he left a voicemail for me at a time when he knew I wouldn't be able to answer my phone. So his story is that while we were at brunch on Saturday morning, he picked up a bug from being around 'all those California people' and he's felt miserable ever since. He went into a detailed, labored account of his ailments, including light headedness, dizziness, etc ... and said he was going to have to cancel our date on Wednesday because, 'I'm sure it's not going to be gone by then'. He went on to say he really likes me a lot and is sure we're going to have a 'wonderful relationship.' I'm thinking he probably has a date with someone else, but, who knows. At any rate, I'm not calling him again. As much as I hate to do it, I'm writing him off. I refuse to be treated in such an off-handed way. Thanks for all your input you guys!! Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted July 3, 2007 Share Posted July 3, 2007 What a frucken Assclown.. Coward..You gave him a proper out and he chose to lie Tells you that he is sure you are going to have a wonderful relationship.. "Well guess what jerk .. So far it sucks " Next.. this guy is a piece of work Link to post Share on other sites
riobikini Posted July 3, 2007 Share Posted July 3, 2007 re: Jane: " I'm thinking he probably has a date with someone else.." I think you may be right. Sorry you had this kind of experience. Par for dating sites, though. And I agree with Art_Critic: this guy is a frucking AssClown! -Rio Link to post Share on other sites
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