bobby_d_86 Posted July 2, 2007 Share Posted July 2, 2007 Hello, I'd love to have some people's opinion on my current situation with my ex-girlfriend... Background: - I am a couple of years older than her, but we're both in our early 20s. - We knew each other for about 1 yr before dating. Dating History: - We started dating for a short period of time but decided to stop after she wasn't sure about things; I was still keen to keep dating but understood how she felt and was cool with calling it quits - We kept in contact, chatting a few times a week - even hung out with friends on a couple of occasions - Then a month later she indicated to me that she'd like to try going out again. So we went out a few times and continued dating for several months. - After a few months of dating we had some long discussion about our relationship... She didn't want to keep going out but also didn't want to break up - she was very unsure about things. I felt like breaking up was going to happen sooner or later so I took the first step and ended things. Personally, I would have like to work through the issues as I still quite liked her but didn't see the point unless she was 'keen' to try Post Break-up: - The first couple of weeks we has some form of communication almost daily, generally the conversation wasn’t hostile... And we just talk about what's been happening in each others lives; it still possessed that emotional connection we had while going out. - About 2 or 3 weeks after breaking up I asked her how she felt about things and I told her what I was thinking: I’d like to give it another go if she was interested… Her response was something along the lines of “I think we made the right decision” - Almost 2 months on we still talk several times a week and the intensity of the conversations is still there between us – 90% of the time she started the contact between us My thoughts, questions and comments: - Sometimes I find this constant communication hard/confusing… What’s the point if we’re not going out and we’re not going to go out? Does it mean she still has feelings and there is a chance? - I feel a little hurt by some of things she said when we broke up… she wasn't totally honest when we broke up or when we went out – I’m not totally sure but I’ve never told her that I felt hurt - Despite feeling hurt I’d still like to give it another go… I feel like I’ve matured a lot in the last few months… - Should I say anything to her? Like either are there still feeling there? And if not, you stop contacting me? Or should I keep quite and let time play its course? So any thoughts, comments or recommendation on the situation would be much appreciated. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
sunshinegirl Posted July 2, 2007 Share Posted July 2, 2007 - About 2 or 3 weeks after breaking up I asked her how she felt about things and I told her what I was thinking: I’d like to give it another go if she was interested… Her response was something along the lines of “I think we made the right decision” Sadly, I think there's your answer. Her actions say that she just wants to be friends. If you can't handle that, then you should cut contact so you can move on. I'm sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
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