yongyong Posted July 3, 2007 Share Posted July 3, 2007 So I want to know this girl that I see in starbucks sometimes. I can throw some silly conversation but I don't think I can ask her phone number straight. If I get rejected, I have to avoid going there(my favorite place to study ) So I was thinking what if I ask her let me use the phone and call myself (phone is in quite mode,placed far away) and then I check her number and call her later to surprise her! ('hey you gave me your number last night, so what's up ' ) Some guys actually hold both phones together and show her that he is calling himself while ignoring if she says something like 'hey what are you doing'. He then say 'thanks for your phone number, I will call you later' and leave. I prefer 1st one (I say creepy method:rolleyes:) Anyway, I don't care about what guys say How would you respond to this kind of approach? Does it just depend on how sexy I am? Link to post Share on other sites
Rain4 Posted July 3, 2007 Share Posted July 3, 2007 Yong, What ever you do, don't try option #2. It would be far better to just try talking to her. Speaking from personal experience, I'd be a little weirded-out if a guy borrowed my phone, stole my number, and promised/threatened to call me later. (My next phone call would be to my girlfriends asking them if I should call the police... after all, I would have your cellphone number.) The whole senario is just a bit too weird to go over well. If you've spoken to this woman before, then it probably wouldn't hurt to try a bit of flirty conversation and see whether you get a green or red light. At least that way, she'll just think you're interested in her - and not the next "Starbuck's Stalker". ... and no, in my oppinion, being completely and utterly hot doesn't make it okay to come off like a mad-mad stealing a girl's cellphone number. There are so many other ways of attempting to open the lines of communication. At least if you're going to borrow her phone to get her number, do it the sneaky way. You can confess your smoldering affection when you call, and it won't be nearly as traumatizing. Of course, she may never let another stranger use her phone,... but I guess that's the next guy's problem. ~Rain~ Link to post Share on other sites
underpants Posted July 3, 2007 Share Posted July 3, 2007 Why don't you buy her a cup of coffee, offer it to her with your phone number/card, and tell her that you have noticed her and would love the opportunity to take her out sometime? If she calls you great, if she asks you to join her for a quick convo, great. If she is not available, or doesn't call you, then you know. No harm no foul. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted July 3, 2007 Share Posted July 3, 2007 generally I've found its a good idea to have a woman's permission first before calling her....but whatever, maybe the kids are more casual these days. Link to post Share on other sites
Fanny Posted July 3, 2007 Share Posted July 3, 2007 I have a guy friend that's very adept at picking up women and he often hands them his card and says "You are beautiful. Please, please call me. I would love to take you out for lunch." He claims that lack of fear is his greatest weapon. Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted July 3, 2007 Share Posted July 3, 2007 I have a guy friend that's very adept at picking up women and he often hands them his card and says "You are beautiful. Please, please call me. I would love to take you out for lunch." He claims that lack of fear is his greatest weapon. I've had guys do that before, once a guy also made sure to tell me he was a rocket scientist, it was true but still sort of tacky Link to post Share on other sites
Steveto Posted July 3, 2007 Share Posted July 3, 2007 Isn't that whole business card thing kinda corny? I always thought it was:confused:..or putting your phone number down on paper and giving it to the girl. Does that work with women? There was one time as a joke...we wrote my friends name on 100 slips of paper and for that night...all the guys called themselves "Mike" and started handing out my friend "Mike"'s phone number to every girl we met at the bar. I would buy her drink, but make sure you are behind or in front of her in the line and just say (after she orders), "Don't worry, I got it this time".."I see you hear often enough, so I figure if there is one time to be nice, it's now..you just happened to be in the right place at the right time."... Hopefully she will say "Thank you"...there..you broke the ice...now it would be up to you to take it from there. You need to exude confidence..don't be all greasy and sketchy around her...just talk... Sometimes it is not that easy...there are a few people that will refuse everything because they don't like the feeling of being indebted to anyone, so don't push it..if she is adamant that you not pay..back off and just say "maybe another time" or "ok, next time you buy me a drink"...depending on the situation, you might need to be quick on your feet and improvise. Link to post Share on other sites
JulieJ Posted July 3, 2007 Share Posted July 3, 2007 Why don't you buy her a cup of coffee, offer it to her with your phone number/card, and tell her that you have noticed her and would love the opportunity to take her out sometime? If she calls you great, if she asks you to join her for a quick convo, great. If she is not available, or doesn't call you, then you know. No harm no foul. I think this is a great idea. Definitely do not call yourself from her cell phone, both option one and two are creepy. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted July 3, 2007 Share Posted July 3, 2007 Please, no creepiness. Why not chat her up for awhile then after a few sessions of this, if all goes well, some good ol' fashioned, face-to-face asking her out? Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted July 3, 2007 Share Posted July 3, 2007 Anyway, I don't care about what guys say Good luck then.. Personally I would use number 2.. Go with the creepy stalker way.. that will always work 10 out of 10 times What ever happened to the old fashioned way of speaking with her.. chatting with her and asking her for her number or giving yours to her ? Link to post Share on other sites
Rain4 Posted July 3, 2007 Share Posted July 3, 2007 I would buy her drink, but make sure you are behind or in front of her in the line and just say (after she orders), "Don't worry, I got it this time".."I see you hear often enough, so I figure if there is one time to be nice, it's now..you just happened to be in the right place at the right time."... Hopefully she will say "Thank you"...there..you broke the ice...now it would be up to you to take it from there. You need to exude confidence..don't be all greasy and sketchy around her...just talk... **stary-eyed swoon** If a guy tried that with me, I'd take his number, his card, the coffee, and the first date spot he offered. After all, it's easy to offer a drink and a number while you're half drunk in a club... but a guy has to want a girl pretty bad to try a move like that in the middle of Starbucks. Steveto's right. It's hard for a woman not to be impressed by a man with moxie. Link to post Share on other sites
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